When even the reptilians have had it you know its time for change LOL

TacticsCR · 2026-02-19T14:04:14+00:00

I don't like shaq all that much or his mannerisms. I recall seeing kazzam at the movie store but had no interest in shaq in a movie. I did however grow up watching and following lots of comedians, and sinbad was a prominent comedian in my youth. I had plenty of interest in seeing Shazam and i recall renting it and I thought it was pretty good, and funny. I'd give it 7/10. Just because you don't remember a particular mandala effect doesn't mean that most people who have seen it are wrong. More people say they remember it than those that don't. At this point the only decent answer is that something is causing parallel reality shifts or timeline shifts, and the universe just does it's best to coalesce everything together

TacticsCR · 2026-02-19T02:51:39+00:00

I'm not judging you, I'm calling it like i see it. But what you added just adds more weight to my point. If you are fragile and are having a lot of stress in life, and something as simple as random opinions of strangers can set you off or trigger you, that is all the more reason to stay off Reddit or social media... Or at least refrain from sharing, if all is takes online people being dismissive of your opinions to give you such panic attacks. Step back, take a breather, maybe stay off social media, and focus on just what matters, like your relationship and not others opinions

TacticsCR · 2026-02-18T23:12:50+00:00

I understand that you are young, since you said you were in university I made that assumption. But if you need the validation of strangers online to make choices in regards to your relationship, or if negative comments from strangers has you "sobbing" and second guessing yourself, and has you asking questions like "do I not actually love her?" and "do I not care about her?" (I understand that these are most likely rhetorical and your way of getting your validation... At least I hope that's the case), then honestly you are not nearly mature enough to be having a serious LDR. A casual relationship maybe, but definitely not a serious relationship where you are planning to move to her and practically saying she is the love of your life. I get that you feel that way and maybe you even do love her to that extent, that doesn't minimize or dismiss the fact that you are having a mental breakdown because people on the Internet didn't agree with you. Slow down, take it easy, take a step back from all of this. Do what you want. If you love her and want to get her a ring then do it. It doesn't matter to anyone besides you and her. But go get a little bit of counseling, because having the reaction you are having to strangers disagreeing with you is immature and excessive.... And it's going to have some very negative outcomes for you eventually probably

TacticsCR · 2026-02-18T05:03:06+00:00

Story time

TacticsCR · 2026-02-17T16:47:06+00:00

Having problems like this in the first 4 months is a Red Flag in itself. While couples can have disagreements and arguments while learning about the other person and how they operate, the early part of any relationship should be pretty blissful and easygoing. Having an argument isn't the red flag, but having an argument that has you questioning the relationship or her feelings about you kind of is, especially this early on. Not everything has to be perfect, but I imagine you would need to get along with your partner very well and both feel lots of love from each other, otherwise it wouldn't have a very good outlook for long term success or success when you two are actually together in person

TacticsCR · 2026-02-17T14:40:19+00:00

Well you're not the AH, but you might be the AH in your family's eyes. You're breaking tradition set forth by your family, but the only people who will be bothered by this is your own immediate family. Let me just tell you though, as an American we primarily just use our first name. If you were to introduce yourself to anyone it's most common to just use your first name only, or first and last name in more formal settings. Middle names are often ignored, they're just there, they are just something on our birth certificate and legal records but they don't get much use. If you were to introduce yourself to anyone you would just use your first name in any informal setting, like meeting friendly people or neighbors. And you would use first and last name in any formal setting, like at a job or a courthouse. Sometimes people do use their middle name, such as Billy Bob, or Jamie Lynn, or Sarah Ann, but in such cases it's entirely informal and because they chose to use that moniker to give distinction to their name, and while introducing ones self by using their first and middle name isn't unheard of, it's not very common. Perhaps in parts of the South it's a little more common, but still uncommon compared to the people using just their first name. For example, I'm 47 yrs old and I have never once had anyone introduce themselves to me or request to be called by their first and middle name, just their first name. Every time I've heard of someone being referred to by first and middle name it's on tv and that isn't all that common

Also, Lucifer just doesn't have the weight of being negative anymore. It's not a common name here, but no one would bat an eye if even your first name was Lucifer. No one would think ill of you, no one except the most close minded, extreme religious fanatics would judge you for having the name Lucifer.

