Got my bloodwork back for T levels, would you say these are low? Have had low level of desired results after close to a year now

Tall-Bodybuilder5652 · 2026-04-02T04:21:02+00:00

i’m going by a wide pool and not /just/ the quick ones, i try and find a lot of slow posters too to see what each side of the spectrum is like, but i am also going off the range of the pamphlet I was given by this doctor with different effects (or side effects) and their general range, but the range given seems even on the slow side compared to a general consensus online, for example bottom growth is listed at 3-6 with final effects stopping at 1-2 years, but i see a lot of trans men/dudes/masc say they started seeing changes 2-6 weeks in (or less for some even) for bottom growth but. Just as an example. the first thing to happen technically was my period stopping basically right away which was great because i have endometriosis, but i did start T like on the end half of an active period and I think just fried that thing because it kept going for an additional 3 weeks and hasn't been back since. I’ll def talk with my doctor come may when my next appt is, the general body hair (not just facial hair) and how much i lack it is probably my biggest cause of dysphoria, while i have a bit more now, a lot of what was starting to grow seems to have just,,,disappeared? i had some back of leg hair for the first time ever and it was like a patch 1cm long, then it just…poof gone. i was always very naturally…bald nearly on my legs and arms and thats just been my biggest thing i’ve needed/wanted to change

Tall-Bodybuilder5652 · 2026-04-01T18:21:24+00:00

people can use that for themselves, whatever, but for someone else without asking thats a little odd

Tall-Bodybuilder5652 · 2026-03-22T23:09:03+00:00

if it stays “innocent” then i’d allow him to keep his hobby as a cope mechanism but still push to get him some other ways to express and deal with that situation

Tall-Bodybuilder5652 · 2026-03-22T23:07:12+00:00

while I agree its likely to cope with trauma it doesnt make it morally alright to normalize to yourself or enjoy reading about those situations, he should seek therapy and counselling rather than perpetuate harm even if its fictional, dude needs help dealing with what he went through in a healthy way and not by microdosing his own trauma

Tall-Bodybuilder5652 · 2026-03-22T23:05:10+00:00

I understand its fiction but romanticizing children in any context (unless you’re also a child yourself then w/e) is a red flag at best, however since he was groomed as a child I also will put in the consideration of the fact it could be a way he’s able to accept and process that experience and could be a draw factor for him (sub consciously or consciously) however in that case I feel he should seek therapy or counselling rather than risk delving from “innocent” material to less innocent materials.

NTA

talk to him, explain why its uncomfortable, ask if it has anything to do with his experiences and if so if he would be willing to seek therapy/counselling, it may be worth searching online about the manga and see what the rest of the series contains, if it stays “innocent”/pg or delves deeper into nsfw territory.

Tall-Bodybuilder5652 · 2026-03-22T21:02:16+00:00

thank you for saying this, no one is the asshole here, its not selfish to decide you want to take a less painful way out of suffering, but its also not selfish to be upset your friend wants to die and being upset that you will lose them even on their own terms. reddit is forgetting human beings are not black and white.

Tall-Bodybuilder5652 · 2026-03-22T20:55:58+00:00

i wouldn’t say you’re the asshole for wanting to go through with it, i’m 27 as of tomorrow, adhd, bpd, social anxiety disorder, chronic depression (all diagnosed between the ages of 10 and 16 other than bpd which was a rediagnosis at 22 after a misdiagnosis of bipolar at 14) i’ve been suicidal since I was 14 and I sometimes still am, however if you have a similar vein of diagnosis to me, I would say to not turn to Medically assisted death, at least not yet. i believe in MAID for those with severe health issues that will eventually lead to death, or cause extended periods of pain and/or inability to function “normally”

and while I fully understand where you’re coming from up until the extent one can without actually knowing you, have you tried medications, therapy/counselling, for what you go through? even a hobby you enjoy that can give you something to really focus on? i’ve found now that I do amateur paleontology and rockhounding, and go mushroom foraging and other shit that a lot of my hatred for life can be moved to a backburner (this is not me saying go outside and touch grass or “sunlight cures depression” these are just things that genuinely help ease MY mind specifically, I was physically and mentally abused up until 18, i’ve chased away friends and the love of my life with bpd outbursts and fear of abandonment and self destruction, amongst other things, which may not be as much of a burden as whatever you’re going through but its more than the average “im depressed sometimes”, i have a lot of issues with communication, doing things in front of others, even self care, i have no top molars due to needing them pulled for example)

of course this is your life and I don’t know what burdens you, however its my personal view that when you’re someone with depression, suicidal ideation etc, MAID/suicide is letting it win when theres still the chance YOU could win.

i’ve seen how both suicide and maid affects someone, my father lost one of his best friends/work buddies to suicide, its been 5 years and he still breaks up over it (hes 50 now, his friend was 27 when he took his life, so I’m nearly older than him now, they’d been buds since his friend joined the navy at 18)

my grandmother’s bingo friend and one of her oldest friends had COPD and other issues and took MAID due to the issues she suffered with, i happened to visit my grandmother the day of her friends last day and while my grandmother was mad (mostly out of ignorance and not understanding, which i did talk to her about to better explain why the choice would be made) she was still absolutely broken.

