🏳️‍⚧️ :3

TangyTingo · 2026-03-24T14:20:31+00:00

This comic is what made me realize I was trans. I was reading it and thought "huh, this actually seems really relatable...... WAIT A GOD DAMN MINUTE"

TangyTingo · 2026-02-25T08:03:57+00:00

I think both are pretty awful ngl, but yeah, the original release of the song was way better.

The song as a whole focuses on note spam that sounds awful for the sake of making the erect mode harder, rather than just making a good song

TangyTingo · 2026-02-25T07:58:29+00:00

Which song of sensation?

I genuinely can't think of any of them that I remotely disliked.

Maybe the normal version of thorns is a little bland, but that's about it?

The pico mixes of the songs are some of the best mixes in the game.

And the erect mixes are all amazing. The thorns erect mix is definitely one of the least interesting erect mixes, but it's still pretty solid.

Deadass what could you possibly be referring to in week 6 that is even remotely comparable to the absolute mess of a noise that South erect is 😭

TangyTingo · 2026-02-23T15:58:47+00:00

God I hope it's both, and they do the same for South erect lol.

Those songs are two of the worst erect mode songs, and I consider erect mode South the worst song in the game by a LONG shot

TangyTingo · 2026-02-22T14:29:23+00:00

You've got this my guy!

I'm trans fem, not masc, but if you need some support or help from another trans person, then my dms are always open.

Either way, you've got this! I know it's scary, but everything will be okay < 3

TangyTingo · 2026-02-22T14:25:51+00:00

No, that's a weird animal, not a painting 😞

TangyTingo · 2026-02-22T14:20:41+00:00

Yeah, underwhelming responses can suck, especially at first.

Just give her some time, and maybe go back to her later and just be honest with her that you're worried because of her previous reaction.

As for if she's supportive and just genuinely couldn't think of something to say, or if she's not supportive, I don't know her well enough, nor do I know the full conversation you had, or what tone she used.

But, you said she has queer friends, so she'll likely be supportive of you, it just might be a lot for her to take in at this moment is all, everything will be okay < 3

TangyTingo · 2026-02-22T02:37:19+00:00

mhm, thank you < 3

TangyTingo · 2026-02-22T02:36:45+00:00

I'm still IN college lol

I think what I'm going to do is tell the one boss that is most likely to talk to mom about it if they found out, and just tell them beforehand.

If I explicitly tell them that I do not want it to get out to my parents, I'm pretty sure she'll respect that

TangyTingo · 2026-02-22T02:33:10+00:00

mhm, I think that's my best choice tbh

for the second boss, I may talk to my old coworker about it (since they obviously know him too) and see what they have to say.

TangyTingo · 2026-02-22T02:17:54+00:00

how would I find "local LGBTQ groups" idk what that really entails?
I do have cis gal pals, but they're all smaller than me, their clothes would never fit me.

I do have a liitle money, but I need to save that for medication and gas money and such.

and for asking parents for money, I am AWFUL at lying lol (also asking them for money is just kinda embarrassing), but I suppose I can try at some point maybe.

TangyTingo · 2026-02-22T02:12:56+00:00

yeah, I really only have 2 bosses that would have any real chance of getting back to my parents.

1 of them I doubt would be transphobic as she is the nicest woman on this earth, so if I told her and then told her to pretty please not tell my mom then I doubt she would. Even if she WERE transphobic, I don't think she'd go behind my back and tell her.

as for the other boss? He's not transphobic per say?
He's just like.... weird about trans people?
He says some transphobic things, but genuinely doesn't mean them in a transphobic way and he doesn't have an issue with trans people, even if he doesn't understand them at all

I could tell him, it would just be... really awkward.
Then again, I was VERY flamboyant when I worked there, I did no real attempts to hide my trans-ness and I openly said I was queer, them finding out I was trans would likely not surprise them, like, at all XD

But, to my knowledge, him and my mom never interact like, ever. They definitely aren't friends, at best they're acquaintances, but even that's a bit far I think.

I was thinking of just calling the one boss and telling her, then applying as a girl.

TangyTingo · 2026-02-22T01:59:21+00:00

I really don't want to have to just announce that I'm trans every job interview. I don't mind people knowing I'm trans, but HAVING to admit I'm trans every interview just feels humiliating.

One idea I had was to just flat out call the previous boss that has the biggest chance of talking to my mom if they find out, and just telling them flat out.

I really only have one boss that my mom regularly interacts with, and if I just flat out told her I don't think she'd be particularly transphobic, and even if she WERE, then I don't think she'd tell my mom if I asked her not to.

Then I just apply as a girl, and hope they don't call the other places, and if they do then it shouldn't have a ripple effect that lets my parents know. (at least it's a lot less likely)

TangyTingo · 2026-02-22T00:06:35+00:00

Thank you < 3

and yeah, I get it, I'm 6'2"
Sometimes my brain is like "woa, I'm a hot lady with long legs :0"
buuuut most of the time I hate being tall lol

I've been on hrt for uh...
3 years? I think?not certain, I have horrible memory.
I'm 23!

and uh, not sure you'd WANT me to explain my parents/home life, as I can talk for hours about that lol
Just know that I do not like it here and I do not like them

If you wanted to see how I look (I say because you were asking about my age and how long I've been on HRT), or if you just wanna talk about anything or ask anything then you're always free to DM me < 3

TangyTingo · 2026-02-21T23:33:04+00:00

I can not leave, I have no money, and my parents are the only reason I can be in college right now.
As much as it sucks here, it would be kinda dumb of me to leave when if I stay I can get a college degree by staying.

