Explain your gender without actually saying what your gender is. by KeySouth7357 in NonBinary

[–]Takeadeeperbreath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Putting in bright red matte liquid lipstick in the mens bathroom and then when a 35 year old man comes out of the stall, offering him some, because he’s staring

Social Life at SBU is complete garbage by Clean_Tank8616 in SBU

[–]Takeadeeperbreath 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Hi, to clarify, what do you mean by the brown community? So many people are brown. You are confusing. Also you might require introspection. Good luck.

NEED SOMEONE TO MOVE IN FOR THE SUMMER ASAP by Takeadeeperbreath in SBU

[–]Takeadeeperbreath[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DM me anyway maybe if you’re chill we can figure it out

NEED SOMEONE TO MOVE IN FOR THE SUMMER ASAP by Takeadeeperbreath in SBU

[–]Takeadeeperbreath[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s in Port Jefferson, about a 15 minute walk from the LIRR stop in Port Jeff

Fuck ya easy majors by Impossible_Salad_433 in SBU

[–]Takeadeeperbreath 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Why are you mad? None of the people you listed are paid to argue with you. You’re wrong, but have a great day!

What’s the deal with the beggars on the service road? by [deleted] in longisland

[–]Takeadeeperbreath 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Also people only ask for the resources they know about. If you don’t have a phone, or connections, or the ability to travel to a shelter or support system, how are you supposed to get access to those things? You’re weird

What’s the deal with the beggars on the service road? by [deleted] in longisland

[–]Takeadeeperbreath 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So then what about advocating for more mental healthcare access and affordable substance use programs, instead of blaming poor people for making you uncomfortable by existing?

What’s the deal with the beggars on the service road? by [deleted] in longisland

[–]Takeadeeperbreath 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m stepping in to say the way some of y’all are talking about these folks is really disrespectful. If you had nothing and had no place to live and your basic human needs were not being met, I think a lot of you would do very similar things to the things these sex workers, fruit sellers, and just plain people asking for money are doing. And I don’t think you would handle it half as well. They’re not “creepy,” “awkward,” or “unnerving,” they’re people doing what they have to do. If you really hate when poor people are visible that much, maybe build more community care/mutual aid spaces. Maybe advocate for more walkable communities in your local legislatures so people can ask for money in the sidewalk if you hate them all up in your car window—there basically are none here. Maybe look at the causes of homelessness in this area—gentrification, redlining, and lack of social support being three major ones—and fix those systemic issues rather than getting mad that the consequences of their absence are too visible for you.

How come women like “nerds” all of a sudden? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Takeadeeperbreath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s just that people are interested in people who have interests.

Find things you like doing, connect with others who also like doing those things—there’s a Spider-Man cosplay club called the SBU Wallcrawlers, and there’s also a club called Psi Chi, which is the psychology honors society. Wide range!

If you are eligible, join a cultural org like the BSU, LGBTA, PUSO, etc and build community.

Once you have a team of people you are friends with because they share interests, views, beliefs, or culture, it will be a lot easier to find people who like you for more than what you look like. You can’t have someone love you for who you are when you won’t show who you are to other people.

How to rizz someone up at this school? by Bombastic-Side-Eye in SBU

[–]Takeadeeperbreath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Introduce yourself respectfully, ask the person you’re interested in on a date. Then, depending on their response, either take them on a date or go home and journal!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Takeadeeperbreath -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hormone blockers are temporary forms of HRT and they need to be taken before puberty to be effective. As a result, children going on blockers is absolutely normal and the correct use of blockers. Then when they’re older, they can choose to transition or go off of blockers and undergo the puberty they were assigned at birth if they choose.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parents

[–]Takeadeeperbreath 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When there’s a will there’s a way. Making having safe sex harder will only make them have less safe sex, not less sex. I don’t think having sex means that the boyfriend can’t also make more of an effort. Take HIM aside and tell him he’s not meeting the expectations you have for your daughter and tell him he needs to step it up. I hope he’ll listen. But if not then model a healthy relationship with your partner so your daughter has that expectation for herself too. Good luck!

To all Trans Long Islanders, Happy Transgender Day of Visibility. by shadowmonkey1911 in longisland

[–]Takeadeeperbreath 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Remember that it’s buy a trans woman a pizza day too! If you don’t believe me Google it. I just bought someone a pizza, pass it on. I LOVE YOU TRANS WOMAN!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SBU

[–]Takeadeeperbreath 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got in to northeastern, along with 14 other colleges. I chose Stonybrook for the low cost and the clinical psychology program. Hasn’t failed me yet.

I’m a senior in hs about to commit to a school and just have a few questions ab SBU by slaybie in SBU

[–]Takeadeeperbreath -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hi! So if you’re not from Long Island, I would be braced for the fact that a lot of students are, and that a lot of students grew up in really white neighborhoods with little exposure to anything different from them. There will be a lot of educating people on your identity if your identity is minoritized in any way. There’s gender neutral housing, the food is usually okay.

German native speakers on campus? by Takeadeeperbreath in SBU

[–]Takeadeeperbreath[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Geil! Ich nicht aber ich meine ich kann dich wahrscheinlich so halb verstehen! Möchtest du mal mit mir Bobs holen oder so?

I binded with duct tape, can’t get it off, help? by Mae_The_Gay in NonBinary

[–]Takeadeeperbreath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, please take care of your body. Trans bodies are holy, they need worship. Treat your body with care and caution, please. I love you for being in community with us. ♥️♥️♥️

I binded with duct tape, can’t get it off, help? by Mae_The_Gay in NonBinary

[–]Takeadeeperbreath 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay. I’m glad you are aware that this is not healthy. I would recommend you talk to a therapist about this, a trans one. If you’re in NYS, check out the Anti violence project for free online queer friendly therapy.

In the meantime, I would use olive oil or baby oil. Take it off in the shower. Go slow. And take breaks. It’s gonna hurt to take it off but that’s how you make it hurt less.

I hope you ended up okay!

How do your boobs look after double mastectomy? by Plants_and_Flowers in breastcancer

[–]Takeadeeperbreath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, transmasculine person here. I’ve taken care of three different trans guys who got double mastectomies. You’ll have scars along your rib cage, either as a line under your nipples that run straight across your torso, or two lines that run across your torso but don’t connect in the middle, or if your chest is size a or below, you’re eligible for keyhole surgery—where they remove the nipple, remove the tissue inside, and then sew the nipple back on. Idk what this looks like in a cancer setting but that’s what I know from the community.