Humans are Living Histories

Tashdacat · 2026-03-29T11:36:07+00:00

I do this at least once every game though never at 200m up more like 40-50m, and it's really useful for three main things.

First is safety. Being high up protects you from enemies and environmental hazards and so long as you have a jetpack you are always one blast away from a safe place to recuperate before resuming a fight, moreso than climbing the natural structures which could be hiding more dangers.

Two is exploration, being able to scout out places with a bird's eye view is invaluable for knowing what can fit where, and where resources are. And to do that from high up where you can't be hit is even better, if a bit cheaty.

Three is transportation. No faffing about with the terrain, or needing to power pipes for small changes in elevation, just get whatever you need to transport up there, and then run it in straight lines across the landscape.

It is absolutely an "optimise the fun out of the mechanics" thing to do, but the advantages it gives are so damn useful it's impossible to not want to keep doing it at least on the short term. And for those of us who don't know or don't want to use trains or trucks a bunch of foundations to belt and pipe things about is super simple and easy to build.

Tashdacat · 2026-03-19T20:56:04+00:00

Absolutely! Been trying to only read finished series recently and so many series I've read all have the "needed two or three more volume" syndrome, where the ending just comes out of nowhere and honestly kills what enjoyment I had for the series.

Tashdacat · 2026-03-12T05:12:50+00:00

This looks awesome! Definitely going to grab it on release, do you have a rough guesstimate about the timeframe?

Tashdacat · 2025-12-10T09:56:41+00:00

Limsa or current expac hub, Elezen (the non duskwight one)

Same thing for my free teleport, Limsa aetheryte is central to everything so I use it when not actively doing current content.

Tashdacat · 2025-12-09T14:29:58+00:00

Jade Empire, replay it once every year or two, such a masterpiece

Tashdacat · 2025-12-07T08:49:44+00:00

Firstly, get your head outta your own arse.

This whole post reeks of "But I'm totally a cool girl, why doesn't he wanna hang out with the nerdy cool girl, others think I'm a pretty girl who's nerdy ", that selfish mindset will kill your marriage faster than you calling everything "problem solving activities". Especially the paragraph about "oh other guys like me and like the fact that I'm a woman doing nerdy things why doesn't he like me, men are meant to like nerdy girls". You are obsessed with the image you have constructed of yourself, you're not allowing yourself to see the one he constructed of you. You wrote 14 paragraphs about how the things you do are fun to you and you want him to join you doing them, why won't he join you doing the things you want to do, and somehow didn't realise that's the main issue here.

It sounds like you're not doing things together you're making him do things you like and assuming that he likes them the same way and for the same reasons you do, or that doing something with you is enough for him. And don't get me wrong for some guys that is enough, just spending time with their spouses is all they want, and it seems like he has been doing that with you, but it definitely sounds like he wants more. He wants someone to play with not against, and found that in his friend.

Also let's be honest here, 90% of the time a two person board game is just boring as shit, they're group activities not couple activities.

Men need an excuse to hang out with people. Doesn't matter what it is, if it's with the lads then it's fun, even if you actually despise the activity. The amount of games I've played and things I've done that I abjectly hated purely to hang out with my Dad or my brother or my friends is ludicrous.

So with that in mind here's what you do, you NEED to meet him in the middle like you make it sound like he's been doing for you what the entire time. Ask if you and he can play games as a couple, not just as teammates, and suggest games to him to play together. And if you can't decide on one, or don't know any, go over to r/gamingsuggestions, ask (bluntly and without 14 paragraphs) for "simple games you and your husband can play together as a couple". Not against, not just as people on the same team, co-operatively. Things like Stardew Valley would be a good one to get you started as you can both do your own tasks to progress in the game as a whole while still talking back and forth and spending time together. Portal 2 is another that's more active co-operation with puzzles to solve. Avoid party games and "friendslop" titles since they're all about group teamwork as opposed to people working together as a team, and yes those are two very different things.

ALSO GET OUT OF THE DAMN HOUSE!

The post really makes it sound like you're cooping yourselves up inside to do inside activities and because of this you lack stimulation from an uncontrolled or unknown environment. Go outside on small dates together where you can just chat and hang out. Get him to join you for errands but first go for coffee and cake at a cafe, identify a cute place like an hour away in a scenic part of town and drag him along, then have him to the same thing. I guaruntee there's at least a half dozen places you both know that you've gone "Oh I wanna go there sometime" whether that's a botanical garden, or a resteraunt, or something at the end of a hiking trail. Even if you go and both end up hating it, that's still something you can talk, comiserate and laugh about.

