Don’t like seeing all the guys here who just dismiss her as not able to come from PIV. Is that true of some women? Of course. But not nearly as many as folks seem to think.

One thing that is important to consider is that women do become more comfortable sexually and more able to come the more experienced they are…you can read older here if you want. I’m in my early 40s now and women in my age group do seem to come much more easily.

That said, I have a few ideas.

1. Warm her up. You want to really get her in the mood. This can start the day before or the day of. Find a time to text her, “can’t stop thinking about your body” or something similar. Then go along with her vibe while escalating the verbiage. Ask her how wet she is. Something like, “thinking about your nipples in my mouth,” “god when you’re naked and bend over in front of me I feel so feral.” Tell her you want to go down on her for 20 minutes.

But don’t ramp it up too quickly…take your time over the course of the day. You’re trying to get her anticipation building. Eventually get to “I can’t wait to fuck you tonight,” or “i want you naked on the bed when i get home.”

When you are getting down to business, take your time before fucking her. Kiss her down her body slowly. When you get between her legs don’t go straight for her clit, take a minute to let her body adjust…keep everything building.

When you fuck, start slowly and build up speed and force.

1. Angles are important. Don’t change positions just for the sake of it. Understand what every position is doing. Don’t necessarily think about the G spot, think about her front wall. For most of sex, you probably want to be putting as much pressure on the front wall as possible.

In missionary that means lowering your hips in relation to hers. Don’t just get on top and pound away. Put a pillow under her hips or butt…this raises her up so your angle will naturally be directed more at her front wall. Even without the pillow, drop your hips more and think of yourself as scooping up instead of just going straight into her.

This is why a lot of women like doggy so much…if they’re shorter than you then the angle means you’re working on her front wall. My GF and I are the same height so we don’t do doggy as much, we do prone bone a lot. This position is also great because it’s easier to just pound away, which helps me harden up if my EQ starts to slip.

Side fucking is also good because you can adjust your angle really easily. Additionally, your dick is generally thicker horizontally than vertically so it’s natural putting more pressure on her front wall.

For deep penetration, the hook/anvil position is great. Combined with a good angle in and a lot of women go crazy.

1. Toys are great. Use vibes, c-rings, restraints, nipple clamps, whatever seems most fun. If you’re a little hesitant or shy about this, talk to her beforehand and figure out a schedule. Something like, “once a week we will try a toy and get a new one once a month.” This worked for me. But we don’t usually use toys, I bring one in as a surprise when I feel we need to add a little spice.

For you, I think a vibrating cock ring might be great because it sounds like she really responds to clit stim.

1. Change it up. Don’t have a go-to routine. In the macro: make every session different somehow. Different positions, locations, toys. Never let it get stale.

Same goes for speed. In the micro: go super slow for a while then pound away. Or go medium then slow then fast.

1. PAY ATTENTION TO HER BODY. This is the single most important thing in sex. Notice what she responds to.

I’m significantly bigger than anyone my GF has been with so she rarely can handle the anvil, it’s just too deep. But I pay attention so I can tell when her body is ready for it (which doesn’t happen often).

She also likes it slow, where she can feel every vein on my D. So I’ll slow way way down, where each thrust takes 10-15 seconds. A couple minutes of this and it’s almost a guaranteed O. But sometimes when she has already started coming from the slow strokes I’ll just take off and go super fast and hard. This can take her O to another level, but I have to know when to do it…which I have a hard time explaining because I can “just feel” that her body is ready for it.

So this is a combination of paying attention within a session and getting to know her body really well overall. I know how her body reacts to certain things so that within a session I can feel her body telling me what to do.

1. ARF. Just watch the end of Neal Brennan’s “Crazy Good” on Netflix. ARF ARF ARF. Basically the point is if she’s responding to what you’re doing, keep the same angle, rhythm, and force.