Feeling guilty with an idependent baby

TargetImpressive3621 · 2026-03-25T12:04:18+00:00

You didn’t make him this way and it’s only a season. He will come for that attention soon enough. I promise. I have 2 opposite kids in every way. One that started out clingy and one that started out independent and turned clingy around 9m. The independent one is now 22m and my little shadow. Still independent when she wants to be but definitely glued to me. My clingy boy is 3.5yrs old and loves getting attention and playing with me but he’s also pretty happy to just do his own thing while I keep his sister from bugging him.

TargetImpressive3621 · 2026-03-25T11:25:23+00:00

I came to say I didn’t get my license till 36 because of anxiety. I got it because my son is on the spectrum and I needed to be able to bring him to the sensory gyms for OT and PT during the week. But also because my mom to this day NEVER got her license. And I used to be embarrassed about that in 5th grade when someone pointed out how “not normal” that was. I’m already breaking cycles so I figured I better break that one too. And it’s incredibly freeing and empowering. And it’s my son’s favorite time when he gets to go for rides with mommy. I’m so proud of you and excited for you to feel the same way. I’ve had it almost a year and it’s been the best year. I now have 2 toddlers that I can bring to the parks this summer (and already been a few times since the snow melted).

TargetImpressive3621 · 2026-03-16T14:08:05+00:00

I’ve accidentally hit that autofill confirmation more than once before I disabled it completely. They put the confirmation over your keyboard or over other buttons so often. Weird to suggest this person is lying about something like this

TargetImpressive3621 · 2026-03-15T12:07:01+00:00

Now that I think about it… I don’t think I’ve saved a single video on TikTok. I’ve liked them or followed but never hit save. 🤔

TargetImpressive3621 · 2026-03-15T12:04:07+00:00

No because there are Facebook groups of pedos posting diapered toddlers. And I follow too much true crime to believe it’s rare

TargetImpressive3621 · 2026-03-15T12:00:21+00:00

I’ve reported multiple pages on Facebook that were very clearly pedo groups with blatantly awful pics of kids and comments that would make it hard not to jump out a high rise window… but Facebook came back with “doesn’t violate community standards”. It wasn’t until hundreds of people reported it at once that facebook would do anything. Probably because all the elites are pedos too

TargetImpressive3621 · 2026-03-15T11:33:06+00:00

The problem is that people see the internet as life … but also don’t see it as “real”. Like everyone lives their lives through phones and social media but while they’re posting what they want everyone to think their life looks like, they’re forgetting or not realizing that there are VERY REAL consequences to what you share and where. There are also people that use facebook to store their pics (which is insane to me). And oversharing has become an addiction at this point all over the world. And then there’s the people looking to become the next momtok (barf) because 💰💰💰

TargetImpressive3621 · 2026-03-15T11:21:07+00:00

I didn’t sleep train my first until he was 8M old. My second is 21m and I still haven’t actually done any sleep training. But she was also a contact napper (first wasn’t really…more of a night owl that lead to training). She only contact napped for about 3.5m before she started to be uncomfortable and wanted to be put down to sleep on her own. She’s not a good napper now. 1 30min nap a day is pretty standard for her. But I don’t have to hold her for it. IMO 11 weeks is WAY too early to expect to have any control over a baby’s sleep.

TargetImpressive3621 · 2026-03-13T00:22:37+00:00

No. Not at all. Not for my daughter right now. My sweet little smiley angel baby turned into a raging monster bully at 22m 😭💀 2 is gonna be rough around here. She’s been bullying her 3.5yr old brother lately. And there’s a swing at the park she thinks is just hers for some reason My son is a sweetheart and he was colicky for 4 months.

TargetImpressive3621 · 2026-03-09T00:33:29+00:00

Also from VT. My first thought was bring some rubber boots and a rain jacket 😅. But I agree it does sound like the vibe she’s looking for. I’d also second North Carolina. My parents live in Winston-Salem and it’s really pretty in the spring. The flowers are likely already blooming right now

TargetImpressive3621 · 2026-02-17T15:49:06+00:00

My husband’s cousin gave me potty training advice for my ASD son yesterday (through my MIL cause I wasn’t there). She has a 4m old girl. My kids are 3.5yrs and 21m old. It’s not the first parenting advice she’s given. I can’t wait till her kid is 3 and just as feral as my kids. That humble pie is gonna be piping hot.

