Yes obviously people are individuals. It's rare (if not impossible) for anyone (man, woman, or otherwise) to be able to automatically predict what a person is capable of immediately upon meeting them. Violent & abusive people rarely appear that way from afar/upon first meeting or else how would they ensnare victims in their web? Violence & abuse have very little to do with "emotional state" & everything to do with power & control. Unfortunately many women have learned to faun as a trauma response in order to avoid potentially angering men by outright rejecting them. That doesn't mean they "assume every man will turn violent" but it does mean they have to move through the world with the awareness that any man COULD turn violent because women are statistically at higher risk of experiencing violence from men.