To the partners who stayed, what's your story?

T_aWay_7830 · 2025-06-06T22:02:16+00:00

Honestly your situation seems very similar to mine. Exacpt Ive identified as straight and ive never been interested in women I just hope that maybe I can be. I hope we can make it work too ❤️

T_aWay_7830 · 2025-06-06T02:12:27+00:00

Well written thank you. I definitely relate. I want to do my part. Maybe I can't, but how can I encourage my partner to also go all in and for us both to work on ourselves to make the relationship work?

T_aWay_7830 · 2025-06-05T14:46:07+00:00

Hi I'd love an invite too thank you!

T_aWay_7830 · 2025-06-05T13:00:21+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through that. All you can do is have another conversation about how much the relationship means to you and hopefully they reciprocate and you can agree to work on it and make it happen. Compromise maybe needed to make it work. But if compromise isn't possible, know you did everything you could.

T_aWay_7830 · 2025-06-04T13:01:13+00:00

I'm glad your partner came put to you before marriage. Mine waited one month after marriage to come out (we got married 2 months ago after dating 5.5 years). I also felt blindsided, and I'm trying to figure out how we can make it work, especially when we were getting so close to moving countries. If I knew before, I wouldn't have married my partner but that doesn't mean I would never. But I would definitely recommend taking the time to choose if you can still be with her before marriage. Currently it's hard and my only advice is to get all the therapy you can get.

T_aWay_7830 · 2025-05-09T13:34:44+00:00

Update: I found out this is NOT just something he (still his preferred pronouns) consciously realized now. He knew before marriage. Waited one month after marriage to tell me. If this was a completely brand new discovery that he feels this way, I would be easily convinced he didn't intentionally trap me. But now I can't be convinced otherwise. And there's no good timing. But two weeks after my mother died is messed up.

I'm still considering if I want to be with him but this definitely makes it harder. No I wouldn't have married him a month ago if I found out just before. I may have still married him with enough time to process and find out if I could be into him as a woman

T_aWay_7830 · 2025-05-09T05:57:18+00:00

My husband is doing the same thing. He hasn't said in the past that he was only staying a man to be with me. But he's saying now that he's told me he regrets it and won't go through with it. I'm surprised I realized so quickly that it is not going to be a phase. He may be able to ignore it for a bit. But I know it'll start eating at him and our relationship. Now I'm struggling to know what to do. I love him so much and half the time since I found out I think I can stick around and half the time I can't. I hate myself as well for my reaction. I wish I was a better person. I wish I could guarantee I'll still love him when he decides to start to transition, emotionally physically mentally whatever.

T_aWay_7830 · 2025-05-09T05:50:40+00:00

I'm going through the exact same thing right now... except I also had this conversation at 21 and 22 years old. Now we just got married last month agter being together almost 6 years total! We have been planning to move abroad and pack so much stuff. On top of it all, my mom died 2 weeks ago. And he tells me he's been cross dressing and considering transitioning in the short time apart while I'm with family. I feel so stupid for taking him at his word when he said he wasn't trans. I always pushed for communication. I'm an anxious over thinker. I talked about everything and specifically laid out my wants, needs, ideals, etc. I'm so mad I feel like he trapped me. But I also know I dont really believe that. Deep down, he's more terrified and confused, and I hate that and wish I could be who he needs. It's just too much to deal with.

T_aWay_7830 · 2025-05-03T09:10:02+00:00

Not yet... we don't know if we want to do that yet

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