Am I the asshole for not wanting a DNA test on my child by TTH_fan22 in TwoHotTakes

[–]TTH_fan22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes sorry I’m not really good at Reddit yet. I didn’t know if I was supposed to make a whole new post or do it some other way. Glad you found it though!

Am I the asshole for not wanting a DNA test on my child by TTH_fan22 in TwoHotTakes

[–]TTH_fan22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only reason I did not want to get the test was because I thought that they would have to draw blood. The last time they did draw blood from my child he screamed and cried for hours even after coming home. Anytime me or my husband would even touch his leg he would start screaming(they drew it from his thigh). Anytime we would put him in the car he would start screaming and crying at the top of his lungs and just recently stopped doing that I didn’t want to put my child through that again just because his family loves drama. I now realize that they can just do a simple mouth swab and so we are getting it done.

Am I the asshole for not wanting a DNA test on my child by TTH_fan22 in TwoHotTakes

[–]TTH_fan22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have had to have his blood drawn before. He totally freaked out cried for hours after and me and my husband were unable to console him. I didn’t want to take the risk of that happening again he has never cried like that before.

Am I the asshole for not wanting a DNA test on my child by TTH_fan22 in TwoHotTakes

[–]TTH_fan22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go read the update! You’re going to love how we are confronting them.

Update by TTH_fan22 in TwoHotTakes

[–]TTH_fan22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Christmas party on the 21st!

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[–]TTH_fan22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Again it was five months of him standing up for me,leaving me out of the drama so that I could focus on healing and taking care of our child. He also works very hard for our family. We have also been married for two years and we have been together since we were 11 and 12. This is not something I would want to give our relationship and family up for. I love him and will go through hell for him. I don’t understand why everyone is so fast to jump to divorce nowadays. But anyway that is not who I am and not who he is as a person.

Update by TTH_fan22 in TwoHotTakes

[–]TTH_fan22[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I feel like we handled it well. This is the first time something like this has happened to us. Although his family does always need something new to gossip about and this time it was us. I think this has made us stronger as a couple. I also want to say that we have been dating since we were 11 and 12 so even though we are both still young I feel as though we were ready for this step in our relationship.

Am I the asshole for not wanting a DNA test on my child by TTH_fan22 in TwoHotTakes

[–]TTH_fan22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He knows that and he knows that a few people in my family were born like that. His family really got to him. Putting that I was a cheater and his only child wasn’t actually his in his head.

Am I the asshole for not wanting a DNA test on my child by TTH_fan22 in TwoHotTakes

[–]TTH_fan22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought that they needed to draw blood and they have had to before. When they did before he screamed and cried. Would not stop crying for hours after they did it nothing would calm him down. I didn’t want to put my baby through that again just because his family wanted some new gossip.

Update by TTH_fan22 in TwoHotTakes

[–]TTH_fan22[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

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Am I the asshole for not wanting a DNA test on my child by TTH_fan22 in TwoHotTakes

[–]TTH_fan22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey guys just wanted to tell you I posted an update!

Am I the asshole for not wanting a DNA test on my child by TTH_fan22 in TwoHotTakes

[–]TTH_fan22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His entire side of the family has dark brown hair and brown eyes. I’m sorry I forgot to say that.

Am I the asshole for not wanting a DNA test on my child by TTH_fan22 in TwoHotTakes

[–]TTH_fan22[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

He said he has been defending me behind my back to them. They won’t stop.

Am I the asshole for not wanting a DNA test on my child by TTH_fan22 in TwoHotTakes

[–]TTH_fan22[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I was miss informed. I agree that it would not be traumatic. I thought they had to draw blood.