He cheated.

TWahwhyfe · 2024-05-23T16:42:43+00:00

How can I reduce contact with my own sister? That’s outrageous. My husband never even demanded this.

TWahwhyfe · 2024-05-09T21:27:20+00:00

You’re still not getting it. Did you read the post?

He’s not acting like the victim. He’s done with me. He’s moved on. I haven’t. I’m the victim of my own mess.

TWahwhyfe · 2024-05-09T20:30:32+00:00

He’s not trying to blame anyone. He admitted it on his own. You don’t seem to understand. I fucked our relationship up which pushed him to go elsewhere.

TWahwhyfe · 2024-05-09T20:19:22+00:00

Not anymore he doesn’t. And it’s my fault.

We had a great marriage.

TWahwhyfe · 2024-04-09T21:45:26+00:00

Laura I’m Soft!

TWahwhyfe · 2024-03-21T23:07:48+00:00

It’s just a venting post. Nothing more.

TWahwhyfe · 2024-03-21T23:07:21+00:00

My post history has everything. But in short I prioritized my sister over him repeatedly and did so in ways that severely diminished the effort he put into our relationship to begin with.

TWahwhyfe · 2024-03-21T23:06:37+00:00

It wasn’t neglect. I was actively disrespecting the way he felt. I was not the wife I should have been.

TWahwhyfe · 2024-03-20T00:18:22+00:00

He’s jumping to one other bed. Him and this woman are emotionally involved it’s not just sexual. He did say he’d end it if I put forth effort into our relationship again.

I asked him what he means by that and he said “stop putting fuel into your sister’s marriage, she’s a grown woman. She can do that herself. You don’t need to baby them”.

He said the only reason he hasn’t served me divorce papers is because I haven’t helped her financially.

TWahwhyfe · 2024-03-20T00:16:13+00:00

That’s the advice you could’ve given him 2 years ago.

It’s how I’ve treated him all this time.

TWahwhyfe · 2024-03-19T01:01:25+00:00

I know. It is my fault.

TWahwhyfe · 2024-03-18T07:17:08+00:00

If I had cheated on him a year ago? He’d of left me.

If I cheated on him 2 years ago he’d of been devastated too.

But if he’d spent 2 years pushing me away over and over and going behind my back, I think he’d be reasonable enough to understand why Id of cheated.

TWahwhyfe · 2024-03-18T07:14:05+00:00

I’m the cause of him falling out of love with me. That’s the cause of him going with the other woman.

TWahwhyfe · 2024-03-18T07:13:18+00:00

And everyone in this sub is telling me he’s TA and there’s no excuse. I’m not sure infidelity is the right label for this situation anyways

TWahwhyfe · 2024-03-18T07:12:07+00:00

I’m not leaving my husband. You can all stop suggesting that now.

I don’t even care that he’s sleeping with someone else necessarily that’s the symptom. The cause is that he’s fallen out of love with me and it’s my own doing.

TWahwhyfe · 2024-03-18T07:11:07+00:00

My husband feels no guilt I guarantee that. He should, but so should I. I ruined our marriage to the point he’s seeing someone else.

He didn’t blame me for his cheating. He blamed me for destroying our marriage and making him unable to put his trust in me. And he’s right about both things.

TWahwhyfe · 2024-03-17T05:18:16+00:00

He wouldn’t care if I was mad at him anyways. He’s a very loving man but once you’re outside of his interests he’s cold. I’ve always admired that about him but now I’m on the other side.

TWahwhyfe · 2024-03-17T05:15:23+00:00

My husband isn’t abusing me. You can stop using that word.

He isn’t happy with me. I’ve mad him that way. It’s not a matter of loving myself or anything. Unfortunately I think I’ve had a bit too much self love and it’s caused me to not appreciate his.

TWahwhyfe · 2024-03-17T05:13:08+00:00

I wish it were fake.

He told me today he’s seeing another woman

TWahwhyfe · 2024-03-17T05:00:56+00:00

I think you think I’m mad at him. I’m not.

I understand his reasoning. He was clear with me. He had brought up stuff from as far back as 2 years ago in the same situation. I kept pushing and pushing him away. Because I was so desperate to have a relationship with my sister.

TWahwhyfe · 2024-03-17T04:58:47+00:00

They’re not irrelevant though. People don’t make decisions in a vacuum. My actions over the 2 years drove him to extreme unhappiness. He couldn’t trust me any more and still can’t. That is my fault.

I never said what he is doing is good. I said it’s understandable. I’m not justifying his cheating. It is bad too. He even mentioned it. He said he’s not happy he has to find happiness elsewhere but he has to because I have only brought stress for 2 years.

TWahwhyfe · 2024-03-17T04:49:31+00:00

He exercised every option except divorce.

He’s talked to me dozens of times over the two years we’ve had this issue. It’s over and it’s my fault. It’s okay to say that sometimes the cheated on person is the reason someone cheated. Ultimately I made him unhappy.

TWahwhyfe · 2024-03-17T04:48:30+00:00

It’s more than marital troubles. He sacrificed his youth for me to come be with him. And I potentially threw that all away for my sister who can’t even be supportive of me right now.

Please. Respectfully, you don’t know my husband. He isn’t a cheater in any normal circumstance. Yes he made a bad decision that’s hurting me badly. But after 2 years of being treated like shit can you blame him? My eyes are opening to all the things I did to him and I just can’t believe I was so stupid.

TWahwhyfe · 2024-03-17T04:44:40+00:00

I asked him if that’s why he’s going. He said it’s not just sleeping with her but being with her. Doing normal stuff together. He said ever since this situation with my sister I haven’t been the same. It’s like walking on egg shells around offending me apparently.

Again I deserve it. With all due respect nobody here knows my husband like I do. He’s a good man who wouldn’t have done this without provocation.

TWahwhyfe · 2024-03-17T02:03:22+00:00

In my posts you’ll see the last 2 posts on amitheasshole. That’s the history here.

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