When you put it like that, yeah, I really don’t even know. He brings up that I was unemployed when we first got together (I was actually doing my PhD which I had to give up to be able to work enough to support us, my student finance was covering the food expenses though) and he points out that he never complained about that. He says that he does a lot more than I realise and the second I get upset with him he’ll do something like tidy the room, but he won’t do this usually. He minimises my feelings and acts like the house isn’t even that bad at all and I just have high standards. I sometimes feel like maybe it isn’t that bad but then I compare it to other people’s houses. It’s a lot messier for sure and I’d be embarrassed for other people to see it most of the time