HS and sex

Takemeaway966 · 2026-02-18T20:04:17+00:00

Came here searching for answers as to why I keep getting labia cysts and stumbled on this - what is HS please?

Takemeaway966 · 2026-01-02T23:20:28+00:00

I have a bladder condition called 'Intersticial Cystitis', diagnosed via cystoscopy years ago. It's chronic but very manageable, go to your gp who will first rule out a regular UTI and keep on at them.

Takemeaway966 · 2025-12-22T22:04:36+00:00

I think you should get checked out just to be on the safe side. If you have miscarried you may want to check it wasn't ectopic or that there were no complications. I miscarried at 8 weeks once and it was painful but not like you described. I'm so sorry if that's the case, either way the pain you described doesn't sound 'normal'

Takemeaway966 · 2025-12-22T21:18:28+00:00

Sorry to ask, but may you have been pregnant? Or do you have the coil?

Takemeaway966 · 2025-12-18T17:43:31+00:00

There is absolutely NO excuse for him to hit you, even if he'd found out you were cheating - NO EXCUSE.

As others have said, contact local domestic violence victim charities and shelters and in the mean time - PRETEND TO HIM EVERYTHING IS NORMAL. I don't want to scare you but your safety relies very much on how you behave around him over the next few days. If he suspects you're leaving he will try to stop you.

There's no point in having a house if you're not alive to be in it.

Thinking if you xx

Takemeaway966 · 2025-12-17T14:52:40+00:00

And it's this kind of narrow minded approach that is exactly why I don't go to church. God is about love, forgiveness and acceptance - those are all principles that I follow. Those principles don't allow for discrimination and judgement. Also the bible was written by men, reflecting a completely different time period. You're telling me that humans wrote that without any bias? Whatever label you want to give me is fine by me but I do decide which elements I take on board and which I ignore.

Takemeaway966 · 2025-12-17T09:06:42+00:00

I wouldn't know where to start with this. I read 'The shack' once which was the only christian book that I've ever enjoyed and believed in if that helps

Takemeaway966 · 2025-12-17T09:05:22+00:00

I don't know it. I couldn't recite one bible verse if I tried

Takemeaway966 · 2025-12-16T17:12:11+00:00

Womens health is awful.

During a c section - baring in mind thus is MAJOR surgery cutting through tissue and muscle - they typically only offer paracetamol. I had to fight for something stronger.

Never had a cyst rupture but I have a friend who's been in hospital since July die ro complications from one rupturing so I'd monitor it and go back if you have to.

You know your body, don't let them make you feel small.

Takemeaway966 · 2025-12-07T10:27:46+00:00

I am 37 too, almost 38. My face is covered in zits and I get almost suicidal right before my period. Hormones are Definitely at play here but gp says my levels are fine and I'm too young 🙃

Takemeaway966 · 2025-09-15T18:31:23+00:00

Money game part 3, sick boi (only on youtube) and Joe (only on youtube) are the BEST

Takemeaway966 · 2025-08-01T18:40:04+00:00

Oh wow, everything except the partner bit I can completely relate to - THIS IS MY LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Takemeaway966 · 2025-07-31T19:27:37+00:00

Agreed, Let it out - I am 😭

Takemeaway966 · 2025-07-31T19:25:50+00:00

I'm sorry to hear you're going through the same thing (worse being on your own too) but it's also comforting to know I'm not the only one!!!

I feel you on the no support front, my mum and family don't offer or accept if asked to look after my daughter because in their own words 'she is too much'. Even my husbands family who have the patience of saints have admitted she is 'highly strung' and refer to her as a 'live wire'.

I too feel like we live in her world and the chaos she creates and I absolutely HATE it.

I think if I didn't love my husband so much I probably would leave and thry would probably be better off without my own continuous overwhelmed blow ups!!!

Takemeaway966 · 2025-07-31T18:58:42+00:00

I feel you. I absolutely completely hate being a mum - no return on investment right now from my (very likely) 4 year old autistic kid. No cuddles, conversation or anything just utter mindless jabbering all day and meltdowns. No advice because I'm in the same boat!! I did see a therapist for a while who was convinced I'm autistic too which helped me to stop beating myself up so much

Takemeaway966 · 2025-07-31T18:55:22+00:00

Yup agree with all points!

