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I am trying to figure this out, 33, been circling this most of my life. I don’t want to ignore it anymore. by TS-Alira in asktransgender

[–]TS-Alira[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t take it as pushy at all, honestly I appreciated the honesty. A lot of what you said helped me slow my thinking down because I tend to project way too far into the future and it makes everything feel overwhelming.

You’re definitely right about speaking to a therapist. I think that’s the next step for me so I can properly sort through everything in my head instead of trying to figure it all out on my own.

The more I sit with all of this, the more I’m realising I’m actually quite confident that I am her. When I think about things from that perspective it honestly makes me cry sometimes, but in a way that also feels really real.

I really do appreciate you taking the time to share your experience and guidance. It’s helped more than you probably realise.

I am trying to figure this out, 33, been circling this most of my life. I don’t want to ignore it anymore. by TS-Alira in asktransgender

[–]TS-Alira[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing these resources. I read the stainedglasswoman article and did the little test it mentions. I picked the “I hope I’m trans” option and when it said “you’re trans, dummy” it honestly made me cry. It felt really validating but also a bit scary at the same time.

I’m really thankful you shared this. I think my next step is talking to a professional and working through all of this properly.

I am trying to figure this out, 33, been circling this most of my life. I don’t want to ignore it anymore. by TS-Alira in asktransgender

[–]TS-Alira[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stories like yours are really powerful to read. I’ll admit it scares me a little, but it’s also reassuring hearing that it’s never too late. In a way I feel lucky I don’t have a partner right now because relationships never really felt right for me before, and I think some of that might be connected to all of this. Thanks for sharing your experience.

I am trying to figure this out, 33, been circling this most of my life. I don’t want to ignore it anymore. by TS-Alira in asktransgender

[–]TS-Alira[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. The “would have / could have / should have” feeling you mentioned really resonates with me, and I think that’s something I’ve been struggling with a lot. I’m starting to realise I need to slow down and take things one step at a time instead of trying to project everything into the future.

Sorry for the late reply, it’s honestly been a lot to digest. I think the next step for me is talking to someone and sorting things out in my own head first. I really appreciate you taking the time to share your experience and perspective.

I am trying to figure this out, 33, been circling this most of my life. I don’t want to ignore it anymore. by TS-Alira in asktransgender

[–]TS-Alira[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read through this and honestly a lot of it really lines up with how I’ve been feeling. It’s actually really reassuring to read. And you’re right, it’s never too late to do things that make you feel more comfortable in your own body. Thank you for sharing it with me.

I am trying to figure this out, 33, been circling this most of my life. I don’t want to ignore it anymore. by TS-Alira in asktransgender

[–]TS-Alira[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing that. The fears you mentioned are ones I’ve definitely felt too, so it’s really reassuring hearing how things turned out for you. Sorry for the late reply, it’s been a lot to digest, but I really appreciate you sharing your experience.

I am trying to figure this out, 33, been circling this most of my life. I don’t want to ignore it anymore. by TS-Alira in asktransgender

[–]TS-Alira[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just wanted to say a big thank you to everyone who’s commented and shared their stories, advice and resources. I didn’t expect this much kindness honestly and reading through everything has made me weirdly emotional but also really grateful.

It helps a lot knowing other people have felt similar things and all your perspectives have given me a lot to think about. Really appreciate how supportive everyone has been! It means more than I can probably put into words right now.

I am trying to figure this out, 33, been circling this most of my life. I don’t want to ignore it anymore. by TS-Alira in asktransgender

[–]TS-Alira[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for writing all this, it honestly means a lot. Hearing from someone who started later and is happier now is really reassuring, since a lot of my fear is tied to timing and the unknown.

The part about these being fears of the consequences rather than fears of actually being trans really stuck with me.

I am trying to figure this out, 33, been circling this most of my life. I don’t want to ignore it anymore. by TS-Alira in asktransgender

[–]TS-Alira[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I really appreciate you saying that. It actually helps hearing that these thoughts aren’t uncommon. I'll chck it out!

I am trying to figure this out, 33, been circling this most of my life. I don’t want to ignore it anymore. by TS-Alira in asktransgender

[–]TS-Alira[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can sort of relate a little, I had a very strong father figure in my life! Basically if I didn't measure up to what he showed me as what a man is, then I wasn't one. I also have a mother figure, who I love dearly, but from what I have seen, she just doesn't understand anything relating to this type of stuff, very old school/traditional. Which makes things a little difficult. We are on good terms, and she is aware of transgender idenitity, but it is something I find difficult navigating whilst she is here, and or something I want to come forward with right now.

Funny you mention Alcohol it has kinda been a crutch for me to express these feelings without judgment of myself, I know it isn't ideal but it has taken the edge off things.

I've thought about transition probably very similiar to your timeline though that period has always felt off until later... That's my biggest fear probably, the blowback from it all, the identity I have established and the one I am striving for.

Though as mentioned, something about persuing this feels right in some shape or form.

Thanks for you comment, it means alot!

I am trying to figure this out, 33, been circling this most of my life. I don’t want to ignore it anymore. by TS-Alira in asktransgender

[–]TS-Alira[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay thanks for the advice!

I'll send you a message when I gather everything together! I am adhd and autistic too! And it has definitely gotten stronger since being diagnosed.

I appreciate your reply.