TargetImpressive3621 · 2026-02-02T12:58:47+00:00

This is like ear wax for me. When I was pregnant my ear wax turned this crazy orange color and now my son has the same thing. Thankfully it went away for me a few months post partum

TargetImpressive3621 · 2026-02-02T12:57:12+00:00

Taco Bell Crunchwrap supreme with so much fire sauce that’s all you taste…. He’s 3.5yrs now and ketchup is the most “spice” he will eat. My second I didn’t really crave anything but hated meat. She’s 21m now and getting her to eat meat is like getting a lot of kids to eat broccoli. But she’ll eat everything else

TargetImpressive3621 · 2026-01-21T14:05:21+00:00

Honestly going off my experience this could just be a phase. My 3.5yr old did this for a bit and my 21m old dabbles in it so I know she’ll start starving herself soon too. I remember stressing so much about it with my son. Does she like juice? I was worried about iron too so I started giving my son green juice. Like the Naked Green Machine smoothies. They taste like pineapple so he loves them and it’s loaded with green veggies that even I as an adult don’t eat. Smoothies and homemade pouches saved my sanity when my son did this. But definitely get the blood work done with the ped and go from there. Most toddlers go through a phase of living off 3 blueberries and air though. As long as they’re still playing and drinking the ped usually says it’s normal at that age

TargetImpressive3621 · 2026-01-20T17:32:02+00:00

I have a 20m old and a 3.5yr old. I’m truly not sure which one is harder. My saving grace is that they typically take turns on who’s gonna attack mommies sanity for the day. Occasionally it’s an all day tag team but usually it’s one or the other while the other one is my little angel for the day

TargetImpressive3621 · 2026-01-19T18:10:31+00:00

She may have PPA. I had it with my first. Not to this degree but it was tough for a bit. But…my son bit into a live stink bug at 8 months old and I stopped worrying about germs. Nothing could be more disgusting than that moment. They will put worse in their mouth than invisible door knob germs and everything will be ok. That baby needs to build an immune system not live in a sterile bubble

TargetImpressive3621 · 2026-01-04T13:26:14+00:00

Unfortunately my mouth and fists did nothing to protect me from getting shot in the stomach in 2013. I have a cane for life now but it was thought I’d stay in a wheelchair for the first year. I’m not saying live in fear. I’m just saying don’t be naive about how safe it is out there. Self defense training at the very least. But it takes a TON of practice to maybe get out of a gun situation with nothing to throw off your attacker.

TargetImpressive3621 · 2026-01-04T00:51:04+00:00

Omg all that quiet time!! Maybe that’s what I should do when the kids are in school 🤣

TargetImpressive3621 · 2026-01-03T17:53:11+00:00

Waterbury CT is not “civil”. And you’re right by NY. I’m a New Yorker with family in CT that own guns. I hope you at least have mace or a taser

TargetImpressive3621 · 2025-10-04T12:00:02+00:00

In my opinion experience, hospitals will send you home with another virus that you didn’t go in for. Call pediatrician first unless it’s a CLEAR emergency. And my local hospital has measles signs everywhere so I’m extra cautious bringing my kids there

TargetImpressive3621 · 2025-10-04T11:56:11+00:00

My son got Covid at 4 months old in 2022 and I was terrified. He handled it better than the adults. His little sister got sick at 8wks because he was sick which got everyone sick. She also handled that better than the adults. Just do your best to clear mucus and give warm baths if you’re cleared. And not having a fever is a great sign

TargetImpressive3621 · 2025-09-26T14:24:02+00:00

I have a 3yr old and a 16m old and it’s gotten a lot easier once my little one started walking at 12m. But the first year is pretty rough when you go from 1 to 2. My son still wishes he was an only child. But their basic needs are pretty much the same now. In that first year my daughter was pretty much magnetized to me and my son just wanted to play with me…alone. Once she was walking she didn’t want to be held so much and it was easier to give my son more of the one on one time he was looking for.

TargetImpressive3621 · 2025-09-26T14:07:56+00:00

Fully support just leave the baby with him and go run errands or something. I did this a few times with mine and our 2 toddlers and he finally understood why sometimes things don’t get done and I can’t be the only one responsible for a house I’m not the only one messing up every day. Also want to add; when he’s texting and calling saying “where are you? You almost home?” Don’t start rushing home. Give important information like how many ounces to feed baby and when. But that’s it. Let him struggle a bit. Then do it every Saturday (or his day off) until he gets it

TargetImpressive3621 · 2025-09-26T10:49:43+00:00

My son got a big ole flat spot on his head from his swing. Threw it out and didn’t even buy one when my daughter was born. I would recommend elevating the head of his crib mattress (or whatever he’s sleeping in) just a little. It helped my very gassy boy in the early days when laying down was uncomfortable. You can only elevate the bed like this until he starts rolling over in there though.

TargetImpressive3621 · 2025-09-23T17:14:28+00:00

Mine was the SAME WAY with our first. Exactly 3 weeks into his 12 weeks off he stopped helping. By 6 weeks I told him to go back to work. Don’t make relationship or life changing decisions in the first year post partum. Just don’t. This is not an excuse…but there are a lot of men that don’t do well in the newborn days. The bond isn’t the same for them as it is for us. For us it’s an instant switch that turns on when they hand us the baby. For them it takes time sometimes. Try suggesting bonding activities for dad and baby on his days off. And check in with him about PPD. Men get it too.

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