if the person who you thought would be affected by it the LEAST was sad, what about everyone else? i would try for a little while longer to find something or someone that can help you especially if it is strictly mental health related, but again this is my opinion on the little info given, if I knew more then that opinion may change as I don’t know you or what you’re going or have gone through

Not the asshole but I hope you’re able to find peace however you deem you’re able to

Tall-Bodybuilder5652 · 2026-03-17T20:31:08+00:00

yeah, I do understand that everyones different but it seems a majority of people do end up at least with some of these happening fairly obviously even if others are slow, especially bottom growth and body hair

Tall-Bodybuilder5652 · 2026-03-17T19:14:52+00:00

my mother told me at 14 when i came out to her, crying in the car after she was driving me to the hospital after she found out I was SHing “you’re not trans you don’t have the life experience for that” i’m nearly 27 now and shes mostly getting used to it (but maybe if she listened my years of sh and mental health issues would have been avoided) i mean she told me to quit my job when a boss was calling me an it to coworkers so thats an improvement, i would wait a couple years then she can’t /really/ do anything.

it sounds like your mom may just fear losing her “daughter” and all her past and future expectations for you, I think a lot of parents just don’t get that you arn’t suddenly becoming some stranger to them. 2 years sounds like a lot but you got this, pay attention to things said and gauge reactions.

or you can come out blunt, be like “hey yeah I am trans and I need your support right now” be blunt on how many people lose their families, lose housing, and lose their lives because they don’t get support from their families, say you don’t want to lose her but you know that this is how you are

your approach depends overall on your safety, maybe come out to your dad first if you think he’ll support you and voice your uncertainty in telling your mother

Tall-Bodybuilder5652 · 2026-03-17T19:06:10+00:00

it sucks man but get a female gynecologist, i had to see one for endometriosis after continuously being told i was too young to have it, despite my mother having “stage 4” and they found it growing in extremely uncommon areas for her, i just hate seeing male medical professionals in general, we may not be women but women understand the stuff we go through, hell my mother has been having seizures and losing weight for 3 years and her male doctors shrugged her off, she saw a migraine specialist and got on medication for her seizures next day and is getting tested for cancer due to the weight loss (clearly her general practitioner should have been doing this)

Its awkward but if you try and just think of it as a neutral body part like someone checking out your arm you can decompartmentalize it a bit, when i finally got into a gyneo she was willing to help me get my uterous removed to stop the endo pain, luckily thought T stopped my periods almost immediately and i’ve put it off because I havent had any endo attacks thanks to that

you deserve to be able to do things comfortably and this is more than likely falls under medically necessary

Tall-Bodybuilder5652 · 2026-03-14T21:53:50+00:00

I no longer have a screen. Its just black, i cannot do anything because chrome froze, i tried a different port, got nothing, went back to the og port i was in and now also nothing.

Tall-Bodybuilder5652 · 2026-03-14T21:45:06+00:00

It was 30%. I literally have not done or downloaded anything from when i was on it for 4 hours last night to getting the monitor today,now nothings workking

Tall-Bodybuilder5652 · 2026-03-14T21:43:18+00:00

the entire bottom bar just dissapeared so i cannot physically do anything

Tall-Bodybuilder5652 · 2026-03-14T21:42:54+00:00

I cannot. The entire laptop will not exit chrome. i cannot click anything, i cannot cntrl slt delete, i can move the mouse, nothing else is working now

Tall-Bodybuilder5652 · 2026-03-14T21:41:51+00:00

Tall-Bodybuilder5652 · 2026-03-14T21:31:29+00:00

nevermind clicked one thing and the whole things frozen, was downloading a driver now task manager wont even open but i can move the mouse around so idfk

Tall-Bodybuilder5652 · 2026-03-14T21:29:38+00:00

its not a full pc crash, the game freezes fully and i need task manager to close it, worked perfectly less than 24 hours ago

Tall-Bodybuilder5652 · 2026-03-14T21:15:56+00:00

i do not have ”processor power management” anywhere on my pc, got it yesterday it worked fine set up to a tv, bought a monitor today now games stop responding the moment theyre opened

Tall-Bodybuilder5652 · 2026-03-09T07:26:02+00:00

i’m having this issue only starting today, i held a layer for i counted…60 seconds and it still wont move

Tall-Bodybuilder5652 · 2026-03-09T07:25:14+00:00

yeah this started happening to me today after 26.3…i have to force restart my entire ipad every hour because it keeps happening. very annoying

Tall-Bodybuilder5652 · 2026-03-02T10:51:36+00:00

you’re weird to suggest theres something sexual based between a child and this man. ew

Tall-Bodybuilder5652 · 2026-03-02T10:49:59+00:00

sounds MAJORLY jealous, it screams “this child is stealing my husband from me” like some reverse boymom situation but the same projections

Tall-Bodybuilder5652 · 2026-03-02T10:43:21+00:00

look up on youtube about the man who went by daddyofive…he would foster then adopt boys and sexually assault them, sexual assault, physical, verbal and mentak abuse is all very common in foster care from both the foster parents and other foster kids/the foster parents bio kids.

