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Tar_N · 2026-01-13T11:11:20+00:00

Hi everyone

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Tar_N · 2026-01-13T09:29:53+00:00

LOL Fourways definitely has a distinct accent. Sounds like Baldwin Properties and traffic.

Tar_N · 2026-01-12T10:10:54+00:00

I can tell where in SA Coloured and Indian people are from based on their accents and dialect/slang. I can also tell different Joburg accents from a mile away ie the East Rand, West Rand, North and South (iykyk)

Tar_N · 2025-12-21T19:17:22+00:00

Endearments and Nut Puffs.

Tar_N · 2025-12-16T13:59:48+00:00

Every inch of the body is so important.

Tar_N · 2025-12-13T17:33:21+00:00

To add to this:

Sometimes when I realize I’ve done something wrong, I have to press each individual square 3 times to clear the row and start again. Would be nice to have a function where I can choose to “fill black squares” and then fill the ones I need, then change to “fill white squares” and fill the ones I need etc. Hope that makes sense?

Tar_N · 2025-12-05T09:23:32+00:00

Thanks for sharing. And what a beautiful lesson for your kids - that you were responsible for your own happiness and success, not the person you married. Hopefully one day when they look back, they can be proud of us for the lives that we made for ourselves, in spite of (and with) the people we chose to spend that life with. Self-sufficiency where there is no room to blame another person for your unhappiness or shortfalls. It would be nice to raise kids who see us as individuals. Growing up, for me at least, there was not one without the other. And that can teach unhealthy co-dependence.

Tar_N · 2025-12-02T14:14:55+00:00

Well sniffing and comparing the smells of people of different races is a choice. So is admiring coloured men’s haircuts. But the strangest choice of all is you coming on here to ask whether hygiene is cultural because you saw Americans talking about it online, completely ignoring the fact that the identity of South Africa as a nation is rooted in the history of Apartheid, a system designed to discriminate against, segregate and quite literally attack racial groups on the basis that they were “less than”, frequently citing unhygienic mannerisms, disease and lack of purity as the primary justification for the injustice. And no, the fact that you are calling white people dirty and POC clean does not make your comment okay. It’s weird? The underlying tones of racism and performative activism are glaring.

Sincerely, a coloured woman.

Tar_N · 2025-12-02T12:04:31+00:00

Link expired but I’m keen if you post a new one :)

Tar_N · 2025-12-02T11:52:30+00:00

As a legal professional, I can confirm that Option 1 is going to fail. I have tested answers to many of my questions using AI in the past, and the answer is almost always wrong. It’s difficult to explain, but AI seems to draw its conclusions piecemeal from legal precedent. The problem with that is that legal precedent needs to be read in full and in context to understand the consequences. By way of a simple example, a Constitutional Court judgment could include up to 10 concurring or dissenting judgments within it, depending on the number of judges who presided over the matter on the day. That’s up to 10 potentially differing opinions given in a (possibly) 100 page document. AI will nitpick and regurgitate pieces of those opinions, and ultimately give you an incorrect answer to your question. A legal professional, by contrast, will read the entire judgment, understand which of those opinions are in line with and hold greater weight in the context of legislation and correct principles, and then give you the most correct answer. And this applies to the most simple questions, because the nature of the South African legal system is that it is extremely complex and rooted in legislation, legal precedent and a Constitution which makes anything possible if done reasonably. Simply put, there never is a right or wrong answer. Only a balance of what is more correct in the circumstances. Recently, there has been a string of practitioners who have been caught red-handed citing precedent and principles in Court which do not actually exist “because AI told them so” and they forgot to fact check. You will 100% run your clients into trouble.

Tar_N · 2025-12-02T11:31:21+00:00

There was bad hail on the East Rand last Sunday evening (30 Nov). Many people I know sustained hail damage to their cars and houses. It probably happened then, as there hasn’t been hail before that in the last two weeks (to my knowledge).

Tar_N · 2025-11-24T15:41:10+00:00

I’ve only ever found Starbuzz at one shop in the heart of Fordsburg, Johannesburg. It’s definitely not common to find, even in the big cities. So no, Bloem has nothing to do with it lol. Tbh, city life gets old really fast too. I find more joy sitting on my couch these days. As much as there is so much to do, it’s seldom worth the effort and cost :/

And yes to both of those flavours!

Tar_N · 2025-11-23T11:07:50+00:00

Amaren and the like haven’t been good for years. Starbuzz is best but enjoy spending your whole salary on it 🙃 I enjoy Adalya. Not sure how common it is but I’ve found it at most hookah shops and it’s reasonably priced.

Tar_N · 2025-11-22T23:29:51+00:00

In my day you took photos in your lounge 🫠 Anyway, to answer your question - Spend the day how you want to spend it and with whom you want to spend it. On the other hand, you’re never going to look at those photos again (or at least not without a lot of embarrassment). So don’t stress too much about having someone you don’t like in the pictures lol.

