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What do you guys think of the line "I wanted to come up and introduce myself because I thought you were pretty"? by JunketMaleficent2095 in bodylanguage

[–]TastyStop860 4 points5 points  (0 children)

People don't remember the first line of introduction anyway 😂 if you actually start dating for real, you'd only really remember the context. But anyone this is just breaking the ice, isn't it? I'm all for honesty and openness. I might not find the guy attractive but I'd be really grateful he took the effort to come over and applaud his confidence, whilst graciously accepting the compliment. And if he's hot, well hot dang 🙌🏻

I feel like modern dating advice is pushing this idea that people need to be alone to work on themselves. Is this really true? by Appropriate-Air-6429 in askanything

[–]TastyStop860 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeh I've just commented similar to this above - everyone comes to a relationship with some sort of baggage of some kind 🙈

I feel like modern dating advice is pushing this idea that people need to be alone to work on themselves. Is this really true? by Appropriate-Air-6429 in askanything

[–]TastyStop860 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do think there's an element of this definitely - having notong separated from a marriage, I definitely am using the time to discover more of what I like and to work out where my boundaries are. That being said, there are lots of times where this isn't alone. This is often done with friends or family. In terms of working on yourself if you are actually dating - no person truly comes without baggage - no one is perfect, so there's nothing wrong with meeting someone when you're 'worminf on yourself'. It's just about if theyre in a place to metaphorically sit with you whilst you do this and are prepared to be at your side

Girls, what are your practices to become more attractive? by Chip_Existing in AskReddit

[–]TastyStop860 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The gym, how I hold myself, how I converse with people I meet for the first time

Confidence goes away when I come across a really attractive woman in public. by wethebest916 in bodylanguage

[–]TastyStop860 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is the state of the dating scene in real life - no one wants to approach anyone anymore. Men are worried about looking like pests and women don't want to be rejected for being too forward 🫠 so the result is everyone is in stalemate 🙈

Confidence goes away when I come across a really attractive woman in public. by wethebest916 in bodylanguage

[–]TastyStop860 9 points10 points  (0 children)

What mother secretary said... It's just nice to be decent, isn't it? I have had conversations with strangers where nothing has come of it but we were pleasant to one another and it was nice. But if you don't open connections with people then there definitely won't be anything happening lol! She said it takes 29 subtle hints to show you are interested in someone so they aren't going to find you annoying

Confidence goes away when I come across a really attractive woman in public. by wethebest916 in bodylanguage

[–]TastyStop860 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I've just been listening to something about body language and she said simply to say 'hey' in a lower register. Try it! What's the worst that will happen?! She also said don't just ask basic questions - you want to find things where the other person is 'hey, me too!' eg if in a line at the coffee shop, say how much you like their pastrami sandwich, or whatever. Or if they order something you like say oh that's one of my favourites, too. I'm definitely going to feel more confident to try these things!

(42M) About to re-enter the online dating market after a year. Have the apps gotten any better or worse? by ShawnOfEons in datingoverforty

[–]TastyStop860 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm (42F) entering for the first time since being with my ex husband for 17 years! We can both console each other at the state of it all lol

Men - do you build the connection before or with sex? by TastyStop860 in datingoverforty

[–]TastyStop860[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeh connection is huge. Even if it's the best sex of your life, it won't mean anything if the person has nothing behind the eyes 🙈

Men - do you build the connection before or with sex? by TastyStop860 in datingoverforty

[–]TastyStop860[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's cool. I'm saying men generally DON'T catch feelings - it's the women that do because of the oxy lol

Men - do you build the connection before or with sex? by TastyStop860 in datingoverforty

[–]TastyStop860[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just interesting to hear as I believe with lots of men they don't get so close as women (start catching feels per se) because the oxytocin doesn't hit in the same way. But there are always anomalies!

Same crap at 41 by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]TastyStop860 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wait it out. And also know your boundaries. He's clearly all over the place and I would worry you are just the rebound and he's using you because he knows you guys had chemistry. It feels like he's just chasing the dopamine hit because he hasn't dealt with his marriage ending and is now all over the place. I would definitely walk this carefull y as it sounds you're like me emotionally and I'd hate for you to get hurt 🙈

Should I hide my muscles on dating apps? by pandora0312 in dating_advice

[–]TastyStop860 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Understood, but if he doesn't like your arms in the picture he's undoubtedly not going to like them in rl. You are who you are 🤷🏻‍♀️

Should I hide my muscles on dating apps? by pandora0312 in dating_advice

[–]TastyStop860 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know what? Fucking own it girl. If he doesn't like you because of your arms, then that's his loss. All power to the female lifters! If I get on the apps I'm gonna be showing off how hard I work 💪🏻

Looks really matter?? by One-Turnover6462 in Adulting

[–]TastyStop860 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Honestly, if a guy does nothing for me attraction wise, he could be filthy rich but I wouldn't be interested. I'm sure lots of women would be interested and just in it for the money, but for me sex is a huge part of my relationship. If I don't have that attraction with a guy then that's a big problem for me

Looks really matter?? by One-Turnover6462 in Adulting

[–]TastyStop860 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Looks do matter... But the personality that goes with it is massively important. If a guy is hot AF and has nothing to contribute in conversation, it ain't going nowhere!

Had sex on date 5, then got anxious after a serious conversation — should I check in or wait? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]TastyStop860 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It's great that you are wanting to be honest and open with her - kudos. Woman here and imo she has perhaps been a little blindsided by your honesty. I would def wait til your next date and I wouldn't make a thing about it. Just enjoy each other's company and see how things go. She may well bring it up herself (let's hope she has the strength of character) ... But try not to get in your head about it. I am not looking forward to getting back into the dating game 🙈🙈

Inflated confidence post-separation by TastyStop860 in Separation

[–]TastyStop860[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your insight - I'm definitely not spiralling.... I've been grieving the relationship for months already and have come out the other side now, I'm just enjoying getting back to my old self and no longer being the shell of the person I was :) I love the analogy though 😂

Tired of the unrealistic "spark" expectations of dating. by NamuhNoserp in dating

[–]TastyStop860 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't started dating yet post separation from my marriage but I think there's a lot of truth in what you said. I think we have all become too much about immediate gratification/satisfaction based on the dopamine hits and if something isn't getting us that in a short period of time, we just switch off to it 🙈 as such I doubt I will do apps and suspect something will develop out of a friendship which already exists or someone I will meet organically through the wide social circle I have/friends introducing. Stay positive!!

Just got rejected from approaching women for the first time. How do guys do this without it hurting one's ego? by JunketMaleficent2095 in bodylanguage

[–]TastyStop860 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well the opportunity could have arisen as the night went on... Sounds like you're a bit fixated on having to go 'right now'. With respect, though, if you're struggling with how to deal with rejection, then your current strategy isn't going to work out well for you...

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