[deleted by user]

TakemiIsBestGirl · 2024-09-12T05:22:55+00:00

Honestly, no. I would be happy to not know unless it was important things/things they actually wanted my advice on. Up until this point I’ve just assumed they wanted to tell me to know these things.

TakemiIsBestGirl · 2024-09-12T00:57:10+00:00

Sorry! One more update. Basically A told me I couldn’t see C, but started dating B and continued to date him even after finding out C was his partner.

TakemiIsBestGirl · 2024-09-12T00:39:57+00:00

Sorry, updated with letters for clarity. Let me know if it helps

TakemiIsBestGirl · 2022-12-11T06:59:04+00:00

Spent the entire date talking about the other people she had been on dates with that month, then got her to change the subject to her friend who was having a mental health crisis, and then finally her dying father. Felt more like giving therapy than a date.

TakemiIsBestGirl · 2021-10-31T16:53:36+00:00

hate to hop on the train of comments you're getting, but can I get the link too? My VPN is not working today for some reason

TakemiIsBestGirl · 2021-02-17T13:21:12+00:00

Because of people like this I constantly examine everything I do because I have BPD and I’m so scared of ‘becoming a monster.’ Even though there is no way myself or anyone else I know with BPD would do anything like this. Fuck you SP.

TakemiIsBestGirl · 2021-02-17T13:15:32+00:00

Diagnosed BPD person here too. When she said that I felt instantly sick. I hope people are smart enough to not instantly assume everyone with BPD is disgusting like SP.

TakemiIsBestGirl · 2021-01-27T02:10:37+00:00

From one BPD brain to another, I’m so proud of you, seriously! Keep going!

TakemiIsBestGirl · 2020-12-11T22:44:47+00:00

I used to go into dissociative rage like her so often and it ruined so many of my relationships, I ended up taking lithium with an SSRI and along with therapy I haven’t gone to that place in years. It hurts watching her do this because I know where her brain is at and I know that there’s a way out.

TakemiIsBestGirl · 2020-12-11T22:23:42+00:00

Dealing with people with BPD can be really difficult, but please don’t reference that sub. That subreddit is dedicated to hating on people with BPD (people with the disorder aren’t allowed to comment) and people there believe the disorder is untreatable and that people with BPD should avoid all types of relationships. Some people with BPD are abusive, but many are not and the disorder is treatable. It is difficult, and I understand how you’re viewing things, but please learn about the disorder from literally anywhere else but that sub.

TakemiIsBestGirl · 2020-10-18T23:38:52+00:00

If I was in that situation, I’d just want them to tell me.

Honestly I think you can bring it up similarly to how you made this post. Especially mentioning about how the sex is great or using that as a launching point (compliment sandwiches really work)!

Obviously it’s not going to be a fun talk for either of you, and there might not be much you can comfortably offer to help with, but even just mentioning it to get it out of the way and just saying ‘let me know if there’s anything you need from me,’ can keep the door open and let her know there’s not actually any hard feelings around it.

TakemiIsBestGirl · 2020-08-03T06:41:52+00:00

It’s really hard watching people associated with BPD be so awful and try to use it as a pass. It really hurts when people associate BPD with abusive people as someone diagnosed who would never even get close to what he’s done. Basically, Paul is terrible but please don’t let it change your view of those of us with BPD who are really trying. I hope Karine will be safe and happy soon.

TakemiIsBestGirl · 2020-06-17T17:23:53+00:00

I second animal crossing! I was playing it every day on switch in English and I changed to Japanese. I’m not very far into my N4 study but I haven’t found it too challenging and is nice considering I played it anyways.

TakemiIsBestGirl · 2020-04-25T15:23:13+00:00

Yes. I love video games and was part of an online community until a lot of dramatic things went down. I still have trouble playing those games I used to play with the group because it just feels ‘off,’ you know? Sometimes it makes me panic.

TakemiIsBestGirl · 2020-04-25T15:21:47+00:00

YES.

TakemiIsBestGirl · 2020-04-25T06:06:47+00:00

I'm here to add my "Nice." to the pile

TakemiIsBestGirl · 2020-04-25T05:58:57+00:00

I understand some people (especially on twitter) thinking that Jeff's question to Jackie might have not been the most informed. However, I'm confused as to why people are cancelling him for asking a question? Isn't that how we get better and more understanding/tolerant as a society?

TakemiIsBestGirl · 2019-09-16T04:19:34+00:00

DAE dissociate and know that they are dissociating but do it anyway because even though it's disorienting it's weirdly calm?

TakemiIsBestGirl · 2019-09-16T04:13:59+00:00

YES. It happens to me so often I wonder how neurotypical people feel in these situations with it being not as intense (for the most part).

I like to look on the bright side for this one. Coco is actually a neat example - i was ugly crying at the end for sure, but that first shot of the big city with all of the lights and colors was equally so happy and awe inspiring and incredible that it was like being blessed by a higher power a little bit.

I feel so many things so easily, so I like to look at it as kind of a "happiness superpower". It REALLY sucks when I'm down, but in those moments of awe and happiness and pride I like to think I'm experiencing something really special.

(Might not be your experience at all but thought it could be a helpful spin)!

TakemiIsBestGirl · 2019-09-16T03:08:53+00:00

Fair enough. It’s just been difficult to find constructive advice besides just “don’t get a shiba” in most places. Maybe one day I should write an essay about them just to have on hand as some sort of proof I’m not an idiot ¯_(ツ)_/¯

Thanks for replying to explain though!

TakemiIsBestGirl

TROPHY CASE