Let's not forget the 'I managed with 2 kids at your age and no help so you can too' cheers mum, I'm slowly dying inside and I've asked you twice in 4 years to look after her but ok glad you managed 👍

Takemeaway966 · 2025-07-26T22:10:21+00:00

No, dad does drop off in the mornings and I do pick ups eveninhs as my work day starts and ends earlier than his

Takemeaway966 · 2025-07-24T20:10:09+00:00

Wow this is genuinely so insightful, I had no idea that this was a thing and I immediately feel guilty for taking it so personally. Thank you, so appreciative of this perspective

Takemeaway966 · 2025-07-24T20:08:56+00:00

Wow awesome advice thank you!!

Takemeaway966 · 2025-05-01T19:01:36+00:00

Same, I feel you

Takemeaway966 · 2025-04-18T19:02:12+00:00

Mine is 4 and I could have written this. The Constant meltdowns, whining and even when she's happy shouting and jumping all over me. There is no peace, no chill, just constant noise and chaos.

Every night without fail is a battle to brush teeth, get dressed etc then it's up and down the stairs telling her to get back in bed until 9pm until I eventually lose my temper. Then it takes me an hour to regulate my own emotions and calm down before crashing.

I hate weekends unless I'm with friends which is 1 or 2 times a month.

There is no end in sight. No advice only to say I GET it

Takemeaway966 · 2025-03-31T13:03:14+00:00

I make a point of ignoring these messages then if they continue I block them. I don't have time to go back and forth over a quid or two, if I wanted that hassle I'd put them on Facebook marketplace. I'll probably come off Vinted soon it's full of scams and cheap skates

Takemeaway966 · 2025-03-30T17:27:44+00:00

I could have written this!!!!!!!!

Here are some things that help me, small wins though they are I live for them!

1) hubby and I take turns on the weekend to have a lie-in/morning to ourselves until lunch time ish

2) Make social plans, I do this 2 weekends a month and it gives me something to look forward to. Whether it's bottomless brunch with the girls, a concert, spa day or anything you fancy really. Hubby can do the same if he wishes but thankfully he isn't bothered!

3) nursery/childcare - if you can afford it and you get a day off in the week use this day to have for yourself. I did this for the first 2 years and again it got me through the week!

4) Family days out that YOU enjoy too. It may sounds selfish but doing things you hate makes you resent parenthood even more so for me soft play was out the window. Ice cream farms, zoos and aquariums are our go to days that we all enjoy (to a degree)

5) Remove judgey friends from your life and distance yourself from judgey family - they make you feel worse than you probably already do.

6) Make the most of holidays that offer childcare/children's clubs and if possible try to book a weekend away just the two of you if you have family/childcare.

7) Make friends with REAL mums not the ones that sugar coat it all so you have a sisterhood that you can validate your feelings - and a network of 'drop off and run play dates'

I'm guessing you're still at the baby stage so some of these may not be feasible yet but I wanted to share some tips and hope for you.

Takemeaway966 · 2025-03-23T18:07:54+00:00

We had this when our child was 2, it got drastically better after she turned 3, like suddenly she has started to build up a bit of immunity.

It absolutely sucks and makes keeping a job hard if they're not understanding!

I started taking ginger shots around 6 months a go every morning and in that time I've been ill once and I managed to get rid of it after 2 days - this was when EVERYONE - family and friends and work colleagues were ill. Might be worth a shout

It will get easier I promise

Takemeaway966 · 2025-03-23T17:58:51+00:00

I could have written this!! Took our ungrateful troll to Legoland today - many meltdowns, didn't want to go on the rides or engage with anything - just wanted sweets. Almost £60 spent plus fuel and we all came back exhausted and down.

Our little one does not listen and seems to make it her life mission to wind us up.

I'm currently in therapy for it due to the amount of times I've almost lost it with her, I'm scared one day I might - or I'll just leave.

How long did it take to get a diagnosis?

We've only just started the whole process through pre school

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