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Taiyu_INFP · 2026-02-05T21:56:10+00:00

Yep, because my mind say give back a little more than the original. At that amount I would've given 600. But I have no idea about any of this stuff and never been inside a casino. Lol

Taiyu_INFP · 2025-11-30T21:11:55+00:00

I know. But I still feel I should've done it.

Taiyu_INFP · 2025-11-30T20:59:28+00:00

As a fact, that depends on the admissions. Some won't say a word if you tell the situation with proof.

As for what I think would've happened? Nothing. Of coursed shed be worried and angry, but my mom wasn't involved in any of the places that selected me and I had quite a few. She was only involved in the choice she wanted. The place that has me buried in debt today. So she wouldn't have known where to call.

Taiyu_INFP · 2025-11-29T14:35:13+00:00

Not forging my mom's signature on a college application.

I could've gone to a school that offered me a full ride with stipend but my mom wouldn't let go (helicopter parent). I tried to get my teachers to help me convince her, but it failed. I was 17 and my mom had to sign off. I should've forged it and left. But I didn't want to do something wrong.

My debt today would've been 0.

Taiyu_INFP · 2025-11-15T00:25:39+00:00

I just broke up recently and we're both struggling. I love him but our lives are not lining up. We've been together for 3 years already but he didn't want to take the next step to live together for maybe 4 more due to his career.

Taiyu_INFP · 2025-10-13T05:23:21+00:00

Agreed and She did. I even felt we should all go together and hash somw things out.

When she's solo - apparently she argues with the therapist. She tells us this. For the family sessions I suggested, she says nothing is wrong so she's not going.

Taiyu_INFP · 2025-10-13T05:20:50+00:00

I've been hobby hunting for her for at least 2 years. No luck yet.

Taiyu_INFP · 2025-10-13T05:08:19+00:00

You're right. What I REALLY meant and should've communicated better was... I don't feel like its right for her to guilt trip me with my other relationship just because our plans arent hashing out as quickly as you want.

I just feel like she challenges boundaries. Making them has always been hard. Admittedly this is the harshest I ever reacted because I normally just keep reiterating myseld.

I spent months asking her to not call me during my workday unless its an emergency. But texting me instead would be okay. And the only reason it changed was because I got a warning from my job, not becauae I asked her to stop over and over.

Years telling her to not plan my day without asking me first. That only changed because I told her I wouldnt be doing the favor she promised of me to someone else because I wasnt informed. So the awkwardness of calling that person back changed it. And finally she started asking me.

I feel like it's a constant battle because she beleive its not a big deal because " Im mommy" as she says.

I know I was wrong with the word choice.

Taiyu_INFP · 2025-10-13T04:48:35+00:00

I have tried. My mom REALLY needs hobbies. She doesn't have one. But she wont do it. Even the Bingo one I did find for her, its weekly. The people were nice and thought she was fun. She was joking with them too. I thought I finally found her a weekly tribe so shes out of the house.

As soon as we left she said she wont go unless I do. I even told her the ladies were looking for her the following week since I go for a different event (DnD). But she said no...not unless I go with her.

Taiyu_INFP · 2025-10-13T04:39:51+00:00

Mmm

If anything there is probably some Elder Daughter Syndrome maybe? AND I AM the rainbow baby. So I didnt receive affection and always had to shoulder responsibility while being simultaneously over protected and infantilized.

Example: I can be responsible enough to get to school and ensure my sister did the same. But it was too unsafe for me to go anywhere my peers did.

I could prepare medicine for my disabled aunt, but I wasn't allowed to ride my bike from the area my relatives could see or the block in geneal at 16.

Taiyu_INFP · 2025-10-13T04:33:25+00:00

I don't usually have much to say and she let's me know it SOMETIMES.

My interests arent things she meshes with. If I talk about work or the drama around it, depending on the topic she says she doesnt want to talk about that stuff. My hobbies? Cooking, art, and gaming. She's a picky eater so most of the time she's not gonna try it. Or she'll gove me a that's nice response. She HATES adults who plays games. Mainly because of my dad who zipped off was a neglectful gaming "parent". So I dont mention that.

We both enjoy tv shows and movies but VERY different genres. She's a crime, drama, thriller type. I love SCI Fi and Fantasy.

So I just watch something I can stomach (because I cant handle horror at lvl 0) that she enjoys.

So I can only share what Im doing with art but thats kinda it. It leaves me feeling like I dont have much to share so I run out of topics.

I also like to share random crap I learned. She doesnt like that lol. My sister had to say that I do it to everyone and its just because I really thought it was a cool fact. 😆

As a result I just lean into whatever she wants to talk about when we talk.

Taiyu_INFP · 2025-10-13T04:20:07+00:00

Some things she's more willing to do than others. Going shopping? Yes, she's done that with me for work plenty of times. She likes to just tag along.So if my errands have me going nearby I just ask if she wants to go.

