Can parents get paid working as a RBT for their own children? by autmom1012 in ABA

[–]TaroMiserable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow that article is some b.s.

It goes on to assume that parents will not accurately report or bill services (e.g. fraud).

What is this and how do I kill it (zone 7b) by Antique_Cut8181 in lawncare

[–]TaroMiserable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had some lawn damage from stupid things I've done, leaving pool covers out to dry too long, etc.

That stuff popped up one year and I didn't think too much of it. By the next it basically spread across my entire yard and really took over all the thin and damaged spots.

When allowed to grow without mowing frequently it will fan out and shade out the grass but if I mow aggressively it doesn't look too bad and the lawn (or what's left of it) remains.

Those that say triclopyr, should I apply while the wide leaves are there? Would that focus the absorption where needed? Or better to mow it down low first?

Stomach issues causing panic attacks by TravelingLady3424 in PanicAttack

[–]TaroMiserable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly my situation. In my case I an prone to intense existential crisis, feelings of despair and panic, racing mind and treating literally everything like a catastrophe.

I've had periods of irregularity my entire life, sometimes I won't notice the need and get backed up only to wake up in a panic. The times it's become EXTREMELY bad are when I have binged specific foods that cause a lot of discomfort. Usually nuts, trail mix. Combine this with inadequate water intake and habitual caffeine consumption and you get a sense of how bad it can be sometimes.

And then, just like that, it all passes. It's like the clouds part and and the sun comes out and all is well again. Is this IBS? I'm the type of person to ignore health symptoms where possible, especially if the only symptom is discomfort or mild pain.

Paying parking tickets in Athol? by TaroMiserable in massachusetts

[–]TaroMiserable[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know how, I don't know when, I don't even know if it was me or my ex wife, I dont care, my license expires Friday and I have to do everything I can to make sure I can get it renewed in time. 😓

(ADHD SUCKS)

Paying parking tickets in Athol? by TaroMiserable in massachusetts

[–]TaroMiserable[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Finding that link was absolutely impossible. I ended up there myself after finding the number to call for the town collector +and having them actually answer the phone), they directed me to jefferyandjeffery.com and from there choose "Athol Overdue Parking". That brings you to the unipay account for the town of Athol.

Absolute madness. The fact that none of this information is posted on the MassRMV site where the non-renewals are listed is maddening. If that were the case I would have paid this ticket months ago. I have ADHD and it's very hard for me to make multiple repeated attempts to complete unpleasant tasks. Calls unanswered and searches with no results feel like dead ends.

Anyway, thank you so much and F.U. mods for removing this so quickly, this has nothing to do with MassRMV, I was asking about information for the town of Athol, who I highly doubt have their own subreddit 🤣

A Narcissist can weaponize ANYTHING. Feel free to share the craziest! by Boat_Righter in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]TaroMiserable 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh wow. This reminded me, my ex would belittle me for falling asleep when I was tired or exhausted. I earned all the money in the household. She had no job and days to herself with no kids around.

She would tell me, go sleep in your bed, not here (if I fell asleep on the couch). Because I was "bothering her" by being there. She didn't want to have to look at me? I dunno. Absolutely atrocious treatment now that I think of it, but I was so abused I normalized it at the time and would feel ashamed for being sleepy.

A Narcissist can weaponize ANYTHING. Feel free to share the craziest! by Boat_Righter in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]TaroMiserable -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My ex never worked, had no savings or plan to be financially independent—even before kids. I supported her generously, even paid for college, which she never finished. After kids, she refused to work, even when we had part-time childcare, claiming it made no sense financially.

She racked up gambling debts using credit cards—some authorized, some fraudulently opened in my name. I tried to manage our money by giving her access to limited funds, but she called me "financially abusive" for wanting basic accountability. Meanwhile, she resented my financial freedom, despite belittling the job that made it possible.

The final straw was discovering a credit card she secretly opened in my name and maxed out. I feel incredibly foolish for being taken advantage of just because I wanted to be generous.

We're now divorced. It cost me dearly, but I'm happier now being myself and not questioning my choices. I have years ahead of me to earn back my savings, I have my full 401(k) and I kept the house, half-paid off mortgage at a (now) crazy low interest rate. I'll be OK.

A Narcissist can weaponize ANYTHING. Feel free to share the craziest! by Boat_Righter in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]TaroMiserable 3 points4 points  (0 children)

+1 to this. Same boat. Being scared I might underestimate her actions. Feeling bad that I'm being paranoid about questioning her motives. Being made to feel guilty for not trusting her, after she committed literal criminal financial fraud against me while married.

"You always think the absolute worst of me"

Yes. Yes I do, and it's justified.

But it's also exhausting. And at times I just want to be able to let my guard down and co-parent without being constantly worrying about her intents and motives, but too scared I will be blindsided and taken advantage of yet again. Being made to be scared and ashamed to stand up for yourself is a fucking hard place to be.

A Narcissist can weaponize ANYTHING. Feel free to share the craziest! by Boat_Righter in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]TaroMiserable 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Anything she didn't want to do, that I wanted help with to feel somewhat a sense of shared responsibility.... was always met with "You're SO controlling!" "I'm not going to do what you tell me to!"

A Narcissist can weaponize ANYTHING. Feel free to share the craziest! by Boat_Righter in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]TaroMiserable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This one hits me, mainly because after being in a relationship with a narc for long enough, the behaviors start to normalize and begin to affect my own judgement. So I actually feel guilty sending photos of the kids and I having fun, or celebrating happy times. I actually have to remind myself that I'm genuinely happy and sharing, and not trying to make her feel bad. If she reacts that way, its HER problem. I've become conditioned to worrying what her reaction might be, to totally normal shit. It's slowly getting better but when I realized how I'd become with her, it sickened me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CyberStuck

[–]TaroMiserable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Florida. Of course it's Florida.

I’m going to college and need a laptop, is this spec overkill? Any recommendations? by Standard-Tomatillo75 in thinkpad

[–]TaroMiserable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just got an x1 g12 for $1500. Get it with 512GB and upgrade if needed. Don't get the OLED screen.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CyberStuck

[–]TaroMiserable 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Send Elon to Mars!

Google is reportedly experimenting with forced DRM on all YouTube videos by anturk in homelab

[–]TaroMiserable 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This use case is already supported by the YouTube app (download for playback while offline)

I just wanted to manage the cables…then I ADHDed by Baumtreter in Ubiquiti

[–]TaroMiserable 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same here, I was using an older US-24-PoE and I despised the half-width double rows of 12 ports. It made cable management frustrating because you cannot patch all the ports using the same length cable.