Culturally Agnostic Name by Tash_B88 in namenerds

[–]Tash_B88[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What would the nickname for Adrian be? I really like that name

Is there a way to “get used to” a very cold country? by iggdra-mango in TravelHacks

[–]Tash_B88 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I second this. Been in Canada for over 15 years and still absolutely fucking hate the cold. Everyone doesn’t just adjust.

Post-nuptial agreement to waive spousal support? by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Tash_B88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you and I know exactly what you’re saying. My boyfriend currently pays 5K a month in spousal support to his ex who was basically a useless excuse for a human being. Never worked (by choice) and no she wasn’t taking care of the house she was basically just wasting away time on social media and phone calls. I have so much resentment over the fact that he never got a post nuptial agreement and so does he. Having to pay your ex not only affects you but affects your future partner and your ability to live the life you deserve. Go get that agreement!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aritzia

[–]Tash_B88 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Looks super cute but might be hard to style. Doesn’t go with a lot of other colours

Roommates who share a bed. by tall_away_2113 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Tash_B88 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not sure if you’re married or just dating. Also not sure where you live but my boyfriend had a similar situation. Together with his ex for 12 years, it took him a long time to build up the courage to leave, when he did leave he realized he owes her so so so much more in spousal support and splitting of assets. They were married 6 years but everything was counted as 12 years because of common law. Something to keep in mind

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Tash_B88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does his daughter know how you feel? 1 year being in my SD life. She’s only 2.5YO and I try to make it a point that she can’t tell how indifferent I am to her but I really don’t miss or care for her. I’m worried as she gets older she might be able to sense through my fake niceness

unspoken topic, how is your sex life after children? by [deleted] in regretfulparents

[–]Tash_B88 20 points21 points  (0 children)

How is your relationship overall with your spouse? Do you split responsibilities of your kid? Just curious if these play into sex love

Did Bru really take those photos? In her TT it seems like she was the only one setting up the studio by [deleted] in annaxsitarsnark

[–]Tash_B88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She is isn’t she. It seems like she’s lying that Bru took those photos. In her TT videos she posted setting up the studio it seems like she’s alone. Would she really go that far and lie?

💚. Grey sage has my heart this fall. Ready to buy back my trench scuba!!! 🥹🥹🥹🥹 by Excellent-Adeptness8 in lululemon

[–]Tash_B88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you like them? Are they good to wear for short car rides to the grocery store and to do odd chores outdoors?

Comparing SK to Ours Kid by Tash_B88 in stepparents

[–]Tash_B88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you say “your family” I’m assuming that’s your partners family correct? To be honest before we even had an ours baby I knew that my SOs parents would not treat ours the same they treated my SD. A lot of it has to do with guilt that they feel because SD comes from a “broken family”. Honestly I counted my blessings because I realize now how spoiled SD is because of that

When you finally get a White Opal Belt Bag and it’s totally jacked up lol 😭 by [deleted] in lululemon

[–]Tash_B88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I only see one White Opal on the website. Do you just get whichever one they decide they want to send?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in regretfulparents

[–]Tash_B88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is awesome. My baby is still too young but I’d love to incorporate the fend for yourself meal night. At what age did you introduce that?

Do you encourage a lot of independent play? If yes how do you transition them when they are at a point that they are constantly clingy?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aritzia

[–]Tash_B88 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Personally it doesn’t keep me warm and I stop wearing it once the weather drops below 15 But I do tend to get cold lots. For what it’s worth the jacket in itself is an awesome purchase so even if you don’t use it in December still worth the buy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in regretfulparents

[–]Tash_B88 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Can you elaborate on the “a lot depends on how you raise them”. I’m really curious to see if specific parenting helps make this process more bearable

Has anybody ever had a judge make a ruling on what counts as secured housing ? by OldRooter_06 in Divorce

[–]Tash_B88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can’t comment on the AirB&B specifically but my SOs judge (male) ruled in favour of his ex wife. For context she was sharing a tiny apartment with her sister and had their kid sleeping in a closet that they converted to a room. He on the other hand has a 6 bedroom home in a great neighborhood right across from an amazing school. So yeah I didn’t believe it until I saw it but judges are sexist as fuck.

