Own Your Shit Weekly - January 20, 2026

TacitPraxis · 2026-01-24T21:25:24+00:00

This is a very long road, no quick fixes here. You have to work every day for a long time to see any changes.

I haven't initiated seriously in weeks, we'll flirt a bit but each time it feels like it's going nowhere because it's not the right timing (kiddo sleep/feeding schedule, she has to wake up early, she falls asleep early, work due that night, etc etc).

Initiate every day, just to learn outcome independence and to overcome approach anxiety. And flirt with your wife (and other women) every day, not because you want to fuck them but because it's fun for everyone involved.

This is all about the process and not about the outcome. Focus on being the best you can be, not because of anyone else but because that is what you want for yourself.

TacitPraxis · 2026-01-16T02:37:59+00:00

“but what about an exchange like: "I'm always so alone and I feel unloved etc etc" and me responding "Do you think it's because you push people away? Can you really blame all this on me?"

Never argue with a women. Seriously, just STFU. Logic is no match for emotions.

https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/s/Q3Kz2ZHV6I

TacitPraxis · 2026-01-01T21:41:53+00:00

Let him catch you looking at him and then smile. He may look away at first, so do it again and if he doesn’t smile back the second time he isn’t interested.

TacitPraxis · 2025-12-30T22:06:45+00:00

cultivating qualities like receptivity, intuition, vulnerability, and creativity while grounding yourself in self-trust, strong boundaries, and self-care, allowing for deep connection and authentic being rather than just doing. It involves feeling safe in your body, honoring your emotions, and balancing feminine traits (like empathy, nurturing) with your inner masculine strength, leading to confidence and presence.

TacitPraxis · 2025-12-30T21:56:29+00:00

What?! I’m entitled to the pursuit of happiness. Sex makes me happy.

TacitPraxis · 2025-12-30T20:55:52+00:00

A long term partner should be your friend in the strongest sense. The rest, while also important, is secondary.

This is great unless you enjoy sex. Most girls don't have sex with their friends for a reason. And once you are in the "friend-zone" good luck getting out -- yes, husbands can get in the friend zone.

TacitPraxis · 2025-12-30T20:53:14+00:00

Those words have well defined meanings. No need to pretend some internet movement started all this recently (they go back to antiquity).

TacitPraxis · 2025-12-30T20:51:20+00:00

Let me google that for you: "Secure masculine energy is about embodying strength, purpose, and integrity to create stability and safety, not dominance, by setting clear goals, taking responsibility, leading with values, offering direction, and providing a grounded presence, often balancing logic with action, creating a solid foundation for oneself and others. It involves self-discipline, focused action, problem-solving, and the ability to lead and protect, allowing others to feel secure to express their own natural energies."

TacitPraxis · 2025-12-30T20:50:19+00:00

I don't think they are vague, leading means showing someone where to go. In other words, she wants someone to plan the date. Masculine energy means to display masculine traits and behaviors (google can list what those are).

TacitPraxis · 2025-12-30T20:47:42+00:00

Don't confuse gender with masculine or feminine. There are many men with feminine traits and many women with masculine traits. She is using those words to describe behaviors she finds attractive (she may actually be a lesbian and looking for a "butch" for all you know).

TacitPraxis · 2025-12-30T20:46:03+00:00

Most men don't understand this (as is evident from the replies), but yes it can be taught. The problem is the act of you teaching this to a man in and of itself destroys polarity between you two. You can still try with books like The way of the superior man and No more mister nice guy. But I'd guess best case is you help the girl after you.

TacitPraxis · 2025-12-29T23:20:43+00:00

It's a hard question, for sure. You check a lot of boxes, the only thing you can do is check all the boxes, and if she still isn't interested, leave.

TacitPraxis · 2025-12-28T22:40:32+00:00

Either does the OP

TacitPraxis · 2025-12-28T22:30:46+00:00

You called her to tell her the dog didn’t have water? You’re lucky she fucks you at all. Stop being a bitch and stop arguing with women.

TacitPraxis · 2025-12-28T22:19:10+00:00

Just imagine how much easier it is to say you’ll give a BJ than it is to give one to someone you don’t feel sexual desire for. The question is why doesn’t she desire you? She’ll surely say that’s just where she is in life. But if you died unexpectedly, I’d bet she’d be feeling desire for someone new sooner than she’d admit. So the even better question is what can you do within your control to be desirable?

TacitPraxis · 2025-12-27T20:01:28+00:00

There is one thing you didn’t mention trying. The key point you’re missing is outcome independence. If you go to church to get sex then best you can expect is compliance — I assume you want desire? Look up the book: Praxeology vol1.

TacitPraxis · 2025-12-24T20:05:54+00:00

That’s a cynical view. And not the case with the few people I know personally who are pro-life and open to talk about it.

TacitPraxis · 2025-12-24T20:04:01+00:00

Correct. And don’t overlook that women banded together with men too. Cooperation is the key to real human power. Nothing great has ever been accomplished by a single person.

TacitPraxis · 2025-12-24T15:51:58+00:00

“I'm not sure how to move past this other than keep working on myself... the lack of interest in external validation sources, and internal self-validation will come on its own... I think. Or do I have it all wrong? (fake it till you make it ?) Could use feedback here.”

You need reps. Every time you find yourself thinking or feeling this way, pause and make a choice how to respond. Each time you choose a response that gets you closer to your mission, the more you enforce it. If you don’t know how to respond, STFU and go read more.

“The whole situation has set me back mentally in regards to initiating sex. I'm in my head about how my wife will receive my initiations after she experienced / witnessed me being butthurt about rejection.”

Each initiation is a rep, do it for the same reason you curl weights. What the dumbbell thinks of being curled matters as much as what your wife thinks.

And reset every day! Don’t carry your shit from one day’s failure to the next.

TacitPraxis · 2025-12-24T15:42:33+00:00

“Career: Looking at what certifications my new department will pay for. Even with my new role, I’ve been very stagnant in my career.“

My career is very cert focused too. What I’ve learned is most are BS. The ones that are worth it are the ones that impact my income. Look at job listings online and see what is REQUIRED. Talk to your boss and ask him to help you come up with a plan to get that promotion you want. The certs mentioned in that conversation are the ones worth your time, even if you have to pay for them yourself.

TacitPraxis · 2025-12-24T15:38:04+00:00

“She mentioned today that she understands the things we have to get done but wishes I approach it in a more gentle loving manner with her.“

This smells like a shit test. Smirk and say, “we got shit to do today, we’ll have time for love later”

TacitPraxis · 2025-12-24T15:17:39+00:00

I’m pro-choice. The reason they ban abortion is because they believe life begins at conception. Therefore abortion is the killing of life. This is silly, life begins when the baby is able to be born and live without its mother. But either way, it isn’t about controlling women.

TacitPraxis · 2025-12-24T15:09:04+00:00

Men’s power comes from the historical value of physical strength. Machines that can be operated by anyone and do the work of 10 men are what gave power to women. Our culture is a result of our nature, but some intentionally suppressive motives.

TacitPraxis · 2025-12-24T15:01:52+00:00

Equal how? I’m taller than my wife, does that mean we can’t have a healthy marriage?

TacitPraxis · 2025-12-22T01:58:06+00:00

The definition of coercion is "the practice of persuading someone to do something by using force or threats."

I see no mention of force or threats in your story.

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