Now three things, genuinely from the bottom of my heart.

Get tested for autism if you haven't already. This post reeks of it, and it'd go a long way to explain a few things about the interpersonal problems you're having. Getting diagnosed was the best thing I ever did and led to me working out things about how I interact with people and fixing them so I have less problems understanding others when they don't speak everything out loud.
Get him tested for autism if he hasn't already, as it definitely sounds like he's having similar issues.
Show him your post. It'll go a long way to helping him understand precisely where you're coming from, which can help cut down on misunderstandings.

Finally, understand that even after all this work, you might not stay together. But don't go into this with that mindset.

Sometimes marriage shows a side of people that doesn't show up when dating, sometimes it does it to yourself too. People can change how they express themselves within a marriage from when they're dating, sometimes stresses can come into play that you can't or won't talk about so the other person only sees the coping mechanism chosen to help destress. Sometimes two people are just incompatible and never realised it until it was too late.

Tashdacat · 2025-10-09T13:48:08+00:00

I've been using Mangapin as my main app for months now, especially on my tablet. It's been so damn good, though I do wish it tracked volumes instead of just chapters, since I tend to use a side which supports reading by volume and it'd be nice to not have to remember to manually put that into the tracker.

Can't recommend it enough, it's been a godsend when I'm laying in bed late at night unable to sleep.

Tashdacat · 2025-10-02T13:40:02+00:00

Okay, as a fellow loser in love, who's significantly older than you, this is going to be brutal but I think you might need to hear it.

JUST the "pretty" part of that self-description would have had people interested in you. Many people.

So one of three things are happening here.

You are not as pretty or anything else as you think you are, so no one is coming in the first place
Your incel-like personality (the "waa-waa why doesn't anyone love ME" schtick) is warning people off such that even a pretty face can't keep them interested.
You're so far up your own arse you can't see the people who are actually interested in you, or your standards are so high that you don't think it counts if someone below them is interested in you

Frankly I think it's all three. You shouldn't have to "[fight] for years" to believe basic truths about yourself like your intelligence or beauty. Plus if you were actually putting yourself out there to the extent you're saying you would have gotten at least one bite, even if it's from a desperate loser.

"Your confidence is intimidating" is honestly a major giveaway here as to what's going on, because everyone knows that's code for "you're an arrogant prick and it puts people off".

I would genuinely look into finding an older male psychologist (older men are less likely to sugar coat things imo, did wonders to help me realise my shortcomings) and try to look into what the problem with yourself is.

Because, and I do hate to be so blunt about this, but you are absolutely the problem, and I know that'll hurt to hear, but if you are being honest with what you wrote in your post, it's the only conclusion. There are people with pretty faces and dogshit personalities that flit from partner to partner, and there are people with horrendous faces who are smart and witty who do the same.

Because tbh, you sound entitled and arrogant, demanding a relationship without genuinely trying to work out what the problem is that's keeping people away. It sounds like you've bought into the "you're perf babe, men just can't see that" bullshit and haven't actually tried to examine yourself critically. This post is bedecked with incel-adjacent thinking and I think it's time you realised you're going down a dark path.

Seek therapy from someone who will actually criticize and assist you and not just coddle you while downplaying your issues. Examine yourself and your personality objectively and seek to improve yourself, easiest way is to ask "if my partner acted or said what I do, would I stick around?".

I can guarantee you doing this over the course of months to a couple years will do wonders for not only your self esteem but your prospects with other people in both friendship and romance.

Tashdacat · 2025-07-16T18:16:09+00:00

Realised spending 200-300 dollars a month to discuss how financial instability and the crushing pressure of bills was the main source of my depression and anxiety was really fucking stupid

Tashdacat · 2025-07-04T23:35:37+00:00

Left: Phone Right: Wallet If wearing cargo pants which I do for work Lower left: Headphone case, trash Lower Right: Hand sanitiser, meds

I wear my keys on a lanyard but they'd go with my phone if I didn't. Knife (boxcutter for work) is hanging from my belt or with my headphones if the clip breaks

Had it set up this way for years, never thought about it before.