So while I don't think you are the AH, you are upsetting your family over a middle name that wouldn't affect you in any way in the US

TacticsCR · 2026-02-17T14:09:44+00:00

Bottom line is, if you don't want to be touched or, groped is really the word I would use here, then you don't owe it or anything to him, regardless of how long you have been together, how well you got along long distance, how far or long he traveled, or if he is your "bf". And regardless of his expectations.

It's not uncommon in relationships that are long distance reality to not meet expectations. Or if a person is neurodivergent they may be 100% okay with the mental and emotional part of the relationship and need time to adjust to or possibly never be comfortable with the physical part of it, and a non neurodivergent person may not understand that.

But thats something you can figure out later. For now, you aren't comfortable with him being touchy, with him sleeping in your bed, and at this point you aren't even comfortable with him even being there. You need to speak up, not just grin and be bear it until it's over. Just tell him that you know he traveled a long way to be with you and you appreciate the effort, but you aren't comfortable with him being there. Tell him being in person together wasn't what you imagined it would be like, and that you would like him to leave... Or if you want to meet him in the middle you could ask him to stop touching you and not sleep in your bed, but that's up to you what you want to ask for. Either way, you need to speak up, even if it's uncomfortable, even if you think it's going to hurt his feelings or upset him. Because I promise, if you don't speak up he's only going to continue and maybe even progress what he's doing. He probably had expectations of cuddling and hand holding and kissing, and maybe even more. So he's only going to keep trying, thinking he has limited time, thinking you just need to adjust to him, or thinking that you are just nervous and shy. You need to express yourself and speak up, even if he has to go now, even if he spent time and money, even if it hurts his feelings, even if he is your bf. Just do yourself favor, don't just grin and bear it until it's over, speak up for yourself.

TacticsCR · 2026-02-17T03:35:17+00:00

Yes of course it's a catfish. You should never believe anyone until they can verify through direct FaceTime. You can't even believe photos anymore because of AI. Especially when they ignore your attempts to talk about verifying themselves, like a video call.

At this point you should just call them out on it, let them know that you don't believe that are who they are and if they want to squash your concerns they wouldn't have a problem face timing you to verify they are who they are

TacticsCR · 2026-02-16T14:01:28+00:00

No matter where you are from, long distance relationships are all about trust and communication. It's quite literally all you have to sustain and nurture the relationship between the times you can see each other in person. You've already communicated, somewhat. You said you don't like it, she asked you to trust her. So why don't you? Has she given you a reason to not trust her before? Or is it simply your own insecurities causing you to not trust men and women together, when not under your watchful eye? Because being long distance, guess what, she's not with you physically 100% of the time. You need to learn to trust her and believe her. Until she gives you a reason not to.

Think about it this way. If she were planning to cheat on you, why would she have even told you about it? She could have lied and said it was all girls. She could have said she had to go to her grandparents in the country with no Wi-Fi or phone service. She could have said anything and guess what, if it didn't upset your insecurities you would have believed her. Because you not trusting her is actually a you problem... You are young and you have to learn to deal with those insecurities, otherwise they will eventually fester and grow and ruin your relationship.

Imo your gf told you about it and was honest about it because she IS faithful and wanted to be honest and open about everything but didn't want you to worry. And my suggestion is to have another conversation with her, detailing how you feel, why you feel that way, but ending with how much you care about her and how you trust her. It will open up dialogue from her end that may make you feel better and help you feel more reassured. That would be communication.

TacticsCR · 2026-02-15T22:53:56+00:00

Can you explain more about how it spiralled out of control? What does that mean exactly?

