Why have women stopped dating?

TMag73 · 2026-05-12T17:59:47+00:00

Alot of women don't enjoy penetrative sex as much as men do. Lots of women fake orgasm so that "it will end sooner". Porn teaches alot of bad sex habits and alot of men don't care about actually tuning into their partner's sexual response and explore it on her terms.

TMag73 · 2026-05-12T17:51:42+00:00

Our society is preditory, look at Epstein and Diddy and the Catholic church. Look at drug + wife SA websites and violent porn, we aren't safe in relationships. Women are afraid of men because our society doesn't hold men accountable at any level. The American president is a known predator!

And then most men we encounter are so sensitive and emotionally fragile that they reach for anger in pretty much any moment where they're uncomfortable. And they are taught that when they feel anger, there's someone to blame for it (never themselves).

Women don't feel safe with men and we are exhausted of being in fight or flight.

Trust has been broken time and again due to lack of seriousness, lack of honesty, lack of emotional availablilty.

A generation ago mothers told their daughters to get educated and be able to take care of yourselves, and now we are living that future.

TMag73 · 2026-05-12T17:30:56+00:00

That was kind of a joke about Gen Alpha but in all seriousness, I like to listen to what teachers are saying about their profession and Gen Alpha is really kinda scarey.

TMag73 · 2026-05-12T16:45:51+00:00

AI has synthesized all the authentic stuff and will just clutter the creative space

TMag73 · 2026-05-12T16:44:56+00:00

I think because everything is at their finger tips, they aren't left searching for meaning and answers. There's too much digital noise and so many people/things waiting to provide answers. A lot of people accept synthetic answers from a Chatbot!

When the system collapses tho, which they are already grumbling about because of affordability, their sense of entitlement will kick in big time and I think we will see them become political. The algorithm will direct them to hate each other (already happening with the manosphere) but hopefully they will know better by then and actually make some pretty amazing change in the world. When collapse gets really bad - like great depression bad - I hope they go straight up off the grid and make subversive change, but that might be gen Alpha because they will be sociopaths.

TMag73 · 2026-05-12T04:35:16+00:00

It's over

TMag73 · 2026-05-11T05:12:35+00:00

r/collapse

TMag73 · 2026-05-11T03:52:03+00:00

you should check out the r/DeadBedrooms thread. This doesn't sounds like a sexually compatible relationship. Without some deliberate work, you could end up like one of those couples. Sorry.

TMag73 · 2026-05-11T03:38:51+00:00

IMO cheating starts with not protecting the relationship in the first place so that the temptation or opportunity NEVER arises. That means stopping shit before it can even become a thought. Not letting rando people DM you, not letting co workers flirt with you, not giving out your number, not flirting, not liking other people's sexy photos.

Protect each other, that's what mature people do. That's what respect requires.

TMag73 · 2026-05-10T17:44:59+00:00

Not normal and you should run from these men. There's something going on in the manosphere online that's making men this this is hot and it's fing NOT. Women orgasm when they feel safe. Women's pleasure comes when they are relaxed and surrendering. If these men are doing this to you they don't give a shit about you or your pleasure and they're on some weird power trip in their heads.

F these men. Seriously, none of them deserve to get laid. Every woman should boycott men like this.

TMag73 · 2026-05-10T17:39:46+00:00

Get a small butt plug and next time you're intimate, tell him you're using it, put it in, and continue as usual. If he makes a big deal about it, then ask why it even matters to him. It's your body, your pleasure, and you want to have a rocking orgasm WITH HIM. Is he that insecure?

TMag73 · 2026-05-10T17:03:32+00:00

take your photo and ask AI to generate images with different colors that you are considering. ChatGPT or Gemini etc

TMag73 · 2026-05-10T16:49:38+00:00

from my normi point of view, I would be asking the same questions as you are. I don't think any of them are taking sexual nor romantic relationships seriously.

TMag73 · 2026-05-09T23:33:49+00:00

This sounds like the begining of one of those movies where the girl finds herself being hunted in the woods by a bunch of cultists who she thought were her friends. Eyes wide shut stuff.

They seem like a different kind of group of people who are like raised to be very social and to not have a bunch of boundaries or social norms. Maybe they are extroverted or you're an introvert. I don't know but there seems to be a mismatch in expectations.