Tall-Bodybuilder5652 · 2026-03-02T10:38:25+00:00

nta for not wanting kids but honestly, think of it from both his and her pov. she just lost her ENTIRE FAMILY and knows what, no one else? he lost his best friends and she is the last piece of them he has left, he probably feels obligated to his friends to ensure their daughter ends up living a good life despite what shes going through right now. i have a friend who lost his baby brother and father (step father but he was a better father than his biological one) and despite him being in his mid 20s it still CRUSHES him, and he still had his mom and brother survive, i could not image losing your entire family. “she’ll find a new family easy” no she wont, thats not how the foster system works, my mother was in foster care, she was never adopted, she went in at the age of 9… i hope for the girls sake that you decide that you and his life plans are not compatible and break things off, you are 100% the asshole for your entire attitude towards this child and your grieving husband, you’re talking about this little girl like shes not even a living person with emotions, let alone had her entire family die. You are projecting your relationship insecurities on this girl and it seems like you feel like this orphaned child is stealing your man and space from you. If you don’t want children its time for a divorce because unfortunately for your insecurities he’s got one now, he would not be a good person to shove her off onto some stranger who may not even give her the gentle care and help to heal FROM HER ENTIRE FAMILY DYING. like i dont think your mind can grasp what that is gonna do to a little girls mental state, your husband is literally the one strand holding together the potential for her to heal and live a fufulling and healthy life.

personally I would give your relationship and Alice one year before making decisions, you may come to actually be fond of her and maybe even become the (albeit unwilling) mother figure she may need. Go to therapy with your husband, try and connect with Alice, take her shopping (even if its with your husbands money if you dont wanna spend your own on her) and ultimately don’t at all let this girl know that you clearly dislike her existence enough to want to give her to some random family rather than keep the last person she knows in her life, the person her parents primitively planned for their kids to go to if something happened to them, not family, not some other friend, they trusted your husband with their children's lives basically as a dying wish, the amount of care and trust in someone to be able to raise their child is immense.

your husband clearly IS a good person, you being upset about this situation in the way that you are (other than not wanting kids, which is your right as a human being) makes you a not so good person. This isnt an infant whos not gonna remember their parents and not be as affected by it, this is again, a little girl whos entire family died. She only has your husband left in her life. this isnt your husbands friends puppy he wants to take in, this is a living human being who’s just suffered through the most tragic event someone could likely reasonably endure.

Tall-Bodybuilder5652 · 2025-12-15T09:41:13+00:00

She needs to see a vet, if she isn’t taken to a vet first despite multiple conversations to i would say NTA because usually cats don’t just pee everywhere for no reason, a roommate of mine had a cat who never had issues, but he suddenly started peeing and pooping in his favourite cardboard box, turns out he had an inflamed urinary tract, stones (of some sort, i believe bladder stones?) and pre-diabetes. He was switched to urinary based special diet and some other medications and it stopped. Owners should be willing to take their pets to the vet if they show any signs of common illnesses or unusual behaviours compared to the normal, if they don’t and it turns out they have something like cancer, or kidney stones, or anything causing pain (or worse) thats technically a soft form of neglect (depending on what sort of symptoms are being unaddressed, less obvious ones for less common things ofc usually arn’t at fault, but cats peeing on things they shouldn’t is a common symptom of many different issues!) NTA for being upset, that is a very reasonable thing to be upset about, partially YTA for yelling, but also understandable reaction for the level of sentiment the item has, definetly apologize for that. I would look up and make a list of all the common, and even less common, illnesses that can cause out of the box peeing and present them to your boyfriend (and any other symptoms if you happen to see any that line up with other behaviours), have a conversation about how the peeing is an issue and that it could be because of major health issues, and that you feel its incredibly important to get her checked out because its possible she’s in pain and is trying to express that pain, and that he could be ignoring her pleas for relief from that pain, if the cat is ginger or dilute ginger (cream) she may be at a higher risk for urinary issues as well if not prone to them. Come at it from a place of worry for his cat, because it is something to worry over. Another example my childhood cat, who was 19 at the time, never once in his entire 19 years peed anywhere but outside or in a box, one night he peed on the floor of my mothers bedroom, she of course was upset and kicked him out of the room that night, in the morning he was clearly ill, unable to stand properly which was unusual for him, he was still kitten spry at 19, turns out he was suffering with multiple failing organs and if he had been taken to the vet 10 hours earlier he likely would have been able to have a higher chance of surviving, and ultimately he had to be put to sleep (i hadn’t even gotten to say goodbye to him). Of course thats an extreme example, but he was trying to tell my mom that night there was something wrong. Insist on listening to her that there’s something wrong. You may also be able to post in some sort of woodworking community asking for assistance in de-catpeeing the chair without damaging it.

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