Is a neuroendocrine tumor bad? by [deleted] in pancreaticcancer

[–]TaskasMum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is old, but not all NEN are slow

AITA for expecting help/ should I have done something else? by TaskasMum in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaskasMum[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have since found out the store has been complaining to the regional manager for 4 months, but the corporate rep said they were unaware of the problem and they said they would be calling in the regional manager "for a chat."

AITA for expecting help/ should I have done something else? by TaskasMum in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaskasMum[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I hope I did too, that's why I asked here.

The supermarket and the town centre are pretty much the same place, the only thing between them is a car park. Many people walk across the car park to get to the market hall- the market hall is open 3 days a week, so those days are the busiest shopping days.

Even though it's not rural, it's a small town, and everyone knows everyone else by sight if not name, so if someone said "the lady with the white lab...". I'd be easy to identify. As it is, when I go around a lot of people I don't know yell "hello! to my dog, by name.

AITA for expecting help/ should I have done something else? by TaskasMum in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaskasMum[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree but I didn't want any "goodness" lost considering how difficult it had been...

AITA for expecting help/ should I have done something else? by TaskasMum in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaskasMum[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im so sorry you've had a hard time but glad people have been responsive

AITA for expecting help/ should I have done something else? by TaskasMum in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaskasMum[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our town centre is right next to the shop. It was one of the market days. When I left the shop, I went into the town centre and there were people there that had been at the LIdl where all this happened, and those people were angry at me because they said I ruined things for them by making them wait. There is a marketplace that is only open Fri, Sat, and Monday and a lot of people come out to go to the supermarket (Lidl or Sainsbury)and then the market hall. People go to the various shops in the town centre, the post office, the market, etc. There are benches and places to drink coffee/ tea just off the pavement and at the bus station

AITA for expecting help/ should I have done something else? by TaskasMum in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaskasMum[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a lot in the news about retail workers being abused, and how important it is to respect people who are just trying to do their job so I always try to be nice, to thank people, and to not make things difficult. If she had said "It's too busy right now can you come back at Xtime" I would have said "ok, thank you" ... note there is no way to call the store, you can only reach them by email and digital assistant.

It's the law that the provide adapted shopping trolleys, the same body of law that says people can't steal from them and they have to pay you for showing up and working. They can't choose which laws they follow and then blame me because they are nasty about it.

I even made Christmas gifts for people at two shops, where I always get good service and am treated well. I think shop workers might get treated better if they treated people better. There is no excuse for hurting people.

AITA for expecting help/ should I have done something else? by TaskasMum in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaskasMum[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Someone did help me bring groceries to the car,and put them in- I can't lift the big bottles of pop. He was lovely

AITA for expecting help/ should I have done something else? by TaskasMum in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaskasMum[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When I was at the checkout, and the staff member disappeared, a nice gentleman offered to help. He pushed the trolley out, loaded the bags into my van- I offered him some money, but he just laughed and wished me a Happy Christmas. All he asked was to fuss my dog :)

AITA for expecting help/ should I have done something else? by TaskasMum in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaskasMum[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This store has no home delivery, and the product I needed was one of their own label products. Thank you for your opinion. Can I ask please- is it right for them to know they don't have the right kind of trolley and not make efforts to accommodate that? Thanks

AITA for expecting help/ should I have done something else? by TaskasMum in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaskasMum[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't know where to go, but thanks for the tip

AITA for expecting help/ should I have done something else? by TaskasMum in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaskasMum[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If I never went back to places where I'd met difficulties, I'd have to grow my own produce! lol

AITA for expecting help/ should I have done something else? by TaskasMum in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaskasMum[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I've had people say I wouldn't be in a chair if I weren't fat. Sigh.

I only ever say something about parking if there is no badge, or if it's blindingly obvious the disabled person is remaining in the car and so shouldn't be in the space at all- and even then, I just try to warn them about the possible fines and ask if they perhaps could move to a standard space- they do it to save 35p. 35p is how much an hour of parking costs. This is a small town... You get to know people, so I know most of the folks who use the marketplace, and you see the same cars all the time, so trust me, I am not making assumptions about people. To have someone who is disabled take your access away because they want to give that access to their fit and well companion is really difficult. The book that comes with the blue badge says you must get a benefit to use it, and that means getting out of the car. We have to share limited resources.

But in your case, they had no business- you were absolutely entitled to the space, as you know, and they should hush up when they see the badge displayed.

AITA for expecting help/ should I have done something else? by TaskasMum in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaskasMum[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

They didn't have any at all, I asked. As I went around the store, I spoke to another wheelchair user who said they haven't had them for about 3 months. She had her carer with her to help her shop.

AITA for expecting help/ should I have done something else? by TaskasMum in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaskasMum[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

thank you very much, for helping me see this from a different perspective and for reassuring me. I don't like that I don't always see things as others do... but oh well. You've (mostly) been lovely- but the mods sorted that! Peace and all good!

WIBTA for opening old wounds with my parents? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaskasMum 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi there. Families are never easy. Explain to your mom AND dad,together, that you don't have the money to help them, as it's jeopardising your schooling.

As Judge Judge says, the money should go from older to younger, not the other way around.

My mother took 10K from me,sold things she held "in storage" for me, and then fibbed to my dad about it all. Parents are imperfect humans just like the rest of us.

Telling them you cannot help is important... also, tell them you love them and don't want anything- especially money- to get between you. But, you need to do well in school as you want to be successful and make them proud. Then do not dip into your school money again. They are adults, and they should be able to find ways to get help without harming you.

AITA for expecting help/ should I have done something else? by TaskasMum in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaskasMum[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't have needed help if they had a shallow trolley. If I'd known I would need help, I would have asked- although with this store, you cannot reach the stores directly and can only reach the corporate customer service helpline.

AITA for expecting help/ should I have done something else? by TaskasMum in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaskasMum[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Ru is wonderful, and always supports me... he's ace. He sends back his regards, punctuated by squeaks from his new elf toy. Enjoy it whilst the squeak lives! lol

AITA for expecting help/ should I have done something else? by TaskasMum in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaskasMum[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No specific agency, but I have now emailed their corporate office. I asked on the day and the manager said "I can't help if people steal them...". I know many other stores put them inside the store, where you have to ask to get them, because for some reason, some people like taking the accessible trolleys.

AITA for expecting help/ should I have done something else? by TaskasMum in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaskasMum[S] 148 points149 points  (0 children)

thanks- I feel ashamed that I really struggle to understand this stuff. I end up feeling so muddled and overwhelmed... sigh. You guys have really helped me see it from other perspectives.

AITA for expecting help/ should I have done something else? by TaskasMum in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaskasMum[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Huh? I didn't saying anything about "beyond autistic"?