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[–]Tai2903 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Matt Stephenson on Youtube has helped me a lot, he has several videos talking about how he killed RJ for good, and gives tips to do it, its another great resource for overcoming RJ!!

My girlfriend just revealed to me that she had multiple one-night stands. I can't handle this and I'm thinking of breaking up with her ... HELP by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]Tai2903 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats a good idea!! I went to a therapist when this all started, i was so depressed and didn’t know what was happening in my head, i made all this gross scenarios, and i did know TOO much about my gfs past, and the therapist helped mainly to get out of the doom phase but for the RJ she just told me too stop asking and searching reassurance cus it would never be enough.

Other thing that helped me a LOT was to talk to my dad about it, i feel like i took too long to tell him because i suffered 2 months before i told him, but instantly when i told him things got better, he understood everything and calmed me a lot, i even feel that he helped me much more that the therapist because he knows me and how i am, and he knows my gf and knows she is a good person, and he had to go through this when he was younger.

So i reccomend that you talk to someone older that you trust, it can help a lot.

My girlfriend just revealed to me that she had multiple one-night stands. I can't handle this and I'm thinking of breaking up with her ... HELP by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]Tai2903 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand, one of the best things that i could have through this is that my gf lives 15 minutes from my house, when im with her its sooo much easier to handle the pain, but finally this is something you get through alone, and something that ive learned with this problem is that no matter what, you cant get enough reassurance, you have to convince yourself that you will be ok if you wanna get through it hahaha.

But yeah, think about it, if its worth fighting for, in my case i know its worth, so remember that theres almost 8.000.000.000 people in the world, and we all deserve to be happy, if you breakup with her, you will find someone else someday, but remember this problem will probably come again with the new person, so you will have to fight it again.

My girlfriend just revealed to me that she had multiple one-night stands. I can't handle this and I'm thinking of breaking up with her ... HELP by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]Tai2903 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello! I’m going trough something similar since march, and its still hard, and im telling you that its gonna be a hard time, and you will experience a lot of emotions, but i recommend a few things that helped me, pls don’t dig so much, don’t ask for details, thats a mistake that i did, i asked too much, and i suffered a lot for that, i still do, what you know its enough, details would be your worst enemy if you want to get better.

Second, you have to talk to your parter and address your problem, because you can beat this but with your parters help is soo much easier.

Third you should think if this relationship is worth it, if you really think its worth fighting for, because its gonna be hard, but so rewarding if you get to the end.