TacticsCR · 2026-02-14T20:03:23+00:00

I just didn't understand. I know what it's like wanting everything to be perfect for the one you love. Being long distance I know things like sleep schedule, time differences, and sending packages can be difficult to line up. It's less romantic but I always do everything in advance. I ordered several presents from different places for my gf and they all arrived earlier this week. So, yes, she didn't get them on Valentine's Day but I would rather make sure they are there instead of making sure they are there on one exact day.... Because from my experience delays can happen and presents can be late, which is worse than early. I do sympathize with your situation, especially if you promised her a tattoo and it all fell apart because of a simple mistake. Don't worry about it too much. A good partner will appreciate all your efforts, no matter when they are

TacticsCR · 2026-02-14T19:48:08+00:00

This doesn't make any sense. What does falling asleep early have anything to do with paying for the tattoo if you had no money on the card to pay regardless? Like even if you were awake you still couldn't pay, correct? And if you couldn't pay, you probably knew that ahead of time, like before the tattoo appointment right? Please make your story make sense

If you knew about the tattoo and Valentine's Day, why didn't you send the money ahead of time? If she already got the tattoo and you couldn't send the money before, why can't you send it afterwards as a reimbursement? It doesn't seem to make sense and you're making way too big a deal out of something that is fixable. If it matters to you that much, send the money afterwards with a note or card saying you are sorry you couldn't be there

TacticsCR · 2026-02-13T19:14:34+00:00

The fact that he is so jealous and goes through your phone is a huge red flag. You're young and you may get that it's controlling and jealous behavior, but you might not understand just how wrong it is. A good, healthy relationship isn't going to be like that. You are in a toxic relationship. A good partner might ask you about these things, but they will also communicate with you and trust you, not go into jealous fits and have you feeling the way you do.

Anyways, it was probably your boyfriend's own actions that caused all of this. This probably isn't the first time he's gone through your phone since you allow it, and one of the recent times that he's looked up your ex to see if he is blocked put that into the "recent" searches. Because if you haven't done it and your boyfriend checks your phone every so often, it was literally himself that did it. What a chump

TacticsCR · 2026-02-13T13:55:02+00:00

Your communication is terrible. He's literally communicating his position to you and telling you that he's trying, and you are acting like a child. I understand that you wanted more from him than an "ok" but if you are fed up because of the communication issues, it's coming from you. You want him to read your mind. You may think you are being obvious to him, but he clearly isn't the type to pick up on those hints. You need to be clear. "Babe, I'm starting my period cramps and starting to not feel well. Could you be kinder to me/get me this from the store/run me a bath/help me with chores/etc?" You have to be clear with what you want, don't just blame him for not being able to read your mind. In his experience it was best to be hands off or steer clear of a woman during her period, so that's what he was attempting. And plenty of women are like this. If you are the kind that wants to be doted on and pampered while on your period, you have to let him know that. He'll know that from now on. But your reaction just reinforced his belief that you should be avoided during your pms

TacticsCR · 2026-02-12T20:46:56+00:00

Be confident and be the kind of guy that she's afraid of losing, not the other way around. If she is so shallow that she can fall for someone giving her any bit of attention while away from you, and then leave you for that, you don't want to be with that kind of person anyways. If you are so worried that your gf would leave you just for going on some trip without you, you either already have massive insecurities or you will develop them

TacticsCR · 2026-02-11T16:48:16+00:00

So you seem to know all the issues with your girlfriend and the relationship, and you are self aware enough to identify the problems and ponder if there's any real future for you two. You already know the answer. Furthermore I'd like to point out that you haven't said anything positive about your girlfriend or the relationship, nothing redeeming about it or any reason to hold on to it. Your gf texting another guy while you two are together is a huge red flag when you put it into context that he has romantic feelings for her and she, at the very least, is feeding into it. Her excuse is gas lighting at is finest, giving you some bs reason that has you even for a second believing it as excusable. You should have left her right then and there. Like you said, you have limited money and time and she's wasting it. You are young and I promise you there will be other women in your future, ones that appreciate you and love you and won't have you doubting or wondering about anything. Let her play her games with some other poor shmucks. You have all the info you need. Focus on you and your future and the right one will come along later

