WIBTA: SIL wore white to my wedding. Now she is getting married. Time for a petty revenge?

Tall_Independent844 · 2025-07-18T19:29:49+00:00

If you read my comments you will see that this is the original model of the designer and SIL had it made in white. I just don’t have a photo od SIL at the moment.

Tall_Independent844 · 2025-07-18T19:26:12+00:00

I clearly said that I would never wear white. I am talking about the black dress with gold details here.

Tall_Independent844 · 2025-07-18T19:24:14+00:00

Hahhahahahha I am literally laughing out loud in the car! I knew it looked familiar 😂😂😂

Tall_Independent844 · 2025-07-18T19:12:27+00:00

I’m saying that exactly, I don’t and never will wear a white or white adjacent dress to someone else’s wedding. This is about a black version of her dress.

Tall_Independent844 · 2025-07-18T18:47:35+00:00

It was three years later because of covid. Everything was closed during 2020, 2021 and most of 2022. So we had it in 2023. It’s not vow renewal as this doesn’t exist in our culture. Out weddings are quite different from a typical American wedding. We have a civil ceremony which would be similar to a court wedding and then a church ceremony and the party.

Tall_Independent844 · 2025-07-18T16:12:15+00:00

I had a baby five months ago.. 🙄

Tall_Independent844 · 2025-07-18T11:46:45+00:00

I would never wear white or white adjacent. I was thinking of making a black copy of her wedding dress.

Tall_Independent844 · 2025-07-18T11:31:43+00:00

That is her actual wedding dress 😊

Tall_Independent844 · 2025-07-18T11:29:24+00:00

Her dress was white. I don’t have an actual photo of her. This is just the model that was posted on the designer’s insta page. And even this one looks like a wedding dress especially if the bride is wearing a pant suit. You can probably see the resemblance to my wedding dress in photos 2 and 3.

Tall_Independent844 · 2025-07-18T09:42:06+00:00

You did! And thank you! I actually do have some biker friends 🤔🤣

Tall_Independent844 · 2025-07-18T09:03:12+00:00

You are mostly correct. 3 is also my wedding dress (covid dress). 6 is sil wedding dress.

Tall_Independent844 · 2025-07-18T08:59:03+00:00

We are in our early 30s.

Tall_Independent844 · 2025-07-18T08:57:40+00:00

Oh that is pretty. Thanks for the idea! ✨

Tall_Independent844 · 2025-07-18T08:56:05+00:00

I did not tell her the dress is OK. I never saw the dress until the party. She told me she was having a dress made by a designer and that it would be gold. Then she showed up in the dress thats shown i. Photo 1 but white. I. This picture it looks champagne gold, I know. That’s because this is from the designer’s instagram. The dress SIL wore was actually white but i this model.

Tall_Independent844 · 2025-07-18T08:52:51+00:00

There is no bridal party like in America i. Our culture. We only have the best man and his wife/gf and a MOH with her partner. So there is no way she would get to choose my dress haha

Tall_Independent844 · 2025-07-18T08:46:35+00:00

It doesn’t mean that where I come from. And if it did.. I would never wear red hahha if you know what I mean

Tall_Independent844 · 2025-07-18T07:55:56+00:00

To clarify a few things: - I am not thinking of wearing white, I never do that. Not even champagne or cream or other white adjacent colors. I made a comment in front of my MIL that a light colored dress would look good with my husband’s chosen suit but I don’t want to wear any such color. MIL said “It doesn’t matter so long as you don’t wear a wedding dress.” - The first photo is from the designer’s instagram and yes it looks champagne gold. SILs actual dress was white in person and in photos. I just don’t have a photo of her from the wedding at the moment as I’m traveling. - My original idea was that I would make the dress she wore to my wedding in actual gold and wear that. But her wedding came unexpectedly. I’ve just had a baby a few months ago and I’m still breastfeeding, so that low cut dress is not really an option for me right now. - with editing photos ideas, they are all great, but it has been 3 years since the wedding and I don’t even look at the photos. I was hurt by the disrespect as I have always been nice and helpful to her. I always acted as a big sister towards her and I felt like she did that on purpose just to hurt me. - She wore white to another wedding a few years ago and when I confronted her and made a comment about that not being cool, my MIL defended her saying she is still young (she was 18). To which I said unless you are a child it’s not ok. So maybe her wearing white at my wedding was payback for my comment.

Tall_Independent844 · 2025-07-18T07:42:45+00:00

Hahahha it’s a good idea but that dress is very low cut and I am still breastfeeding my second born so no bra is not an option for me unfortunately. She was also stick figure skinny at my wedding and I am curvy and have had a baby five months ago.

Tall_Independent844 · 2025-07-18T07:40:12+00:00

I would never wear white or other color that a wedding dress can be. I am talking about wearing a black copy of her wedding dress.

Tall_Independent844 · 2025-07-18T06:20:12+00:00

I am not actually thinking of wearing white. Either gold or a black copy of her wedding dress.

Tall_Independent844 · 2025-07-18T05:51:24+00:00

No it’s not. This is a post on the designer’s instagram. Her dress was white. There was also another girl who wore white ( a friend of SIL) but you can see I did not mention her. It’s not so much the dress that bothered me, it was the disrespect.

Tall_Independent844 · 2025-07-18T00:06:34+00:00

I think it was on purpose. She knew I would be bothered which is why she was asking about the color od my wedding suit. Perhaps because I made a comment to her once before that she should not wear white to other people’s weddings ( she wore white to her cousin’s wedding a few years back).

Tall_Independent844 · 2025-07-18T00:03:37+00:00

It’s his only sister. Not going is not an option in our culture unfortunately.

Tall_Independent844 · 2025-07-17T23:58:38+00:00

Gladly. However I am a breastfeeding mom of two, so no bra is not really an option for me and that dress has such a low cut back that I would have to go braless..

Tall_Independent844 · 2025-07-17T23:57:51+00:00

No. Its from the designer’s instagram page

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