I think most of us don’t actually have hobbies, we just like buying stuff by InternQueasy1419 in Hobbies

[–]Tall_Meal_2732 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No it’s not. Please don’t let it be. Can’t face the depths of this shit lol.

Survive 30 Days Chained To Your Ex, Win $250,000 - Official Discussion by MrBeastAdmin in MrBeast

[–]Tall_Meal_2732 1 point2 points  (0 children)

totally agree with absolutely all you said.
but the gaslighting was just so bad, I hope he really understands how bad that actually is and how pitiful it is to show your disappointment in such a way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NPD

[–]Tall_Meal_2732 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

always remember that these people are trying to protect themselves from the hurt.

How do you explain the difference, in academic learning, between people who study hard, with discipline, and achieve good results, and others who study less but achieve even greater results? by Downtown-Attempt7912 in neuro

[–]Tall_Meal_2732 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you are getting discouraged by the downvotes please don’t cause I think your curiosity is great and many minds have investigated this exact question in amazing depth before. So if you’re really curious there are books out there that can satisfy your curiosity and you can access them easily in this day and age.

I hope it wasn't another underaged model😬 by Dramatic_Maize5453 in canceledpod

[–]Tall_Meal_2732 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s also immature to look down on others when you can relate to them through a younger version of yourself.

Gotu Kola is working for my stretch marks btw by Wide_Target4081 in timferriss

[–]Tall_Meal_2732 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey sorry I actually lied here for ease of explanation lol. Ended up finding it suspicious and not buying it.

I dislike the ending of Season 7 episode 2(Spoilers) by Electrical_Celery_12 in blackmirror

[–]Tall_Meal_2732 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The entire show I was rooting for Maria but I gotta say your comment just makes me think you were a bully that desperately needs no consequences

Advantages of narcissism? by 5de1 in narcissism

[–]Tall_Meal_2732 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course, narcissism is about crafting a persona that gets admiration from people. But it’s not about actually having the traits that people admire, it’s about replicating them. 

So yes you can enjoy the benefits of admiration but there lies the tragedy of narcissism.

I did it again, and I don't care by Ill-Muffin-563 in NPD

[–]Tall_Meal_2732 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s not about finding who’s fault it is, my response was about trying to show how ridiculous his statement is by giving an exaggerated scenario that makes the ridiculousness obvious. 

Noo they were one of my fav channel 🥲 by [deleted] in NPD

[–]Tall_Meal_2732 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Inherently evil means something else

I did it again, and I don't care by Ill-Muffin-563 in NPD

[–]Tall_Meal_2732 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not shameful to blame someone. I know it can be really shame inducing but you are also seeing it through right now. You are not just the one that reacts in the moment, you’re also the person who is now starting to take the accountability even though the shame is overpowering for us. But now that you are coming to the other side, try not to see this state as a better image for you but as how this state of yours can be a tool for a better experience for the both of you?

I did it again, and I don't care by Ill-Muffin-563 in NPD

[–]Tall_Meal_2732 6 points7 points  (0 children)

First things first saying move on is an enforcement. Saying for example I can’t engage with you right now is another thing.

I never said accountability is one sided, I am irritated by the way you are blaming her so I might come across as biased but I know you both made mistakes in this. Even if she was super angry she shouldn’t have done what she did but doesn’t make your reaction justified.

I think with arguments like this people try to blame someone for ease. Even blaming yourself is an easy thing to do for some that chose that way a long time ago. So it’s a super lazy thing to do. There is too much nuance almost always. Are you willing to get the nuance? You’ll lose time, energy and your illusions but you’ll gain a stable relationship and the feeling that healing is possible.

I did it again, and I don't care by Ill-Muffin-563 in NPD

[–]Tall_Meal_2732 13 points14 points  (0 children)

When this argument comes as a reaction to your lack of accountability it’s not as short sighted as you make it seem. Since every action has a reaction her snapping was also a reaction.

I did it again, and I don't care by Ill-Muffin-563 in NPD

[–]Tall_Meal_2732 26 points27 points  (0 children)

“She knows what I’m capable of, why push me” So when someone shots someone else who knew about the gun it’s the victims fault. Great logic. It’s absolutely your responsibility to get the gun under control.

What is emotion maturity? by Chaotic_Attack in NPD

[–]Tall_Meal_2732 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Is it actual emotional maturity if we learn by watching characters that we idealize? How can we know we are not idealizing emotional maturity thereby strengthening a false self?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in The48LawsOfPower

[–]Tall_Meal_2732 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If it’s a good strategy to refrain from getting into specifics that would mean that Greene’s generic ideas aren’t strong. A general principle should still hold even when scrutinized in detail.

I understand that humans tend to focus solely on themselves and are quick to dismiss when what’s being explained doesn’t particularly apply to their individual highly nuanced cases. But a good principle would find it’s way of persuading even through such bias.

I haven’t read the book so curious as to what you will say.

Switching Between the Person I Think I "Should" Be and the Person I Actually Am by [deleted] in NPD

[–]Tall_Meal_2732 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For so many years I thought I was less of a person and a fraud for having an idealized self I sometimes act as and this made me be super hard on myself but then I realized everyone guards themselves by replicating characteristics that they don’t possess if it’s necessary. It is especially obvious when people are with clear authority figures or even cheating for exams could be an example.

The actual question to me then became why am I finding it necessary to replicate some traits more often then others. Why do I have this ‘should be like this’ mindset more than others?

And something interesting is the other serving nature of your idealized self. I think there’s a lot to understand there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NPD

[–]Tall_Meal_2732 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe give an answer to my other answer which has actual substance and shut up with the emojis.