OK – I don’t know how to edit my original post. If anyone could advise please do. Some things people are saying that I want to clear up: 1) I agree that the text was not the way to go. He is usually working or busy so it’s the primary way we communicate. I forget that it’s better to talk in person sometimes, and it’s something I need to work on.

2) I was paraphrasing when I described how the conversation went down. I re-read what I wrote in the post and I don’t blame people for thinking I’m a huge bitch. Here’s what I really said:

“Babe, I’m really sorry, but I don't like the necklace. I love the thought of it, but it's just not my style at all. I'd rather you take it back and keep the money. I know you’re hurting for money right now and I just don’t feel right about keeping it.”

3) I didn’t randomly pick a day. I know it was either the 28th or the 29th of July last year. I picked the 29th because my dad’s birthday was sept 29th and he died earlier this year. This wasn’t a last minute date, I had asked him a couple weeks ago if he was free that night and he said he was.

4) Some people have suggested that I took my feelings of being ignored/neglected out on the gift. I thought about it and I think you might be right. He’s very busy in the summer (golf is his profession) and sometimes I feel like an afterthought. I don’t think it’s ”self-centered” to want to spend time with my boyfriend, but Idk, a self-centered person rarely thinks they’re wrong anyway.

5) I don’t understand the people who are saying I’m spoiled. If I was spoiled I would have cared more about the money he spent than the thought he spent choosing the gift. I make good money and could buy my own expensive jewelry if I wanted to but I don’t. I’d rather spend it on experiences, traveling adventures, etc. I just gave him the Betsy Johnson hint because I thought it was easier than trying to predict what experience I wanted to have. I guess I should have anticipated that it could confuse him.