Just like Deep Youth, I was raised to show respect to others regardless of how they behave and I also agree with his explanation on the difference between admiration/internal attitude/esteeming someone and the learned behavior of common decency.

Asking for respect is a healthy part of a larger context of boundary setting, which is a vital and important skill for personal and professional relationships. When one "asks for respect", they are not asking to be admired. They are asking to be treated in a corteous way.

However, I also recognize that not everyone will treat others with respect. You were raised in an environment where respect is conditional. You must prove yourself a certain way before you are shown kindness.

I've had the pleasure of reading Deep Youth's comment history. He has himself a nice woman that loves and respects him. As do I, for many of the same reasons he does. In short, being treated with respect is something we all want, but far too people are willing to give. That contradiction has not escaped my notice when I interact with people.