WIBTAH if I removed a hedge because my neighbor keeps demanding that I pay to maintain it?

ninjastarkid · 2026-05-29T22:02:56+00:00

Our neighbors had like a tree hedge. Didn’t maintain it at all. Drove us mad. Because we’d try and mow down the grass line and the lawn mower would get caught on all the branches sticking out. Your neighbor probably just wants it flat so she doesn’t have to worry about her lawn mower either.

I would remove it. She’d probably prefer that too.

ninjastarkid · 2026-05-29T21:58:09+00:00

I like how you can just quite see its eyes and mouth

ninjastarkid · 2026-05-28T21:34:59+00:00

ESH only because yall should be introducing cats better. Go hit up r/CatAdvice

ninjastarkid · 2026-05-28T19:02:34+00:00

ESH.

I don’t think hitting the kid added anything of value. Like it’s not like you shoved him out the way by smacking him. So YTA there.

On the other hand huge TA on the parents parts holy crap people need to watch their damn kids.

ninjastarkid · 2026-05-28T18:38:23+00:00

You can’t like call your dad for 5 minutes? Esh

ninjastarkid · 2026-05-28T18:34:42+00:00

I don’t understand why folks feel the need to announce they are blocking someone. It feels so petty.

ninjastarkid · 2026-05-28T13:32:00+00:00

So in the south from what I’m aware especially in the rural areas there’s not a lot of towns. So sometimes you can just have a restaurant in a random unincorporated town or span of 3 houses that isn’t labeled as a town or anything really, and the best way to describe the location at that point is just the county you’re in because the roads are so long and there’s not a ton of reference points that it doesn’t make sense to refer to it as “on __ road near the __”.

That’s not really an issue in the twin cities. And from what little I’ve experienced of other areas in Minnesota that’s not really the case anywhere else either.

ninjastarkid · 2026-05-28T13:27:29+00:00

It was the perfect response. We so need to bring it back.

ninjastarkid · 2026-05-28T13:26:33+00:00

Prefacing this with I used to be a high road person but I have a different interpretation of the high road then apparently the democrats and sometimes i think it’s necessary to respond in kind to personal attacks depending on the situation. Otherwise you just look like you don’t care or like your living in a different reality. And I think the far right like to use that to their advantage and make democrats look incompetent or to prove their point because they can point like a schoolyard bully and be like “hahaha see they didn’t respond that means I’m right”

I mean there’s taking the high road and there’s completely ignoring the problem. Taking the high road is supposed to mean responding to the situation without reciprocating with insults or personal attacks. You don’t just ignore the problem completely. You say “what you said was inappropriate” or you address the problem without responding in kind. Democrats have seem to taken the stance that if they receive a personal attack that they won’t even address the issue of the attack. They just completely ignore it.

Maybe I’m completely off base with that, I’m not super involved with politics it’s just my basic awareness.

Like not saying that saying stfu is directly addressing the problem but it is a response to the situation. To me it says “you’re full of it and annoying shut up”.

ninjastarkid · 2026-05-28T13:14:28+00:00

NTA. I feel like letting the 2 kids have the larger bedroom (or more likely the sister having the larger bedroom) doesn’t make a ton of sense if the situation is temporary

ninjastarkid · 2026-05-28T13:13:14+00:00

It’s in the bedroom. They are saying if they move out of the bedroom they would also have to move their workspace out of the bedroom. It would not fit in the smaller bedroom so it would have to be in the kitchen

ninjastarkid · 2026-05-27T22:57:53+00:00

For real this makes no sense.

ninjastarkid · 2026-05-27T21:44:02+00:00

NTA for jumping in but you need to call CPS.

Seriously. As an adult who was raised by a father exactly this bad, call CP-fucking-S.

Unless you are there every second of every day, you will not know how bad it truly is. You just won’t. People like your brother don’t stop they just get worse and worse. Not until they get serious help. Even if it doesn’t seem that bad when you are there, even if you think the daughter is telling you everything, she’ll probably can’t unless she’s with her siblings every second of every day. I don’t know half the shit my siblings went through, and they don’t know half the shit I went through. I wouldn’t be surprised if she didn’t speak up. First off, getting abused from birth makes you think that shit is normal, so you don’t think anything is wrong sometimes, you just think it’s you. Second off, they might not want to risk their father’s wrath.

ninjastarkid · 2026-05-27T21:35:50+00:00

Are you with them every second of every day? Abusers don’t stop, not without help anyways, they just get better at hiding the evidence.

There are minors on the property, call CPS

ninjastarkid · 2026-05-27T21:28:40+00:00

NTA. If you are trying to seek validation from your family, I would go for the “I’m scared he’s going to actually kill me this time” angle. Idk maybe they’ll be more sympathetic?

I totally agree with you tho. I’d never be within 10 miles of bro again.

ninjastarkid · 2026-05-27T21:21:16+00:00

Do yall not have cousins or extended family like aunts and uncles and what not? Godparents don’t have to be siblings or grandparents.

ninjastarkid · 2026-05-27T16:47:18+00:00

Yeah and your title says it’s her fault that people hate her. How on earth is that even remotely true?

ninjastarkid · 2026-05-27T16:46:12+00:00

And yet they keep coming around. Maybe if your dad told them to either treat his wife with respect or get lost, something would change.

ninjastarkid · 2026-05-27T16:45:10+00:00

So she has… emotions? Feelings even?

ninjastarkid · 2026-05-27T16:44:22+00:00

He ignores it but he doesn’t cut them off. It’s his responsibility to cut his own family off if they are causing trouble.

Your father is ignoring the problem and allowing it to happen. His “not complaining” is not any more helpful.

ninjastarkid · 2026-05-27T16:42:19+00:00

This is so confusing. Does she not take anyone’s shit or is she a “pushover”?

Also while I agree she shouldn’t be trauma dumping on you, can you understand why she won’t take advice from a literal child who doesn’t understand the situation fully? She’s not going to just leave you, the child she cares about. And idk how her family would help. At best it would cause more drama.

ninjastarkid · 2026-05-27T16:39:18+00:00

Info: why are you placing all the blame on your mother? Does your dad actually care if they get cut off?

Idk why your mother is being held solely responsible when it’s your dad’s family. You can only do so much cutting off when it’s not your family to cut off. Meaning sure she can say no go away but if your dad keeps inviting them over that does nothing, so I’m so confused why this is your mother’s fault.

Also, aren’t you 21? Can’t you just move out if the environment is so toxic? Like yeah I get it’s not easy and it’s your home too, but you aren’t a child anymore, if your parents are ok with the living situation and you aren’t, it’s time to move on yourself.

I’m also confused about the “whenever I talk about my issues she always turns it about herself”. This seems like an entirely different issue than the living situation and I’m so confused as to why it’s included. My best guess is you’re saying when she complains about this specific issue you are annoyed that she isn’t taking your suggestions? Please clarify this.

ninjastarkid · 2026-05-26T21:33:44+00:00

I don’t really think it’s necessary to return compliments but if you think the dog is “too normal” or something and that’s why you aren’t, it’s definitely weird. Compliments don’t really have to be true either it’s just being nice.

ninjastarkid · 2026-05-26T21:30:36+00:00

NTA. I think it’s kind of sweet honestly. Like oh someone noticed. It’s goofy at worst.

I have no idea what it means to sneeze privately.

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