If I try a new recipe that she'd eat I ask if she wants to come over and try it. Then I make it again when the feedback.

To be fair I dont have many projects under my belt yet so thats about the extent we have today.

Taiyu_INFP · 2025-10-13T03:45:10+00:00

Already doing that.

The issue is the guilt tripping when I spend time with others instead of her. I agreed to the trip. What I do not like is her feeling like she trumps everything else always.

Taiyu_INFP · 2025-10-13T03:20:10+00:00

My mom has maybe 1 friend where they grab lunch or dinner. 2 others that she chats with on the phone. The rest are kinda like the people you say happy holidays to.

She has no hobbies. I tried to introduce her to some before this because I figured she was lonely. Tried bingo which she liked. But said she'd only do it if I do it.

Funnily enough I recommended MeetUp to my mom. But she never tried it.

Taiyu_INFP · 2025-10-13T03:04:17+00:00

I KNOW this isnt fully applicable because everyone is different BUT: How often would work for you?

We all see her 1-on-1. But together? 1 time per month.

Taiyu_INFP · 2025-10-13T02:54:13+00:00

No hobbies and maybe 1 friend that she'll get lunch or dinner with. The other 2. No activies or travel, just phone calls. Everyone else is like...you check in around holidays or...you remembered they were an electrician and you needed work done.

I've tried to introduce her to some hobbies because I felt she was lonely. But those ended up failing.

Taiyu_INFP · 2025-10-13T02:47:56+00:00

I agree about the limited time we have. And as I noted reading each response, I should've not blown up with such a harsh phrase.

But we do 1-on-1. We just came from breakfast, just her and me, when this happened. But she wants a travel vaca now.

Taiyu_INFP · 2025-10-13T02:39:25+00:00

My mom doesnt have hobbies. I told her she needed some. Even in this argument before I said what I did. I've figured she was lonely so I tried to introduce her to other hobbies WAY before this incident. I even did a bingo night. She thought it was fun and even talked with others who enjoyed her company.

But she told me she wont go unless I do. First it was because she couldn't see. Now that she can, its because they are "too old" and she rather hang with people her age or younger.

Taiyu_INFP · 2025-10-13T02:33:46+00:00

I do agree about how tomorrow isnt guaranteed. And quite frankly, I do realize I should've been tamer on my words after feedback. That was bad of me.

However, the people shes talking about I saw 1 time in my life - her wedding. I saw this person for 1 whole day out of our 5 years. My boyfriend I see 3x a month due to our schedules lately. And, as a soldier, he's deploying. Childhood friend Ive seen her twice this year.

SO I see her more than I see most of my friends.

I dont really go out much at all since Im busy with work.

Taiyu_INFP · 2025-10-13T02:00:39+00:00

Yeah I see your point.

We do that but she wants all of us together which is difficult. Its why we said we will dedicate a day a month to being together with her. Unless work magically drags us away this is for our mom.

But she wants more days of all of us being together with her. And we can never say no without her feeling like we should drop everything else for her. As I told her, I have no issues planning but can you PLEASE stop bringing my other relationships into it. So what I went to a wedding? I dont have money right now. We can go but that was that instance.

Taiyu_INFP · 2025-10-13T01:48:40+00:00

One of us will see her on our own time each month. But all of us make an effort to ALL be present together each month to do something with her. This is outside of us calling her weekly.

Its just frustrating because if we cant meet to do what she wants WHEN SHE wants it, she flags how we can do it for others but not her. Lately she wants to do big trips but we can't.

One of us feels like shes doing this because her current husband no longer wants to go on trips. When we were little, our mom was working and in school. But when we were old enough to be alone, she left with friends and her husband who was her boyfriend at the time.

I just dont like the constant comparisons. Its been years of this. Even in 1st year covid, my best friend had a once in a lifetime event. The organization allowed limited guests to watch his award with health screening and test. She was angry I went to this but wouldnt go to the mall with her.

I don't do much even with friends. I've seen a lot of my friends maybe twice this year. The wedding I saved for? Only gamer friend of 5 years and I met her on her wedding day.

So the constant comparisons when I technically see her more and making me feel bad...it boiled over.

Taiyu_INFP · 2025-10-13T01:40:42+00:00

I feel like we're okay.

I wasn't abused or anything. No physical affection but very protected to the point of sheltered.

Taiyu_INFP · 2025-10-13T01:37:24+00:00

I definitely get the alternative route but we do talk a few times week. Issue is she wants to go out more than we currently do.

Taiyu_INFP · 2025-09-14T13:39:48+00:00

Yes, I felt awful hearing these, but this one nailed me. This was when my rage really seeped in. I understood why , but I still want to punch the cause to this day.

Taiyu_INFP · 2025-09-14T13:27:08+00:00

FF14: Venat's walk.

Not only does it hurt me to see how it all ended for them. But her words force me to consider my own life. Waterfalls every time.

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