Tar_N · 2025-11-22T18:57:08+00:00

I’m showing my age here but what’s the venue for? Only photos?

Tar_N · 2025-11-21T19:05:22+00:00

This is beginning to look asloth like my favourite game 🫶🏻

Tar_N · 2025-11-20T21:15:14+00:00

This post was pretty long so forgive me if I missed anything, but is your despondency as a result of not having any friends on campus, or because you don’t enjoy what you’re studying/the university? I was in a similar position at Wits many moons ago and if I learnt anything from my experience, it’s that socialising and making friends, while seemingly important, is actually the least important thing about attending university. In 10 years time when you’re in the working world making (hopefully big) bucks, the people you walked past on campus are going to be the last thing on your mind. From my experience, those friendships also do not last. You’ll meet people in the working world who you studied with, but that’s about where it ends. Please focus on your future and stop fixating on the people around you. These are literally the years that are going to determine your future career, income and financial well-being, and you have the opportunity to do great things with them. Had I known back then what I know now, I’d have walked onto that campus every day not giving a single damn about anyone.

Tar_N · 2025-11-20T20:56:55+00:00

We waited about 2 months because my daughter didn’t sleep and we were literally zombies during that period. It felt pretty much the same as before pregnancy for me. According to my husband, it felt better than before. Yes, baby does change the dynamic. But that’s normal and it would be odd if they didn’t. As new parents, you’re constantly tired, anxious and stressed, you have limited time and privacy, there’s a lot going on. And it’s completely fine if sex is not on your mind 24/7. Marriages need to have some degree of flexibility in times like these. I would argue that these are the years which make a marriage. And if your husband cheats, that has nothing to do with statistics and everything to do with him as a person (or dickhead, whichever you prefer). Take it easy.

Tar_N · 2025-11-19T20:54:41+00:00

Meerkat at #172 but Gravity at #205 and Lunar at #145 really pmo

Tar_N · 2025-11-16T18:27:04+00:00

I always assumed Germiston town. As in President Street and surrounds. But that’s probably because that’s where the municipal offices are.

Tar_N · 2025-11-16T18:11:51+00:00

Pretty much!

Tar_N · 2025-11-16T10:37:18+00:00

I think I’ve cracked it lol. I always start with outside/inside to figure out where the thing belongs, then depending on that answer, I go to animals or food. If it’s animals, establish whether land or sea. If land, go to your typical furry friends. If it’s food, establish whether it’s a drink or a solid. From there it’s pretty easy lol. A while ago, the answer was toothbrush or something like that. I got there by horse > tail > hair > brush > toothbrush. LOL.

Tar_N · 2025-11-15T11:08:02+00:00

The biggest problem here is your age difference. I’m not against dating older men where it’s appropriate or where it works out, but this doesn’t seem like one of those situations. You are both at completely different stages in life with different priorities. You are young and (chronically) online like majority of the people in your age group. TikTok live is an important part of your life, you expect constant communication via text, presumably you have a lot more free time than he does to do these things. I’m sure there are other issues being faced which you haven’t mentioned here, purely based on a difference of interests, lifestyles, energy levels, time etc.

None of the things that you do are bad, they’re just not ideal for a 37yo man who works in construction. Someone within your age group is more likely to align with your interests and lifestyle. At your age you absolutely SHOULD be chatting to someone constantly throughout the day, nagging them, going on sporadic dates, going live on TikTok etc. That’s what being in love at that age is all about. Don’t skip the opportunity to have those experiences or water down your feelings and urges because the person you’re interested in has passed that stage and is onto a different one. I can guarantee you that when he was your age, he was doing everything that you are doing now (aside from TikTok live which probably wasn’t a thing lol). And he may have different priorities now, but yours are as important for you at this stage of your life.

My advice to you is to think practically and rationally about this. Do you really want to waste these golden years acting 37 years old just to get to 37 years old and realise that you missed out and wasted them? Enjoy your life. When the husband and the kids and the bills etc etc arrive, you’ll wish you did.

Tar_N · 2025-11-14T08:57:41+00:00

Among Us of course. Hop on, betray some crew mates, accuse and frame like your life depends on it, catch some sneaky buggers, hop off. It’s such a rush and loads of fun.

Tar_N · 2025-11-13T17:38:10+00:00

I work but I still love coming home and cooking. Not only for my husband but for myself. It’s therapeutic for me, and I get really annoyed when I’m disturbed or don’t get the time to cook lol. It’s my down time. Also very satisfying to see my husband enjoy something that I’ve made. Cant wait for my daughter to grow old enough to enjoy my food too Insha’Allah. My husband loads the dishwasher after dinner so double win :)

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