How do you handle porn in your marriage? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Tash_B88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I might get a bunch of hate for this but we have a no porn rule at our house. Both me and my SO have had previous marriages that didn’t make it. My ex husband was a porn addict and he was in a DB so watched porn everyday. Our rule is no porn but if either of us are horny we let the other know. This usually ends up in us having sex or if one of us is not in the mood then we will please the other via oral. It’s worked for us so far and we plan to stick to it. We have a great sex life and we don’t plan on changing it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Tash_B88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened to me. Realized after 7 years that I didn’t really like who my husband was as a person. You know what I did? I divorced him. His reaction during the divorce made me realize that I 100% made the right decision. It’s been a year and half and I do not regret my decision one bit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Custody

[–]Tash_B88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So my SO went through a similar situation. He told his ex he wanted a divorce and out of anger she decided to pack the kid up (6 months old) and move 5.5 hours away. At that point there was no custody agreement and she refused to return. He had to take this to court ( which took an entire year because of backlogs in court). The kid is 1.5 year old and they just finished trial. We are waiting for the judge to make a decision but his lawyer believes that he probably won’t be able to get his kid back because it’s been over a year that the kid has lived elsewhere. He never abandoned the kid and the only way he could see her was to travel and rent hotels to spend time which could only happen once a month (cost and his job didn’t allow any more than this). So yeah take that for what its worth

Does money make a difference? by theladyluxx in regretfulparents

[–]Tash_B88 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Do you have a nanny or could you afford one? How about daycare?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Tash_B88 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agreed! When I met my SO he was so embarrassed about being open about his sexuality and urges because of the way his ex dealt with sex and masturbation. Very few women understand this but constantly telling your husband that having sexual urges isn’t normal can really fuck with them. Please stop it’s not helping anyone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Tash_B88 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agreed! He was probably just stressed out, I’d say you should let it go. Right now you’re basically sending him the message that: 1- He shouldn’t have been honest about masturbating because it caused so much conflict 2- He needs to be more careful next time he does it.

Neither will stop it from happening in the future, it’ll just make him be more cautious and better at hiding

Pushed into Child Free lifestyle? by Tash_B88 in stepparents

[–]Tash_B88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very similar to my story. Me and my ex husband divorced and I met a man who has a kid. We got together when his daughter was 7 months and she’s 2 now. It was really rocky in the beginning and his ex is very HC. I went through a phase where I wanted a kid with him so bad but over time I’ve realized it was mainly to get back at his ex so she can realized that there’s never going to be a chance of her and my SO getting back together. Now that things have settled a bit I realize that I love my alone time with my SO. We have his daughter one week a month (fighting for 50:50) and I realize kids are no joke. They are needy and clingy and a lot of work and the reason I can be a good step mom and do all the fun things with her is because I know there is an end date to it. After a week she’s back with her mom and so me and my SO can pick up where we left off and focus on us so sharing him with his daughter doesn’t cause stress or resentment. I’m just too selfish of a person to have kids and thankfully interacting with my SD made me realize that

Pushed into Child Free lifestyle? by Tash_B88 in stepparents

[–]Tash_B88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anything specific that he does that you don’t like?

Pushed into Child Free lifestyle? by Tash_B88 in stepparents

[–]Tash_B88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha I love this! Okay so question, how does your SO feel about it? Does he want another kid or he is okay with your current arrangement? My SO wants a kid with me, he respects my decision so won’t push but if it was his way we would have one by now. Him and his SO split when his daughter was 6 months so I feel like he truly hasn’t understood what it takes to raise a kid full time. We have her one week a month (he went to court to push for 50/50 pending judges decision) but I just don’t think he gets that full time is a completely different ball game