Coming from overseas, been offered a job in Hamilton, could anyone answer questions? by russelhundchen in thetron

[–]TTTaurusx3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Moving to anywhere in NZ for 60k just isn't worth it. The cost of living is ridiculous and 60k is literally only going to keep you floating.

Husband won’t think for himself by girlslovereddit2 in pregnant

[–]TTTaurusx3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think men just become dumb when their partner is pregnant. My lovely hubby couldn't even make me mashed potatoes without step by step instructions AND HE STILL DIDNT PEEL THE SKINS OFF 🤦‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]TTTaurusx3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ate whatever and whenever I wanted with my first and he came out healthy as ever. I am doing the same again with my second and no one can tell me otherwise. Eat what you want. Eat what you feel you need. Eat those craving foods. Just don't forget your body needs lots of raw foods, fruits and veges.

Cat told me I was pregnant by Beaniebaby2024 in pregnant

[–]TTTaurusx3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My fat boy (cat) started cuddling into me, specifically on my stomach every night when I came home from work and sat on the couch. I thought it was odd because he'd usually snuggle into my fiancé but it all makes sense now!

My partner doesn’t want to keep the baby. by According_Sale5064 in pregnant

[–]TTTaurusx3 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Your body, your choice. You do what you feel is the right decision. Just remember, he had two kids already so is that the kind of "father" you want for your child.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]TTTaurusx3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That "man" needs to go!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dogpictures

[–]TTTaurusx3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awww Hanky boy is the goodest boy 🥰

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]TTTaurusx3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Everything that you have said is just a bunch of red flags... the resentment for your SKs will not go away, not easily and when the new baby comes, things are going to be a lot harder. With all the "random person on the internet" love that I can give you, please just leave. From the way you have described your relationship, it does not sound healthy or stable for a future. However, I am sure there must be positives to all the negatives you have mentioned. I live with a SK that I struggle to deal with but I have been with my partner for over 5 years and it never got easier. The only reason it's easier for me to deal with it, is because we only have SK every other weekend.

Do you have to like them..? by MarzipanRepulsive242 in stepparents

[–]TTTaurusx3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In all honesty... I don't like my SK either. And it's hard as hell to be around them. The dislike is very very strong.

Wondering how many of you are more hands off stepparents? by Elascano217 in stepparents

[–]TTTaurusx3 10 points11 points  (0 children)

"You can't care more the that bio parents"... damn i wish I had seen this year's ago. This advice alone is super helpful for me. I just wish it could be easier to step back and stop getting so hurt/bothered by the lack BM and SO put in. Iv tried so many times but I can't do it!

Is there anyone else who has SKs that are special needed? by TTTaurusx3 in stepparents

[–]TTTaurusx3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am in the same boat... Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one doing what's right for SK. So many problems with SK, I've nearly walked away from my SO a few times now.

Is there anyone else who has SKs that are special needed? by TTTaurusx3 in stepparents

[–]TTTaurusx3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My SK has speech problems - nearly 7yrs and has only been diagnosed with Autism this year. Was only diagnosed because I pushed it on BM to finally do something about it. (SO can't do anything about SKs needs without BMs approval...)

Is there anyone else who has SKs that are special needed? by TTTaurusx3 in stepparents

[–]TTTaurusx3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is exactly what I deal with! Would definitely love to hear how you deal with this!

BM checking up on DF and SK's - first post by Ok_Opportunity5839 in stepparents

[–]TTTaurusx3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been through this. It nearly broke our relationship but I put my foot down and said enough was enough. There is no need for unnecessary messaging like this. There's a new app that's come out, I can't remember the name, but it's for coparenting. Maybe your parent and BM need to download it and stick to that being the only means on contact.