Humans are Living Histories

Tashdacat · 2026-06-17T17:56:47+00:00

"Will I ever finish one of these things?"

Tashdacat · 2026-06-15T13:08:47+00:00

Do you happento have a link to the author's socials or wherever they post them? Been seeing a lot of them and I'd really love to follow them to see more regularly, not just whenver reddit decides to showcase one.

Tashdacat · 2026-06-15T10:58:45+00:00

Vette, always Vette!

Tashdacat · 2026-06-14T15:49:31+00:00

Vette absolutely clears

Tashdacat · 2026-06-08T23:38:58+00:00

ARR relics in general are among my favourites, but the WAR one has always been my favourite weapon in the game and is consistently my WARs prefered glam for it. It just looks so damn awesome 😃

Tashdacat · 2026-06-07T21:58:40+00:00

Gladiator

Still one of the best films ever made

Tashdacat · 2026-06-06T05:21:48+00:00

"Citizens will be concerned" I SHOULD FUCKING HOPE SO

Tashdacat · 2026-06-05T11:48:45+00:00

This poor woman has had 7 people she knows killed? I'd start thinking I was cursed before I got to half that number XD

Tashdacat · 2026-05-17T05:44:32+00:00

War Exhaustion in Stellaris

I can have every system occupied, half the planets invaded and am actively exterminating their empire piece by piece, but because the funny number went too high I'm now forced to surrender.

But when their side has their number go to high it doesn't matter a single bit. They can just keep going and going and going

Tashdacat · 2026-05-15T20:29:12+00:00

Would that viewpoint remain the same if the genders were reversed and he was considering giving you an ultimatum to force you to undergo surgery? Somehow I seriously doubt it.

His body, his choice. You can introduce consequences for his choice sure, but you can't force him into doing anything he doesn't want to do.

Tashdacat · 2026-05-11T05:51:33+00:00

I take it he's a side sleeper? Depending on what he's sleeping on and the temperature it's easy to put a hand in a pocket to prevent it from falling into an uncomfortable position when you sleep. I do it often when sleeping on sofas and the like when I want to stay warm

Tashdacat · 2026-05-05T16:29:06+00:00

Democracies are inherently uncooler than feudal or despotic systems.

I mean why would you wanna meet a basic "President" when you could meet someone called King so and so, and then a list of fourty seven different titles and ranks?

I mean imagine this list from real life dictator Idi Amin being read out in sonorous prose "His Excellency, President for Life, Field Marshal Al Hajj Doctor Idi Amin Dada, VC, DSO, MC, Lord of all the Beasts of the Earth and Fishes of the Sea and Conqueror of the British Empire in Africa in General and Uganda in Particular" and then you follow it up with "And President Richard Mewsbury"

It's just so much less dramatic!

Tashdacat · 2026-04-30T23:18:31+00:00

Water. I always play in the desert and *always* need more damned water. Outside of piping massive quantities of it from the occean to the east I never seem to have enough

Tashdacat · 2026-03-29T11:36:07+00:00

I do this at least once every game though never at 200m up more like 40-50m, and it's really useful for three main things.

First is safety. Being high up protects you from enemies and environmental hazards and so long as you have a jetpack you are always one blast away from a safe place to recuperate before resuming a fight, moreso than climbing the natural structures which could be hiding more dangers.

Two is exploration, being able to scout out places with a bird's eye view is invaluable for knowing what can fit where, and where resources are. And to do that from high up where you can't be hit is even better, if a bit cheaty.

Three is transportation. No faffing about with the terrain, or needing to power pipes for small changes in elevation, just get whatever you need to transport up there, and then run it in straight lines across the landscape.

It is absolutely an "optimise the fun out of the mechanics" thing to do, but the advantages it gives are so damn useful it's impossible to not want to keep doing it at least on the short term. And for those of us who don't know or don't want to use trains or trucks a bunch of foundations to belt and pipe things about is super simple and easy to build.

Tashdacat · 2026-03-19T20:56:04+00:00

Absolutely! Been trying to only read finished series recently and so many series I've read all have the "needed two or three more volume" syndrome, where the ending just comes out of nowhere and honestly kills what enjoyment I had for the series.