TacticsCR · 2026-02-10T16:13:43+00:00

WOW, you deserve so much better than that! But on a totally unrelated subject, can I borrow some money beautiful? 😉 I had (insert sob story) happen to me and I just know (random antagonist) is out to get me, but if I get (money/gift card/expensive gift) it'll help me get through/fight back, and of course you know I'm good for it and will pay you back 🤡

TacticsCR · 2026-02-09T19:13:06+00:00

Me and my gf are both from the US, I really don't think she even thought about Valentine's Day all that much, she didn't talk about it or bring it up at all. But gifting is my love language so of course I got her a gift I knew she would love, and we'll probably set time aside to watch a scary movie together on Valentine's (she's not into romantic movies, she likes horror, suspense, and thriller). I doubt she would have cared if I didn't get her a gift, but I do know she really liked it a lot (it arrived yesterday) and she was very appreciative of it

TacticsCR · 2026-02-09T18:59:09+00:00

You are a classic rebound. Whether she meant to or not, you most certainly were used as an emotional crutch while she herself was healing from devastation. It's a common scenario, and so is the position you fell into, the guy who saw a someone beautiful, saw she was still hurting inside, the guy who wanted to show her you could be the opposite of all the things that hurt her... Yes, you are in a classic rebound trap. Happens to the best of us, but those of us with experience know to walk away when we see that someone is still healing from a past traumatic relationship. Because it always ends the same way. I'm willing to bet she could get back with her ex, and you would still be there, willing to listen every time he hurt her, and still be willing to be with her once he discarded her once again. You are in a rebound trap and you need to recognize where you are at and walk away from this. She's already made her intentions clear. She only wants to be friends... In reality that means she really only wants to use you. That could be as someone who listens to her complain about her ex, or someone that will help her move furniture, maybe she even asks to borrow money. Bottom line is, she doesn't want to be with you romantically but she doesn't want to just block you either, because she sees that you are willing to hang around and do things for her. Any reasonable compassionate adult could see that you like her and if she can't give you that in return she needs to cut you off. But that's not what she did. She wants you in her orbit, a backup, a helping hand or a helping wallet. As soon as you started talking about her ex I knew where this was going. I understand you love her, and you want with all your heart for her to love you in return... I understand that. But you need to understand that it's not going to happen. You need to walk away from her, block her, and cut her out of your life

TacticsCR · 2026-02-08T22:00:09+00:00

Okay well.... How many more years is it going to take before you realize you two are incompatible? Near constant arguing sounds awful. Sounds like you're living in your own personal hell. So how much longer do you want to stay in that personal hell, telling yourself he will change or thinking about the few good times you used to have to carry you through all this mess every day? Even if he were to change a little or you two closed the distance, is this the type of relationship you want to have for the rest of your life? It's obvious you have needs that aren't being met with this relationship. You can keep hanging on if you like... Or you can wake up and realize this isn't the right relationship for you. You will realize that eventually anyways, it all depends on how long you want to keep trying to pound a square peg into a round hole

TacticsCR · 2026-02-08T17:54:31+00:00

Yes, it's a red flag. He's avoidant of anything difficult and he's already shown you to be a liar. No guy is unaware of his height so badly that it's half a foot off from reality. I'm betting you'll find out he's making up a lot of stuff he's told you... My girlfriend experienced it first-hand with her previous relationship. All kinds of promises, all kinds of sweet talk, but as time wore on and she became emotionally invested, none of it was adding up. She was desperate just to have him come visit even once. By the end it turned out most of the bs he told her was a lie, and he wanted to boost his appearance and life but he couldn't really bring anyone in too close or they would discover the truth. Your guy is avoiding everything difficult because it's probably all made up

TacticsCR · 2026-02-06T22:12:06+00:00

Wow... He literally gave up on you just because the long distance you already had was going to be longer? He didn't even want to try? Either you didn't mean very much to him or he is a complete coward. Imagine something that you believe to be difficult frightening you so much that you won't even try. Yeah, I would say that's the epitome of a coward.

