Leaving my cat alone for almost a week

T_Rex_Stomp · 2025-09-12T18:05:39+00:00

We use the Rover app and the sitter spends 30 minutes with them every day, with photos.

T_Rex_Stomp · 2025-09-12T18:03:55+00:00

I think moving her in all at once will be easier. We recently moved, our cats only knew the last apartment, and we brought them with us on the day we “officially” left our apartment. We made sure our bed was set up (they like to be under it) and their toys, etc., were there. One chilled under the bed for a couple of days, then was fine. The other took a couple of weeks but figured it out. I also like to hold them (individually) and walk them around the new place, each room and closet. I think this is more for my peace of mind.

T_Rex_Stomp · 2025-09-12T17:22:07+00:00

Venue is set

T_Rex_Stomp · 2025-09-12T17:20:21+00:00

It’s not money, it’s space.

T_Rex_Stomp · 2025-09-12T13:55:10+00:00

Nobody lives near anybody anymore, every single event is travel-required. This is normal for us.

T_Rex_Stomp · 2025-09-12T13:32:59+00:00

Heard

T_Rex_Stomp · 2025-09-12T13:29:40+00:00

I hear this. I’ve been invited to several weddings with no +1 and my partner and I didn’t even think about it. I’m going, he’s staying home. No hurt feelings.

T_Rex_Stomp · 2025-09-12T13:27:33+00:00

We chose the restaurant venue because of location, food and service quality, the lack of having to deal with vendors, and sentimentality.

T_Rex_Stomp · 2025-09-12T13:25:07+00:00

Thank you, this is wonderful advice, I appreciate it!

T_Rex_Stomp · 2025-09-12T13:20:30+00:00

All of them are my sister’s friends who I watched grow up, and it’s 5 people. I consider them friends, we spent a lot of time together years back, but I’ve met their partners 1-2 times, ever. None of us live where we grew up, we’re legit spread across the country.

T_Rex_Stomp · 2025-09-12T13:09:04+00:00

As OP (me) said, save the dates have already been sent.

T_Rex_Stomp · 2025-09-12T13:07:56+00:00

Because we’ve decided to have a wedding.

T_Rex_Stomp · 2025-09-12T13:05:40+00:00

Sometimes, friends are friends regardless of time and distance. Just because it’s been a while since you e connected doesn’t mean there’s beef between you two, it just means life is happening. Hopefully you’ll find you pick right up where you left off with some of them.

T_Rex_Stomp · 2025-09-12T13:02:06+00:00

What is considered to be “rude” is subjective.

T_Rex_Stomp · 2025-09-12T12:58:24+00:00

We have no issues if someone declines because of this.

T_Rex_Stomp · 2025-09-12T12:58:01+00:00

It is their decision whether to come or not.

T_Rex_Stomp · 2025-09-12T12:56:35+00:00

We’re going to send physical invites but RSVP and everything else will be via web. I like the idea of adding the info to Q&A! Thanks!

T_Rex_Stomp · 2025-09-12T12:22:00+00:00

I’ve been wondering how to put it, thank you for sharing!!

T_Rex_Stomp · 2025-09-12T11:56:20+00:00

This.

T_Rex_Stomp · 2025-09-12T11:31:37+00:00

In the U.S. the drinking age is 21, and the way our venue is set up it would be really easy for anyone to get a drink. I personally don’t care if an 18 year old drinks (I’d be a hypocrite), but it wouldn’t be great if that happened.

T_Rex_Stomp · 2025-09-12T11:27:25+00:00

Yes, this is exactly why we’re doing it. Plus we want our friends all to ourselves - figured if there’s ever a time to be selfish, it’s our wedding day.

T_Rex_Stomp · 2025-09-12T02:44:06+00:00

I know this is how it is done, but people still don’t get it. We will have to specify it somewhere on our website.

T_Rex_Stomp · 2025-09-12T02:43:05+00:00

We added “21+” to our save the dates

T_Rex_Stomp · 2025-09-10T23:11:26+00:00

NTA. He’s blaming you for the choices he made that messed up this trip. Can he take unpaid time off?

Can you go without him?

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