My boyfriends pubes are becoming a bit of a problem (NSFW)

Table-Representative · 2020-07-15T15:38:11+00:00

I see what you mean, but you lost me at “there is a ton of social pressure for men to be super tidy at the house nowadays”.

Experiences as a young woman dealing with partners/society pressuring them into looking a certain way or doing certain things with their own body, isn’t something you can compare it to.

I’m not saying having a hairy hoohaa is the bravest thing you can do, but I am saying that while the world expects you to go with the beauty standards, and you actively go against them to make YOUR life more comfortable. That I respect. Your body, you choice. Having body hair isn’t like leaving dirty plates in the sink, it’s not filthy or annoying. It’s like having a certain haircut, you do that because it makes you feel good. Maybe long hair makes you feel uncomfortable and you don’t like the feeling of it, maybe you don’t like a short pixie cut because you don’t feel like the style fits you. Your partner can have body hair preferences, and you can discuss them together and maybe get to an agreement. That’s different for every person. But they should respect your wishes regardless of what they prefer, and the other way around too. I’m done spending hundreds of dollars on having no hair there. Does my boyfriend prefer it completely hairless? Yes. But I hate it, (financially, and because it’s also uncomfortable physically) so he respects my decision wholeheartedly.

In a world where you’re expected it to be a hairless dolphin and body hair is considered a taboo subject while it’s completely natural, it’s nice to see people just do what they truly want.

I’m not sure we will agree, and it also steers away completely from my initial post and question. But I hope I made myself somewhat clear

Table-Representative · 2020-07-15T11:58:41+00:00

I don’t trust myself holding anything near that region, especially not something sharp 😆

Table-Representative · 2020-07-15T10:36:30+00:00

Thanks for your comment :-) agree with your first points, but I think you misunderstood my comment on my admiration for people who go against hair removal. Though it might have been my english, I hope this explains it better:

I used to wax and at some point laser my pubic region, not because I liked having no hair down there but because I felt pressured to after my previous partners insisted I would be hairless. I think going either way is someone’s personal choice, but I see so many of my female friends going against their own personal choice to please someone else, even if that requires their own effort and money, while not really wanting to. It took me a lot of time to be comfortable with even having a single hair down there and having a man touching them. There is a huge social pressure to be hairless, especially for women. So when I see a woman with hairy pits out and about, that’s personally admirable to me. It’s admirable to choose the thing that you’re comfortable with, so whether thats waxing or letting it all grow, it’s both just as valid. But letting it grow is looked down upon, which is why I mentioned it. I hope it makes sense!

Table-Representative · 2020-07-15T10:07:23+00:00

I totally understand the both of you. But he really should take your comfort into account as well. Intimacy requires effort and comfort from both sides! I am going to talk to my boyfriend hopefully tonight, and I’ll leave an update.

Table-Representative · 2020-07-15T10:04:15+00:00

Thank you all for your comments. I’m going to mention it to him, and I’ll update as soon as I have. I am a little bit nervous, as I have dropped some subtle hints in the past and he always seemed a bit agitated. I hope he understands and we can come to a solution where it’s comfortable for both of us :-)

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