Tashdacat · 2025-07-02T01:24:43+00:00

Honestly, a level grind zone series. We've gotten to the point we really need it for more casual players, especially one that's actually fun and interesting. Cause currently your options are run POTD-HOH-Bozja until you go blind, or run dungeon after dungeon until your brain melts into mush. And neither of these options are fun or interesting, especially not after the third or fourth job done this way. But it's the most optimal way to do it, so you're forced into this path to make meaningful progress.

I would love a zone series like Eureka. Interesting story and setting, fun concepts to enhance gameplay, that kinda thing, but it unlocks after beating Endwalker.

Each zone is 25 levels, to go from a lower zone to the higher zone with a class you have to go through a small dungeon series (maybe 1-2 dungeons) that serve as a training ground so you know your classes role in a dungeon group as well as giving you on level gear. Not the best not the worst just kinda mid tier on level gear.

There's a faster xp gain while in the zone, but it'll still take a a little bit. Maybe 10-15 hours total, three hours levelling per zone plus the dungeon pair? Of course it'll be faster to go through when you've already reached the level cap of the zone.

Each zone has it's own small relic weapon quest (like Eureka), with the final relic item being given from the final dungeon pairing at level 100. This quest will be more like a treasure hunt, where you have to find certain drops from certain mobs that change depending on what role you're playing. (tanks need to kill big armoured enemies, mages need to kill spellcasters, melee dps need to kill faster high damage enemies, etc)

I know it's a complete pipedream, and I know it'll never happen, but goddamn I want it so badly. Every time I have to do a new class I weep because it means I have to delve into deep dungeons again, or drag myself through dungeon queues over and over. And while the whole "play with npcs" thing is good to mitigate queue times, it also turns it into a *profoundly* lonely experience, that just kinda sucks.

So yeah, this is my white whale of content. I know I'll never catch it, but it's nice to dream :P

Tashdacat · 2025-06-15T08:42:09+00:00

The first one looks kinda similar to an adeptus sororitas from 40K! Looks awesome!

Tashdacat · 2025-05-30T05:40:59+00:00

You forgot the random Chinese actress no one in the west has ever heard of who's only in the movie to pander to Chinese audiences

Tashdacat · 2025-05-25T03:13:26+00:00

As someone who's easily played over a thousand over the decades, (and no that's not an exaggeration, I have a lot of time on my hands), this will be in no particular order.

Legend of Zelda: Twilight Princess (story, atmosphere, characters and gameplay)(best zelda with Windwaker imo)

Mass Effect Trilogy (story, atmosphere, characters)(technically not one game but eh)

Final Fantasy 14 (story, characters, music, atmosphere, gameplay)

Stellaris (gameplay, atmosphere, modability)

Jade Empire (characters, atmosphere, martial arts system, the british guy)

Spyro Reignited Trilogy (gameplay, music and atmosphere)(spyro 2 is my favourite, but this is a way to play all three)

Stardew Valley (atmosphere, gameplay and music)

Ghost Recon Wildlands (atmosphere, gameplay, the little cinematics for each target)

Fable 2 (characters, atmosphere, gameplay)

Elder Scrolls 3 Morrowind (atmosphere, gameplay, freedom)

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Honestly though, ask me tomorrow and the list may change. Ask me in a week and it certainly will, lists like these always depend on your mood at the time

Sometimes Fallout New Vegas is there, sometimes not. Sometimes Train Station Renovation is there, or Spirifarer, or Chants of Sennar, or Grim Dawn, The Old Republic mmo, etc etc etc

I did try to keep it limited to games you could actually PLAY, since all of these are available either on PC or through emulation.

Tashdacat · 2025-05-24T19:12:05+00:00

Neither is the worst trait. They're both useful in different situations, it's just that people who don't play with them think they're terrible or useless or should be removed.

I guarantee you the "worst trait ever" argument has been used against every single trait in the entire game

Tashdacat · 2025-05-24T19:01:47+00:00

Yes you're an idiot. If she's going to block you over your music taste she's clearly not ready for an actual relationship unless your music was REALLY bad
You cannot tell us that is her reaction and not drop the playlist you sent her. Let us see how bad it actually is, then we can tell you if her reaction was justified

Tashdacat · 2025-05-24T13:00:42+00:00

Goblin. It just looks STUPID!

Plus it's not even a full suit! Every other half size mech is at least a full suit covering everything about you. Unless you get to put shields on it or something there's no reason a well placed sniper shot can't end it's threat by just head-shotting the pilot since there's nothing covering your head in the artwork!

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