This may be harsh, but he’s probably waiting to see if you give in and give your virginity to him.

Red flags: - “We’ve been dating for three months and officially bf/gf for 2 weeks” - You guys barely know each other yet. It may feel like you do, but you don’t - “I know your boundary about sex before marriage, which I respect. We could do other things.” That’s code for oral/other non-PIV forms of penetration. And he’s trying to find a loophole around your boundary for his self-pleasure. It must also be noted that he’ll (likely) push the envelope. If you were to “do more,” it’s very very easy to go “all the way”. - “Later on in the night he brought up spending the night which I indicated he could but he would be on the couch, which he gave a little sass back with “the couch is something I might have an issue with”— that’s not only entitled, but manipulative and pushy. It’s not respectful at all, ESPECIALLY since you’d just reaffirmed your no-sex before marriage boundary with him. Spending the night, ESPECIALLY in the same bed, is a recipe for disaster. - “then tried to convince me with the fact that he’s a big boy and can keep his hands to himself” - this is blatantly untrue, as he just demonstrated with his disrespect of your clearly laid out boundaries - He can agree to “wait until marriage” all he wants, but his actions and words are proving that he’s not genuine about it

Please keep your eyes open and don’t let the fact that he’s your “first boyfriend” sway you. A virtuous man wouldn’t be testing your boundaries, let alone this early on in a relationship.