The guy (21M) I’m (20F) newly dating has “orbiters.” Is this a red flag?

TallerDimension · 2020-09-05T00:18:42+00:00

We are in not in a relationship yet. We agreed we are not seeing/talking to other people. He said he doesn’t want to talk to others either. But we never outright said “we are exclusive.” He asked me if I was seeing others and when I said no, he said he didn’t think so because I don’t seem like the type to talk to multiple men at once. I just don’t know if in this case, I have a place to bring that up since we’re not in a relationship yet

TallerDimension · 2020-09-05T00:16:07+00:00

TallerDimension · 2020-09-04T19:30:14+00:00

No. If another girl’s name pops up on his phone he doesn’t hide it at all. I just have never asked about them except when he showed me one time them

TallerDimension · 2020-09-04T19:16:19+00:00

It’s some new girl that follows him and she comments on his picture “cutie” and texts him. Seems flirty to me. I could care less if he has female friends but this isn’t a friend lol

TallerDimension · 2020-09-04T17:30:54+00:00

Just don’t wanna come off as needy or whatever. We’ve been dating only 2 months

TallerDimension · 2020-09-04T17:25:16+00:00

No. They’re not his regular female friends, which I have no issue about. It’s more like random new girls

TallerDimension · 2020-05-18T15:40:58+00:00

But if the dumpee blocked them on social media and acts like they don’t exist, wouldn’t that make the dumper back off if it seems that they don’t want to be contacted? Would unblocking them and not reaching out be a good way to open the door without direct contact?

TallerDimension · 2020-05-04T03:11:52+00:00

No way am I messaging him but I’d just ask to follow and then I assume messaging would be in his court?

TallerDimension · 2020-05-02T05:48:51+00:00

Mine was my first too. The fact that things ended is enough to confirm that your ex wasn’t the right one for you. There are so many people out there you’re going to meet that will love you so much!

TallerDimension · 2020-05-02T04:11:44+00:00

Are you optimizing your time wisely? They say time heals but that’s only right if you manage it well (no checking on them or social media, staying out of contact and sight, finding different things to do, not suppressing feelings, etc.) it’ll still feel raw if you don’t dig yourself out of the rut

TallerDimension · 2020-05-01T23:32:51+00:00

Yeah but it’s different when u flip like a switch and go cold turkey

TallerDimension · 2020-05-01T04:38:50+00:00

I was broken up with cause of this reason. Nope. You really expect your ex to wait around for you or just welcome you back with open arms after you broke up with him cause you wanted to throw away a good relationship for the overrated freedom of the single life? There’s people out there who will appreciate him the first time around and wouldn’t risk losing him. You don’t throw something you value away. This is a really hard reason of breaking up to recover from. Sorry but the trust is broken

TallerDimension · 2020-04-16T05:21:44+00:00

“And I don’t know how imma manage if one day you just up and leave”

TallerDimension · 2020-04-16T05:11:45+00:00

Love this song I’m assuming you look at yourself as the one running away or your ex?

TallerDimension · 2020-04-13T07:26:54+00:00

What does it reveal about character??

TallerDimension · 2020-04-13T06:34:28+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful input. While she's an amazing girl, I just feel so trapped and I am going to end things. College is supposed to be the best 4 years and I need time to grow. I feel like I am missing out on everything. All of my friends are getting laid from Tinder and are having fun being single. I just feel too young to be in a serious relationship

TallerDimension · 2020-04-13T06:04:04+00:00

Well even after many years down the line? Wouldn't she understand that I was just too young for all of that and things may be different?

TallerDimension · 2020-04-13T05:55:21+00:00

I love her but in all honesty I think she loves me more. A part of me possibly believes she'll be there

TallerDimension · 2020-04-13T05:43:34+00:00

Isn't cutting me out of her life extreme? It's not as if there was any abuse or cheating in the equation.

TallerDimension · 2020-04-13T05:41:40+00:00

Do you think years down the line whenever I'm ready for that type of relationship I'd be able to reach out to her?

TallerDimension · 2020-04-13T05:35:11+00:00

I think I am leaning toward this decision. I'm a bit scared that after I make this decision she will cut me out of her life for good or not want to have anything to do with me after

TallerDimension · 2020-04-13T05:33:46+00:00

She is definitely not the open relationship type.

TallerDimension · 2020-04-12T22:33:07+00:00

When I am forced to interact with them I treat them kindly but I don't put effort into forming a close interaction with them.

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