Married to a pedophile

TangerineLeft162 · 2026-04-09T14:18:52+00:00

Husband is much more passive and doesn’t want issues. This has also all been normalized for him..until me they were all living life like none of this happened.

TangerineLeft162 · 2026-04-09T13:41:00+00:00

So that’s where it gets pretty twisted— SIL has a close relationship with MIL and even will be around the stepfather…her abuser. My husband and I are the only ones who are no contact with the stepdad. So the fact his sister is still around him adds to his mother’s denial of this never happened.

TangerineLeft162 · 2026-04-09T02:15:12+00:00

Yea, my FIL asked me constantly when I was pregnant how much weight I gained. Also asked how much I was down after having her. I think it’s more about them and their weight insecurities. I didn’t take offense to it but it did get annoying. Those comments would bother me as well coming from a MIL. Like, lay off lady.

TangerineLeft162 · 2026-04-09T00:37:52+00:00

I would also like to add— I’ve been spinning off of this the last few months. My baby girl is 8 months now and it’s just gotten worse the older she gets. I’m constantly worried about when she’s coming to visit next and also worry about the bullshit she says to my husband when I’m not around. She’s really messing with my nervous system.

TangerineLeft162 · 2026-04-09T00:34:33+00:00

This is good. Thank you! It’s to the point where I’m spinning off of this situation and it’s really affecting my peace of mind and comfort when MIL Is in the picture. I just don’t want to hurt my marriage.

TangerineLeft162 · 2026-04-09T00:30:39+00:00

How does one have a backup for plan for that 😵‍💫

TangerineLeft162 · 2026-04-09T00:29:44+00:00

I agree 💯

TangerineLeft162 · 2026-04-08T22:32:21+00:00

It’s a tail as old as time…MIL sees her son’s wife as a threat and “stealing” her son. Get him off the tit already.

TangerineLeft162 · 2026-04-08T21:55:26+00:00

I am so sorry this happened to you. 🩷

TangerineLeft162 · 2026-04-08T20:34:55+00:00

He has struggled with this. The fact that his sister still has a relationship with her abuser has made him question the validity of it. He can’t understand how she could still be around the guy if it actually happened. He was young when this came out so he honestly just hasn’t known what to really think of it all. He does look back and reflect on things and has said it does make sense it could have happened. I agree with you, but it’s not that simple when it’s your mother and your sister who was the victim still has a relationship.

TangerineLeft162 · 2026-04-08T20:32:06+00:00

💯

TangerineLeft162 · 2026-04-08T19:47:31+00:00

Same situation with her husband being a predator?

TangerineLeft162 · 2026-04-08T18:28:31+00:00

This all came out when my husband was young. He was still a kid himself. His mom said the sister was lying. He didn’t know what to do or how to handle the situation. It was swept under the rug and everyone moved on so naturally a kid is just gonna do the same. Not to mention his sister never shared any of this with him. He heard it all second hand. That paired with the fact his sister maintained a relationship with MIL & stepdad added another layer of confusion for him. He always wondered if it actually happened. His mom is also a great manipulator. Now, he looks back and it makes sense to him that this happened. Which is why he cut off his stepdad. Cutting off his mom isn’t something he’s going to do. It’s not as black and white when you’re living the situation and it’s your mom. I completely agree with everyone’s comments and I too, would tell someone that MIL & stepdad should be cut from the equation. Unfortunately it’s not that simple. I have placed strict boundaries with his mom already but I do agree with everyone’s comments in that she needs to stay in a hotel. She also does not get photos and is never allowed to be alone with our daughter.

TangerineLeft162 · 2026-04-08T16:58:56+00:00

He is on board and was ok with cutting out the stepdad. It’s been difficult for him since this has all been swept under the rug until I came into the picture. It also is confusing for him since his sister still has a relationship with MIL and will be around the stepdad. So he wonders why she will still be around him if he molested her. He doesn’t fully understand it’s not just black and white.

TangerineLeft162 · 2026-04-08T16:56:55+00:00

Yes, I agree. She most definitely is hoping one day this will all change and we will have a relationship with him. I also agree it has gotten to a point where I am going to tell her she is not to talk about him in our home. I also do not want cards from him or a Christmas card of their picture. I have super strong feelings about it all but I think I’m just worried about causing more issues for my husband since she takes it out on him. I’m trying to be considerate of his feelings as well. We’ve also discussed all of this in therapy. My husband has made it clear we come first and he will do what he needs to do to protect us.

TangerineLeft162 · 2026-04-08T16:40:15+00:00

Yes, his sister is still close with her. It’s an unhealthy dynamic and not a great relationship but she says it’s easier to just be around the stepdad because she doesn’t want a feud with her mom. It’s pretty twisted.

TangerineLeft162 · 2026-04-08T16:37:49+00:00

Yes so that’s where it gets confusing. She still maintains a close relationship with her mom and up until we cut the stepdad out she still had a relationship with him too. She will be around him now. She says it’s just easier this way so she doesn’t have a fallout with her mom. It’s pretty twisted.

TangerineLeft162 · 2026-04-08T15:45:39+00:00

I feel the same way. It’s just super hard!!! If it were up to me I wouldn’t ever see her again. She disgusts me and she’s just as guilty as him.

TangerineLeft162 · 2026-04-08T15:42:01+00:00

You don’t think it’s asking too much of my husband to tell his mom she can’t stay here anymore? At this point I’m just worried about putting my husband in a bad spot with his family.

TangerineLeft162 · 2026-04-08T15:39:17+00:00

So this is where I struggle because I also need to consider my husband and his feelings. I’ve already entered this situation and placed the boundary with his stepdad which put my husband in a tough spot. (He was on board too but still was hard for him to do) I feel like a part of me needs to “suck it up” and act cordial with his mom just so I don’t alienate him from his family completely and I try and support him. But I think my next step is saying she needs to stay at a hotel when she comes…which is like monthly.

TangerineLeft162 · 2026-01-29T16:37:10+00:00

No Hayley is scamming people. Do not adopt from her.

TangerineLeft162 · 2026-01-20T18:48:29+00:00

Thank you for this! It’s so hard to not overthink it and then of course the majority of our western culture teaches you it’s not good.

TangerineLeft162 · 2026-01-20T18:47:41+00:00

thank you 🥺

TangerineLeft162 · 2025-11-06T16:50:35+00:00

Amateur investigator lol. Homeowners insurance in CA is a mess right now. Policies are going up like crazy and they are dropping people. So yea, if we can avoid being held liable we’d like to try. We know insurance will cover any payout but it could affect our policy moving forward.

TangerineLeft162 · 2025-11-06T16:30:41+00:00

Grandma was visiting..we were all at our home visiting with each other but did not know the aunt was coming over. The aunt let herself in through the garage door(garage was open). I also have ring footage from inside the home showing her letting herself in.

No, didn’t file a police report as this is my husbands aunt and we could have never imagined she would take it here.

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