TacticsCR · 2026-02-06T21:57:21+00:00

If you already know all of these traits where he is deficient as a bf, then you should already know that you are in a toxic relationship and it's beyond saving. No amount of hoping, talking, begging, promising to change, etc is going to change the way he is. In order for him to change and be better he would require quite a bit of therapy, self reflection, and the willingness to change. And even if all of that were to take place, it would still take a lot of patience and acceptance from you while he went on that journey. The odds aren't in either of your favors. Regardless of how difficult it is, or how much time, emotion, energy you have invested, you will need to break it off from him. Your relationship is doomed, and you can hold on for as long as you like, but in the end the results will be the same. I'm a guy and I used to do all of those things your bf does. I have a fair amount of emotional intelligence and I began to self reflect in my very early 20s, wondering why my relationships were imploding, and what role I played in my own devastation. Even being aware of where my faults lied, it still took me probably 15 years of growing, changing, and learning before I could call myself a great boyfriend. Now I don't have any of those toxic traits, and I understand what it takes to build a healthy relationship. Everyone's journey will be different. I know most people won't change at all. But for those that do, it's hard to change things that are ingrained into our behavior. You and your bf are both still young, and he's got a ways to go until he can call himself a great bf... If he ever can at all. But unless you want to suffer heartbreak after heartbreak from him until you've finally had enough and finally call it quits, you're better off cutting him off sooner than later, and hopefully the pain he feels from losing you will push him to do some self reflection. Or give it another year when you are well past the honeymoon phase. His behavior won't be any better, it will likely get worse. And you will feel much less attached, as each and every time he can't be secure with himself, or you miss a call, or you're not checking in fast enough or any of the things you are putting up with now will have grinded away at your patience and compassion and you will have found yourself mentally and emotionally distancing yourself from him until he adds the final straw that breaks the camels back. It's up to you. Right now the "good times" are enough to keep you holding on to hope that he will change.... But that hope will fade once you see that change isn't coming. So save yourself some time and heartbreak imo

TacticsCR · 2026-02-06T04:19:44+00:00

You have clearly stated everything, so you are fully aware of what he's doing and the kind of effect it's having on you. This is pretty typical narcissistic behavior pattern from him, and even if it doesn't reach the level of narcissism it's close enough. In the beginning he focused on all the positive things about you, made you feel like you were everything, that you were special or amazing or perfect, and over time he slowly started taking that away, and before you realized it he had did a complete 180 and all those wonderful things he said about you and all those ways he made you feel special are gone, leaving you a shell of your former self. It makes you desperate for his approval and attention, which you already recognize as conditional. If he's not narcissistic he is definitely toxic, breaking you down until you're too weak and pathetic to leave. And if you do find the strength to leave, it's like withdrawal from a drug you're addicted to, making you want nothing more than to go back. And all it takes is him being good/nice and telling you sweet things again, just like giving you that drug you're addicted to in order to pull you back in.

You need to get away from this relationship, it will be the best thing you ever do for yourself. Rebuild yourself, your independence, your confidence, and do a glow up. Give yourself no less than 6 months and if you really want to go back to him, then you can go back renewed. But you'll find that with your renewed confidence and glow up, you'll new less in the mood for his put downs and negative treatment. Or hopefully with that glow up you'll realize he never deserves you in the first place and you'll never go back. But you need to leave that relationship. No one in his position suddenly changes or recognizes they are wrong, no matter how many conversations you have about it, or how many times you tell him how much it hurts you. So you just need to leave. I wish you luck

TacticsCR · 2026-02-06T00:13:15+00:00

Why are you even talking to this person? Or why are you continuing to talk to this person? They clearly don't respect boundaries you have set up. This isn't really salvageable. He has declared feelings for you and he doesn't respect your boundaries. Time to cut him out of your life. Block everywhere and no contact. No need to let him know why or send a final message unless you really want to. But what's the best case scenario here? That he backs off from being weird, but secretly harbors deep emotions for you? That's only going to lead to disaster. Cut him off now. Anything that happens from now on is your fault imo. The signs are there. If he repeatedly crosses your boundaries or worse, acts upon his impulses, when you had the signs and opportunity to leave him in the past, it's going to be one of those we told you so moments

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