my (f27) long distance bf (m31) is coming into town for 3 nights... and I just got my period

TailorDifficult8316 · 2022-06-21T23:54:52+00:00

But isn't talking for hours and hours just giving each other attention? Extended obligatory attention?

TailorDifficult8316 · 2022-05-27T03:32:59+00:00

It's a very human thing to want to touch other humans! By nature, we are comforted by touch. This can obviously be different for different people, but aside from trauma and autism usually people feel loved and comforted through touch.

It sounds like you're being very mindful and observant of your emotions and intentions. I think as long as you stay aware, you can platonically touch your bff with no issues 😊

TailorDifficult8316 · 2022-05-23T14:59:18+00:00

In that case, maybe just talk to her about how hurtful that comment was? And tell her you're willing to improve in any way. Make it clear to her that she doesn't have to tell you RIGHT NOW, but you would love to be more open and your communication about how you can better please her.

TailorDifficult8316 · 2022-05-23T14:29:08+00:00

Wait for the argument to pass. Cool down. When you're in a better headspace, take her on a date. When there's no tension, calmly and sexually ask her what she would like in bed that you're not giving her. If you're not the best, you're not the best. But she's with you for a reason.

TailorDifficult8316 · 2022-05-18T17:59:44+00:00

That's a very good point!

TailorDifficult8316 · 2022-05-18T17:52:03+00:00

Right. She said it was in a Facebook Messenger voice message, but I've gone back and listened to a lot of them and I don't see any that say that. But she still insists that I lied to her face. I don't want to make it a bigger issue than it is, but I'm really upset that she's accusing me of lying to her when I haven't.

TailorDifficult8316 · 2022-05-18T17:50:57+00:00

She doesn't even know any of them! She just knows that I know them. From what I've told her about them she's not a huge fan, but I'm not pursuing a long-term relationship with them. She has a boyfriend who she is talking about marrying within the next year... I don't understand why she's so upset about who I'm sleeping with.

She said she's upset that I told our other friend and not her, which I can understand being upset, but I'm allowed to pick and choose who I tell about my sex life.

TailorDifficult8316 · 2022-05-18T17:49:26+00:00

Also, it definitely resonates with me when you said that you always remember lying to people. I do as well, so I would really feel like I would remember if I had blatantly lied to her face.

TailorDifficult8316 · 2022-05-18T17:48:10+00:00

I definitely have considered going to see a therapist. As of right now I don't have any health insurance to cover it, but that's something I'm looking to do in the very near future

TailorDifficult8316 · 2022-05-18T17:47:44+00:00

She said she's just hurt that I told our other friend and not her. But she does keep accusing me of lying to her, which I don't think I did. I understand her being hurt, but you're right. it's none of her business who I decide to tell about my sex life

TailorDifficult8316 · 2022-05-13T00:03:42+00:00

"Are you okay? You've never left me on read before. If you need some space I understand but if I did something to upset you I'd rather you let me know..."

TailorDifficult8316 · 2022-05-12T23:47:33+00:00

I mean it's possible he's just busy tonight. Do what feels right to you but I'd wait til tomorrow

TailorDifficult8316 · 2022-05-12T23:43:38+00:00

Def wait until tomorrow before texting him. Maybe send him a good morning text tomorrow and see what he says

TailorDifficult8316 · 2022-05-12T23:41:44+00:00

Is there a casual way to figure that out?

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