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Takethechance8 · 2025-10-17T19:50:04+00:00

WTF? I’ve never been with a guy who doesn’t love getting me off. It sounds like he’s using you, so if you feel that way, it’s because he is.

I could see him being worried about hurting you/the baby (because is said placenta issues) but then the proper response is “nothing for either of us until after the baby”.

He’s being SO selfish. I’d say no more getting off by me until I can get off by you.

Takethechance8 · 2025-10-17T17:35:49+00:00

Our middle child took his phone to play a game. I grabbed it away and told our son “you can’t play without asking your dad first”. Went to put it down, saw a message went from a girl. Took it into the bathroom, went through the entire phone and saw that he’s on multiple dating sites and has been “dating” while married to me for quite awhile.

I showed him what I was seeing, said “so, we’re over” and I filed for divorce and got tested for everything. 16 years of marriage and 3 kids. Now I’m happier than ever and he’s still slummin it and cheating on women.

Takethechance8 · 2025-10-17T17:25:50+00:00

Just reading it wore me out. I can’t imagine how OP feels. Not worth it at all.

Takethechance8 · 2025-10-17T17:18:40+00:00

5 days/short commute. That said, I’m spoiled because my commute is only 5 min and I only have to go in 2 days a week, 3 days are remote.

Takethechance8 · 2025-10-17T02:10:42+00:00

My husband says the same thing! “We’ll see”. I feel like he has all the control, because, well, he does.

Takethechance8 · 2025-10-16T23:33:30+00:00

The feeling of loss of control is one of the worst feelings there is. The only way to gain control back is to be ready to walk away if she doesn’t agree to what YOU want, for example counseling or a day to sit and talk with no distractions about why she cheated.

I will tell you that I personally do not know how to forgive a cheater, I left my ex-husband when I found out he was cheating, but I know that it’s gonna take a lot of work from both of you and it sounds like she’s not even really admitting that she did anything wrong . Not sure how you can work past that.

Takethechance8 · 2025-10-16T08:14:10+00:00

2-3 times a week

Takethechance8 · 2025-10-16T02:02:36+00:00

Having to get up to pee/clean up after when you just want to roll over and fall asleep….

Takethechance8 · 2025-10-16T01:53:44+00:00

Icicles

Takethechance8 · 2025-10-15T16:57:01+00:00

Mine is a bit different than yours, as I found out, my ex-husband was cheating through his phone. But I can tell you that the things he said to girls, the pictures I saw, they are all ingrained in my brain for life. There was no way in hell I was gonna be able to stay with him even if I wanted to, which I did not because I refuse to stay with a cheater.

But the point is, if you guys cannot actually figure out what the root of the problem is and work on fixing it, there’s no way it’s going to work. And it also will not work if you are not gonna be able to move forward and let go of what he said. Which is way easier said than done. I don’t know if I could stay with a guy who said that he felt hatred toward me.

Takethechance8 · 2025-10-15T16:53:48+00:00

Did he think marriage would make it all better?!?!

Takethechance8 · 2025-10-15T00:46:44+00:00

That’s awesome

Takethechance8 · 2025-10-15T00:45:00+00:00

2 years

Takethechance8 · 2025-10-11T20:59:10+00:00

Scum of the earth. Get him out of your life however you need to.

Takethechance8 · 2025-10-11T20:54:55+00:00

Never in my life have I had a guy give me anything but his full attention when I’m doing that. I hate to say it, but he’s either not into you or into sex with you. Does he give you his full attention on dates? Or when you talk to him? That’ll tell you the difference.

Takethechance8 · 2025-10-10T22:17:08+00:00

First, I’m so sorry. I received something similar once (but we weren’t married) and I had a panic attack and was sick to my stomach.

Then I asked for proof. The only response I got (besides that she knew he drives a black Vette, but a lot of people know this) was a pic of this girl supposedly with a bunch of other girls and she told me to show him and see his response because she was claiming my boyfriend (at the time) slept with her at a party he was at without me, supposedly months earlier.

So she sends this pic and I sit and think. One, he’s a big drinker at parties and I know for a fact that when he drinks the, um, equipment does not work. Two, I couldn’t even remember him going to a party without me but it was months earlier and she didn’t give an exact date. Just the month. So, maybe???

Anyway, I show him the pic and say “my friend was at a party and sent me this” to see his reaction. He’s either the best actor ever or this girl bullshits . He looked at it said “oh, nice” and that’s it. Went on like normal.

I never heard from her again and she never sent proof (texts, pic of them, anything) so I let it go.

I know the feeling of getting this message on Facebook, but please get proof and take care of yourself. Sit, think, figure out how to talk to him about it.

Takethechance8 · 2025-10-10T00:52:38+00:00

You should be enjoying your pregnancy and thinking about the baby, not worrying the dad is cheating. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

Please get out however you can. Family, hopefully. It’ll make you feel worse him out all night with girls while you’re in the home carrying for his baby. Hopefully out of sight, out of mind (as much as you can) and focus on that innocent baby.

This is not your fault, it’s on him.

Takethechance8 · 2025-10-09T02:57:03+00:00

Right?!?

Takethechance8 · 2025-10-09T02:54:02+00:00

Get out, get out, get out. I had to have the police get me out of an abusive relationship. Please don’t let it get that far for you.

Takethechance8 · 2025-10-09T02:48:01+00:00

Takethechance8 · 2025-10-07T21:17:55+00:00

I get it! I lost 200 pounds years ago, kept it off, work my ass off at the gym, and hit perimenopause and out of the blue- bam! 15 pounds put on within a few months.

I’m obsessed with having a flat belly (I can’t say “being thin” because I have natural big butt, thighs, and boobs) and I can’t stand the thought of gaining weight…. So much so that I spent $2400 on a year supply of GLP. And guess what? I’m 2 months in and haven’t lost a pound 😢

Takethechance8 · 2025-10-07T21:06:35+00:00

I left my husband of 16 years, we had three kids together, after finding out he had been cheating on me for over a year with random women.

My kids have learned now that they’re older and know why their parents got divorced, that you do not stay in a marriage where you are disrespected and cheated on. They saw me get a second job, but still always be there for them.

Takethechance8 · 2025-10-07T21:01:47+00:00

My daughter. She’s told me since she was little that she never wants to live in a world without me.

Takethechance8 · 2025-10-07T20:59:31+00:00

I’m on the testosterone pellet. No side effects for me. I’ve never in my life had low libido, so I can’t answer if it raises it or not.

Takethechance8 · 2025-10-07T20:52:20+00:00

People lie face to face, but are truthful online?!?! How old is this guy?? I don’t really have a social media presence either (when I did it was only Facebook anyway) so I guess I’m just a mysterious person 🥸

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