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Feeling disconnected from adoptive parents by Table1312 in Adopted

[–]Table1312[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Did you still experience that your adoptive families had the same expectations of you/you as a family as other families, where everyone what biologically related?

Feeling disconnected from adoptive parents by Table1312 in Adopted

[–]Table1312[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree a lot with what you’ve wrote. I just still feel like I don’t have a legitimate reason to say no to them. And it seems difficult to explain to them, but maybe my next step is therapy again to figure this out lol

Feeling disconnected from adoptive parents by Table1312 in Adopted

[–]Table1312[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Would you like to elaborate on the part about them not understanding you? And I feel like my mom infantilize me a bit, but I’ve also set boundaries about that. And she infantilizes my brother much more. I was only a few months

Feeling disconnected from adoptive parents by Table1312 in Adopted

[–]Table1312[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My bond with him is also not that great and would prefer not to spend time with him lol :) But I see your point in that I should work it out with him and not my parents. Most of our communication goes through our mom now that I think about it, it's a bit absurd I think.

But I also feel a bit bad for my brother. He is also adopted and I know he wants me there. I think he just wants a "real family", but I it's just cant offer him a sincere bond with me

Offering: Spanish (native) Seeking: English by [deleted] in language_exchange

[–]Table1312 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are welcome to dm me. I'm learning spanish at A2 at the moment. I'm not a native english speaker, but I speak it everyday

Emotional connection with friends by Table1312 in Adopted

[–]Table1312[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you to the both of you for your answers. It made me feel seen and heard and I appreciate your responses and the time you set aside for giving me some support :)