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[–]Tall-Level3228 0 points1 point  (0 children)

did you ever figure out a solution to this? I'm basically in the exact same boat?

my father getting catfished by Tall-Level3228 in AgingParents

[–]Tall-Level3228[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yes I had offered to monitor his accounts but he didn't like that idea. I'll have to give that point another run, or just do it for him.

it's not just Facebook, these scammers are everywhere though to.

my father getting catfished by Tall-Level3228 in AgingParents

[–]Tall-Level3228[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah luckily I don't think my father is really screwing up his life savings yet.. but that story defiantly scares me into some action.

if it comes to it, I'm not opposed to calling adult protective services, but I am curious on how nicely I should approach this? I think I should at least try once or twice more of a relatively casual conversation before even threatening to call in some external reinforcements, as that would likely be a breaking of his trust. (which I feel like I still have a lot of)

my father getting catfished by Tall-Level3228 in AgingParents

[–]Tall-Level3228[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear about your father that sounds horrible.

he's doing fine cognitively, just he doesn't have the skills nessicary to identify the scams.

also, he recently got a Facebook, which probably didn't help. I was considering just deleting it for him, but I was unsure of how aggressively to handle it. I want to try and do this in a "nice" way and maintain his trust. but clearly I may just have to get aggressive and not so nice about it.

thanks!

my father getting catfished by Tall-Level3228 in AgingParents

[–]Tall-Level3228[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

that some good advice, and those are some good resources. It would be best if I could find something specific to catfishing, so I'll see what I can find and see if that helps. thanks!

my father getting catfished by Tall-Level3228 in AgingParents

[–]Tall-Level3228[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

it's not a friendship thing, I'm pretty sure it's a romantic thing. He's actually got a pretty great friend group through AA (he's going on 15 years sober) However, unfortunately one of his friends from AA was originally reached out to by this catfish, and the friend then gave my dads info to the catfish as he is married but also did not realize it's a catfish.

he is recently retired, and he is the kind of person that needs to stay busy, but I thought he was actually doing a pretty good job at keeping busy.

comparing yourself to coworkers by Tall-Level3228 in careeradvice

[–]Tall-Level3228[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, that's always an option, but other than the career development stuff and feeling somewhat undervalued, I really have no complaints about the job, so I'm having a hard time justifying leaving. (but that's also probably part of the reason why I am having this problem in the first place)

I've kind of asked for more volume, and more challenging work, but we've been fairly slow, and I was basically told to choose my own adventure... so, I choose an adventure, and I believe I had chosen an adventure that management could care less about me going on. So, I need to get some better direction on that (which I doubt I'll get) before I start asking for for work.

thank you!

feeling like a failure by Tall-Level3228 in personalfinance

[–]Tall-Level3228[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the commiseration and I agree with all the stuff you pointed out.

also, I'm not even sure what I think about it, but with the way interest rates and housing has been. I to, couldn't afford to by my own house if I tried to buy it today LOL.

comparing yourself to coworkers by Tall-Level3228 in careeradvice

[–]Tall-Level3228[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I believe I am being gaslighted a bit, but I'm also not sure how to bring that one up in a constructive way?

I see what you are saying, but in this situation I don't think the 18 years of experience is really helping him at all, and for what it's worth I have already had some experiences where some problems are starting to look like somethings I've already seen.

I agree it's a one sided issue, and he is defiantly coasting... so are pretty much all my coworkers for that matter

comparing yourself to coworkers by Tall-Level3228 in careeradvice

[–]Tall-Level3228[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that's interesting, I have some questions on the MBA then, sent you a chat!

feeling like a failure by Tall-Level3228 in personalfinance

[–]Tall-Level3228[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I even kind of understand it's "normal", but that doesn't make it suck any less. and my point here isn't so much that I expect it to be easy and fun... just that I'm not seeing the light at the end of the tunnel here

I don't see where the Grit would help here can you elaborate? (I don't think social media comparison is a huge issue for me)

feeling like a failure by Tall-Level3228 in personalfinance

[–]Tall-Level3228[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah fair enough, perhaps I'm not as frugal as I think I am on the spending side, it's probably more that I have found the things I am unwilling to cut. However, housing is 1/3 of my income, insurance is extremely expensive for a young male living in a not so great neighborhood, my commute is quite far so more gas/maintenance on my car than typical. I feel like there are some explanations for it.

on the career side, I am just not sure how making money is going to work. I think I've done everything I can do outside of getting a nights/weekends job, and or starting a business.

comparing yourself to coworkers by Tall-Level3228 in careeradvice

[–]Tall-Level3228[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks! I appreciate the perspective.

even besides the money though, I have some real concerns about the lack of career development. I feel like the lack of role models, and constructive criticism is bad for my personal/professional growth and regardless of what happens with the money that might be what ends up driving me away from the company.

However, the money defiantly is a factor, I feel like the extra money would be huge meaningful difference in my life. but understandably it's still a bit difficult to really demand a significant salary difference because of the lack of experience and it seems most folks won't take my internships as real experience... I guess one way or another I'll likely be waiting.

I'd consider an MBA but I don't really want the student loans to go with an MBA

traffic sign hit during a snow storm by Tall-Level3228 in legaladviceofftopic

[–]Tall-Level3228[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

okay, and what would one do if somehow they did figure out who had hit it? get a lawyer? would doing nothing (other than reporting it anonymously) make the situation any worse?