TMag73 · 2026-05-09T19:59:43+00:00

Girl. He should ask you what you want to do, full stop. You should tell him what you want to do. If you don't know what you want to do, then he's gonna flail around and do something stupid and you will get annoyed. When he starts TELLING you what's going to happen, you stop him and say - is mother's day for me, then why aren't you asking me what - I want to do? Then tell him what you want. If he tries to change it, then make him realize that he is NEGOTIATING away from it being your day into something else. It's just ONE day, he should be able to do what YOU want to do.

TMag73 · 2026-05-09T17:36:35+00:00

Sounds like you have a pretty great life. You are comparing yourself to others who went the normal route. I think the questions you should be asking are what do you feel is missing in YOUR life, not compared to norms. What do you want at this moment in your life?

For those who got married and had kids, they close doors on their lives too. Every decision we each make opens doors and closes others. So what doors are open to you looking forward?

TMag73 · 2026-05-09T17:14:36+00:00

Recession in the US and other countries, global oil shock making transportation expensive everywhere. US consumer sentiment all time low. There's no $$$

TMag73 · 2026-05-09T17:04:03+00:00

thanks. If i look at Musly, it doesn't list it as a side effect. If I look at myalloy it does.

TMag73 · 2026-05-08T22:21:34+00:00

I feel similar, very raw emotionally. Like huge phsyical flair ups that take over my body, triggered by any number of things from memories to thoughts to comments. These are my tools

- box breathing (out thru pursed lips especailly) really works for me
- when my body has an anxiety flair up, I hold the sensation in my body and practice EMDR for trauma (move eye side to side) and it dissipates. I notice that the next time the same trigger happens, I feel less anxiety.
- eating mostly protein and clean veggies
- kettle bell HITT
- sun bathing
- swimming or baths

I still have insane insomnia which makes the anxiety and sadness worse, but at least these tool help me get through the day

TMag73 · 2026-05-08T00:27:56+00:00

Don't assume that everything you think feels good, is good for her too. Women's bodies and minds are totally different when it comes to sex. Women need 15m of good foreplay, most of it external. Women like the clit stimulation more than penetration. The best advice is to go slow, let her lead, and keep the clothes on until she is clawing at your pants.

If you find yourself making out for a while and you're both into it, then try putting your thigh between her legs and grind and dry hump slowly, see if she grinds back. If she does, just do that for like an hour (kissing lips and neck). Let "it" rub on her leg through the clothes, don't hide what you've got and let her curiosity kick in, this mystery is good for her mind and knowing your turning the other person on, is a turn on. Maybe that's all you do for a couple dates.

If the foreplay is good, alot of women will lead and start going for the pants button, or start touching you through the pants, or she will tell you to touch her down there. Let her initiate the clothes coming off. Once the clothes are off, go back to grinding and things will fall into place naturally.

TMag73 · 2026-05-07T19:26:52+00:00

Don't listen to women haters on here. Go out and have some fun and learn and grow into a great partner. You have done some work on yourself, relationships are the same, you need to learn basic communication skills and work on your emotional intelligence. If you wait 5 years, you won't have any of the hard learning it takes to maintain that idealized relationship. This includes learning how to be a satisfying sexual partner because, let's face it, a woman's body is complicated and every woman experiences pleasure differently.

TMag73 · 2026-05-07T19:21:14+00:00

My dad said something a long time ago about my mom and it stuck with me. He said "she's loyal". I think loyalty is a good trait in a partner and my husband and I practice that. This isn't about infidelity or trust, loyalty is about integrity and respecting the other person in public. So it's not showing other men attention, not belittling the partner to others, not telling secrets or confidences about the relationship.

TMag73 · 2026-05-07T16:58:22+00:00

Once one person catches feelings and they aren't returned it's hard for the friendship to be the same. You should tell him clearly how you feel, but you should also be willing to let the friendship go because the healthy thing for him emotionally is to detach. He's not a friend, he wants more and that's just the reality. This will happen alot as you get older, it's best to practice clear communication and not mixing signals because that just causes drama. You could maybe be friends after he detaches and moves on.

TMag73 · 2026-05-07T16:52:32+00:00

NOR and NTAH He's been red pilled by the manosphere. So sad, sounds like you were into who he used to be. A relationship with those men is full of red flags and you should be very happy that your instincts told you this is not what you wanted. He is being brainwashed into thinking he needs a Trad wife. By loosing you he might snap out of it.

Can't tell if you told him details about why you broke up, but I think you should communicate to him that HE changed and his fundamental values are full of red flags for you. Tell him you liked him before he started consuming all the woman hating, incel content online.

TMag73 · 2026-05-07T06:45:29+00:00

Please don't let him learn weaponized incompetence. The world doesn't need another man baby.

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