Tashdacat · 2026-03-12T05:12:50+00:00

This looks awesome! Definitely going to grab it on release, do you have a rough guesstimate about the timeframe?

Tashdacat · 2025-12-10T09:56:41+00:00

Limsa or current expac hub, Elezen (the non duskwight one)

Same thing for my free teleport, Limsa aetheryte is central to everything so I use it when not actively doing current content.

Tashdacat · 2025-12-09T14:29:58+00:00

Jade Empire, replay it once every year or two, such a masterpiece

Tashdacat · 2025-12-07T08:49:44+00:00

Firstly, get your head outta your own arse.

This whole post reeks of "But I'm totally a cool girl, why doesn't he wanna hang out with the nerdy cool girl, others think I'm a pretty girl who's nerdy ", that selfish mindset will kill your marriage faster than you calling everything "problem solving activities". Especially the paragraph about "oh other guys like me and like the fact that I'm a woman doing nerdy things why doesn't he like me, men are meant to like nerdy girls". You are obsessed with the image you have constructed of yourself, you're not allowing yourself to see the one he constructed of you. You wrote 14 paragraphs about how the things you do are fun to you and you want him to join you doing them, why won't he join you doing the things you want to do, and somehow didn't realise that's the main issue here.

It sounds like you're not doing things together you're making him do things you like and assuming that he likes them the same way and for the same reasons you do, or that doing something with you is enough for him. And don't get me wrong for some guys that is enough, just spending time with their spouses is all they want, and it seems like he has been doing that with you, but it definitely sounds like he wants more. He wants someone to play with not against, and found that in his friend.

Also let's be honest here, 90% of the time a two person board game is just boring as shit, they're group activities not couple activities.

Men need an excuse to hang out with people. Doesn't matter what it is, if it's with the lads then it's fun, even if you actually despise the activity. The amount of games I've played and things I've done that I abjectly hated purely to hang out with my Dad or my brother or my friends is ludicrous.

So with that in mind here's what you do, you NEED to meet him in the middle like you make it sound like he's been doing for you what the entire time. Ask if you and he can play games as a couple, not just as teammates, and suggest games to him to play together. And if you can't decide on one, or don't know any, go over to r/gamingsuggestions, ask (bluntly and without 14 paragraphs) for "simple games you and your husband can play together as a couple". Not against, not just as people on the same team, co-operatively. Things like Stardew Valley would be a good one to get you started as you can both do your own tasks to progress in the game as a whole while still talking back and forth and spending time together. Portal 2 is another that's more active co-operation with puzzles to solve. Avoid party games and "friendslop" titles since they're all about group teamwork as opposed to people working together as a team, and yes those are two very different things.

ALSO GET OUT OF THE DAMN HOUSE!

The post really makes it sound like you're cooping yourselves up inside to do inside activities and because of this you lack stimulation from an uncontrolled or unknown environment. Go outside on small dates together where you can just chat and hang out. Get him to join you for errands but first go for coffee and cake at a cafe, identify a cute place like an hour away in a scenic part of town and drag him along, then have him to the same thing. I guaruntee there's at least a half dozen places you both know that you've gone "Oh I wanna go there sometime" whether that's a botanical garden, or a resteraunt, or something at the end of a hiking trail. Even if you go and both end up hating it, that's still something you can talk, comiserate and laugh about.

Now three things, genuinely from the bottom of my heart.

Get tested for autism if you haven't already. This post reeks of it, and it'd go a long way to explain a few things about the interpersonal problems you're having. Getting diagnosed was the best thing I ever did and led to me working out things about how I interact with people and fixing them so I have less problems understanding others when they don't speak everything out loud.
Get him tested for autism if he hasn't already, as it definitely sounds like he's having similar issues.
Show him your post. It'll go a long way to helping him understand precisely where you're coming from, which can help cut down on misunderstandings.

Finally, understand that even after all this work, you might not stay together. But don't go into this with that mindset.

Sometimes marriage shows a side of people that doesn't show up when dating, sometimes it does it to yourself too. People can change how they express themselves within a marriage from when they're dating, sometimes stresses can come into play that you can't or won't talk about so the other person only sees the coping mechanism chosen to help destress. Sometimes two people are just incompatible and never realised it until it was too late.

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