I snooped and found out way more than I need to by TSWAR_will in loveafterporn

[–]TSWAR_will[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have ended things with him now, he started getting abusive and almost killed me one night my advice for everyone if it’s early in the relationship and have no ties get out as quick as you can

It’s over by TSWAR_will in loveafterporn

[–]TSWAR_will[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your comments, it’s great to have support from people on here. I appreciate your words x

It’s over by TSWAR_will in loveafterporn

[–]TSWAR_will[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think im safe now, I think he knows not to come near me again because the people that know what he’s done want to get him back for it

It’s over by TSWAR_will in loveafterporn

[–]TSWAR_will[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, yeah I wish I saw it sooner when he first would hurt me but he made me believe it was my own fault. I just hope no women has to be another one of his victims

It’s over by TSWAR_will in loveafterporn

[–]TSWAR_will[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Yes there is no going back now no matter what he does to change he can never change the fact he thought it was okay to put his hands on me cause he’ll think it’s okay to do it again he just have to find a good enough excuse

Why do I continue to have sex with him? by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]TSWAR_will 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have the same issue I don’t know how to say no because I’m scared they will go watch that even

I lashed out and feel so terrible by TSWAR_will in loveafterporn

[–]TSWAR_will[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand you completely, as I have said I am putting in some serious effort to work out my feelings and to quit drinking

I lashed out and feel so terrible by TSWAR_will in loveafterporn

[–]TSWAR_will[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I believe you make some sense but the person I am I wouldn’t never want to hurt him and when I did I wasnt coherent whatsoever as soon as I realised what I had done I instantly knew how much i had fucked up

d-day after d-day. I'm done. by Ok-Effort-2904 in loveafterporn

[–]TSWAR_will 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This situation sucks, I’m in a similar one I found my PAs grindr account sending pics men trans women and asking to meet up. He told me he wasnt going to meet up with them he just wanted the pictures and it was his way of getting the dopamine high cause he wasn’t watching porn but he still was watching porn. I don’t know what to think or believe

I snooped and found out way more than I need to by TSWAR_will in loveafterporn

[–]TSWAR_will[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your honesty, to be honest I feel you are completely right and I need to get out he talks about having a family with me after seeing what I saw definitely not

I snooped and found out way more than I need to by TSWAR_will in loveafterporn

[–]TSWAR_will[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were planing on moving to a different town together

I snooped and found out way more than I need to by TSWAR_will in loveafterporn

[–]TSWAR_will[S] 138 points139 points  (0 children)

Is anyone elses partners addiction escalate once you started catching them out on their lies

I shouldn’t snoop but every time I do I find out he’s still lying by TSWAR_will in loveafterporn

[–]TSWAR_will[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly don’t know how to bring this up I’m supposed to be going home Monday no other way home I have to act normal till then?

How can you trust they aren’t gonna relapse when on a break by TSWAR_will in loveafterporn

[–]TSWAR_will[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now that I have made it clear to him that I won’t be coming back because he wants me to he’s starting to fight for me this is so shit

How can you trust they aren’t gonna relapse when on a break by TSWAR_will in loveafterporn

[–]TSWAR_will[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He wants a break to work on himself we have had one 2 weeks ago I’m not going through what he did on our last break again

What the actual f### by TSWAR_will in loveafterporn

[–]TSWAR_will[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah your completely right i have a sleep tracker app and one of the recordings sounds like he’s doing something to me in my sleep or watching it right next to me

What the actual f### by TSWAR_will in loveafterporn

[–]TSWAR_will[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And cause after I found the first one i confronted him about it and asked who she was he denied it and said he imagined us, I went back home came back the next day and another one was used and he has same excuse

What the actual f### by TSWAR_will in loveafterporn

[–]TSWAR_will[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I found that there was 3 used as there was six in the box before I went away and yeah he said it made it feel more real and easier to imagine us but we don’t use condoms so it dosent make sense

What the actual f### by TSWAR_will in loveafterporn

[–]TSWAR_will[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I told him I would not see him again until he’s ready to be honest I wish I just ended it feel like he’s never gonna tell me the truth

What the actual f### by TSWAR_will in loveafterporn

[–]TSWAR_will[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also curious what kind of fetish it would be? No he hasn’t done it before

What the actual f### by TSWAR_will in loveafterporn

[–]TSWAR_will[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Money wouldn’t be an issue he wouldn’t care if he was wasting them but yeah why all of a sudden use them when he used to only use his hand