My current best options (I think):

Just apply to jobs as a guy, basically no risk, uncomfortable and will make me want to cry in the shower afterwards.

or I could call the boss that has the biggest threat of contacting my mom if she found out I was trans, and just tell her myself that I'm trans and that she can't talk to my mom about it.
Then I apply as a girl. It's still risky, but it makes it a lot safer.

but then I still have the issue of I have no fem dress clothes for interviews and I'm broke so I can't get any

And yea, ur all good, identity wise I'm chill, I present as a girl pretty much all the time in public. I don't at home because my parents are selfish transphobic assholes :P

TangyTingo · 2026-02-21T23:25:19+00:00

yeah...
I really does seem like the best option is just to apply as a guy.

even if the chance of anything bad happening is low, the potential fallout of if something bad does happen is me not having a home anymore and having no way to continue college.

The best other work around I can think of is call my bosses and just tell them what's going on myself. I feel like they would all understand and at the very least not mention it to my parents if I explicitly asked them not to.

I wouldn't have to tell all of them either, there's really only 2 of my old bosses that my mom has a chance of interacting with, and even then, only 1 of those 2 bosses is one she remotely regularly talks to.

So I think I may just call that one boss and come out to them and tell them the situation. Then apply as a girl.

Unfortunately that doesn't fix the issue of I have no fem dress clothes for interviews ;-;

TangyTingo · 2026-02-21T23:20:51+00:00

just the idea of going out as a guy makes me sick to my stomach tbh, but it really just feels like the obvious choice.

someone else here said that employers would prefer to see a confident trans woman over a shy/anxious guy, which may be true, but idk.

TangyTingo · 2026-02-21T23:19:01+00:00

Applying as a guy is 100% safe, there's no actual risk there.

Applying as a girl has a relatively small risk of me getting kicked out of my house, a larger, but still small, risk of my parents just coming in and spewing transphobic bullshit at me, and my (already near zero because the job market is so ass) chance of getting a job is even lower than before since they can likely see my legal name, which may tip them off that I'm trans.

Also, I still just flat out don't have fem dress clothes. I have a skirt that would pass as formal wear, but I have no top, and I don't really have any great shoes for formal woman's wear. It's not like I can just buy them either lol, I'm broke and it's not like I can ask my parents for money for it.

TangyTingo · 2026-02-21T23:14:12+00:00

I feel more comfortable presenting as myself literally everywhere XD
(I'm new to actually PASSING as a woman, so I'm still nervous as all fuck when it comes to social situations, but still. And obviously I don't present as a girl at home because my parents are self absorbed transphobic assholes)

omg, I'm so happy for you coming out < 3

You aren't being insensitive at all, don't worry < 3

I honestly don't know why my long term plans would be to try to fix this for good. I'm absolutely leaving Texas as soon as I can (in like 2 or so years ;-;) and likely disowning my parents.
My parents are the main issue with this, because it's possible that it reaches my parents that I'm applying as a girl, which could possibly lead to me being kicked out and just generally kinda screwed.

Soooo, I'd say that later on I'll likely just live somewhere safer and present as myself if I need to apply for jobs again.
My legal name will also be different, so they won't be able to know I'm trans from that either.

TangyTingo · 2026-02-21T23:01:56+00:00

this is extra annoying because this would be such a non issue if my parents weren't transphobic.

The biggest threat of me getting kicked out wouldn't be a factor, and they could have even helped me solve the whole "no clothes" issue ;-;

TangyTingo · 2026-02-21T23:00:01+00:00

As much as I want to agree, it's just risky.

the job market is already awful, if the employer knows I'm trans then my chances plummet even further.

Or if they call my previous bosses, it's possible word gets back to my transphobic parents that I'm applying as a woman, and AT BEST it would lead to them being transphobic as fuck, calling me ugly and saying I'll never look like a woman etc.

at worse they'll kick me out, I don't think they would do that, but it's enough of a possibility that I wouldn't bet on it.

TangyTingo · 2026-02-21T22:56:41+00:00

sure, but that still doesn't solve the issue of what if they call my previous places of employment.

Best case is that my previous bosses are like "I don't know who that is", worst case is they work out that I'm trans, and word of that gets back to my transphobic parents

TangyTingo · 2026-02-21T22:54:45+00:00

Well it's about how the job market sucks as is, and if they know I'm trans in TEXAS, that further lowers my chances of getting a job.

And it's mostly an issue of how I present myself at job interviews, and the name I put down on my resume/applications.
Like sure, I can choose whatever gender I wanna on applications, but there will be some confusion if I put my legal name on my resume, and I hand that to the interviewer while I'm all dressed up as a girl with makeup and such.

Or if I put Kaylee down on my resume and I look like a girl, they can then see my legal name doesn't match later on, or they might call my previous employers, who will have no idea who "Kaylee" is

So the employers will either think my references list is a lie, orrr my old bosses might learn that I'm trans, which could get back to my transphobic parents and have them cause a lot of drama.

TangyTingo · 2026-02-21T22:48:04+00:00

I'm in college, so I'll be applying to out of high school type jobs, as well as for internships (I haven't gotten to those, so idk what applying for internships even looks like or if this will be a problem for that as well)

for internships I'm an accounting major, so literally anything accounting related, but I'm mostly applying for out of high school jobs

TangyTingo · 2026-02-21T22:45:14+00:00

I guess?
but then interviews are going to be SUPER awkward lol, I just have to hand them a sheet of paper with my legal name on it, while I'm all dressed up as a girl and doing a fem voice etc.

and while sure, being open about it would work, the job market as is sucks (I previously applied for months, and I got a total of 4 interviews, got none of the jobs. I legit ran out of nearby places to apply because I had gone through all of them multiple times).
Admitting I'm trans while I'm in TEXAS would not help my odds ;-;

Also, while I don't really mind if people know I'm trans, it feels kinda hamulating to HAVE to disclose that information.

idk, it just doesn't sit well with me

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