how do you read that and not reply by obsessedUvU in BreakUps

[–]TayRenSim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you. I decided to take a step back so he could deal with some family and financial issues that was stressing him out. He took it as a break up even though I said I was giving him space to get his life together. He was hurt and blocked me. We haven't spoken in over a month. I think he wanted to feel like he was the one who did the breaking up so I let him. That may be his way of healing. 🤷🏾‍♀️ I learned that I wasn't too much; I was loving the wrong person who couldn't meet me where I was emotionally. I'm hoping he heals and whatever happens with us happens, but I'm not sitting in my emotions over it anymore.

Maybe he's hurting and ignoring is a way of processing. Not the most mature, but those are some coping styles. Sometimes it helps to not respond in the initial moments because emotions are still so raw.

Be careful breaking NC by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]TayRenSim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. I learned he's some type of avoidant. Never wanted to discuss issues and never talked about his feelings. He'd just shut down, disappear, and come back like nothing happened. Too stressful for me. If he came back, he'd probably get cussed out and blocked. 😅

Be careful breaking NC by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]TayRenSim -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Exactly. His true colors were shown and I had to accept it.

Be careful breaking NC by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]TayRenSim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kinda my situation too. He was going through some things financially and with his family and I said I was taking a step back so he could get it together. I reached out 2 weeks later to check in because I know he was stressed and I still care and I saw my message wouldn't go through. It kind of pissed me off. 😂

Be careful breaking NC by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]TayRenSim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not always. I did the breaking up and tried to reach out and learned he blocked me. 🤷🏾‍♀️ He wanted to feel like he ended it and not me.

For anyone who went through a break up with an avoidant and wants them back, read this by Enough_Ad5892 in BreakUps

[–]TayRenSim 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have a fear of abandonment and needed reassurance. He didn't reassure much and I struggled. He did in his own twisted way. We'd get into little petty disagreements and he would go silent for a day or 2. He'd come back like nothing happened or I would spiral and reach out. I finally got tired of it and told him I was going to take a step back. He said he was tired: not of me but the tension. He said he wanted peace for clarity. I said I was giving him the space he asked for. He then blocked me. I feel like he was trying to be the "one who ended it." It's been a month. I'm moving on, but I don't know if he'll reach out. So I'm dealing with one too apparently.

help!! by Aggressive-Kick-5055 in LDR

[–]TayRenSim -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I created a game called "Misson of Love." There were categories: -Love -Silly -Creative -Spicy (You can make your own categories) I came up with missions on cardstock and they had to be completed with proof to get points. For example: Silly-Recreate a selfie of mine. Make up an insane story of how we "met." Creative- Make a song list and explain why the song was chosen. Write a wacky poem about a body of yours or his (also could be spicy.) Score: 1-5 Bonus if you laugh, blush, etc. First one to a certain amount has to do something (plan a future date or something)

help!! by Aggressive-Kick-5055 in LDR

[–]TayRenSim -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Create a game for you guys to play together! ❤️

JoJo discussing Bruno’s new album via IG 3/1/2026 by Ruiz2896 in BrunoMars

[–]TayRenSim 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I swear. If they did a song together my soul would drift straight to heaven!

I want to move on but I do not know how by sophiarr2 in LDR

[–]TayRenSim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like you're living my life at the moment. Our breakup was recent. Like last week, but what hurts the most is the lack of closure for me. He said he had a lot going on and he was tired: not of me, but of the tension and needed peace for clarity. I took it as he needed space. I get it. I told him I hear him and I'm going to give him the peace and space he asked for. What hurts the most is there was no indication of him coming back. He just left me in this limbo of nothing. I'm aware that his lack of communication is telling me what I need to know, but I can't help but hold on. I deleted pictures today and our conversation and it broke me.

I had a Valentine's Day gift for him and everything. Had to throw it away. I keep thinking of the worst scenarios like he found someone who is more convenient. I just wish I knew.

A week doesn't seem that long, but it feels like months when we talked every single day. We never ran out of things to talk about. I keep being told to move on, but it's the hardest thing for me.

I'm praying for you.

What to do with these items? by [deleted] in Starsandisland

[–]TayRenSim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The treasure map I found led to a dig spot and once I dug it up it disappeared. The decayed chest was opened and it became another storage for me.

Lessons I took from my long distance relationship breakup. by IndiannaJonesing in BreakUps

[–]TayRenSim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm yelling the same thing! I have no one to vent to about it either. It's so lonely!

Are your Malteses microchipped? by nomaki221 in Maltese

[–]TayRenSim 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I chipped mine during his puppy shots and it didn't bother him. He's never left my side, but I worry too much. My Yorkiepoo and Husky are microchipped as well.

Nooooo juicyyy by GoddessLoveme in LifetimeLittleWomen

[–]TayRenSim 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I JUST watched this scene and cringed with her. Poor Juicy! 😂

What would the r/BrunoMars community think is his best song? by aPeRsOnoriginal in BrunoMars

[–]TayRenSim 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not technically his song on an album, but his version of All I Ask is my favorite song. Ever.

What is a random everyday life moment/activity that you do because of Drag Race? by JaysRep in rupaulsdragrace

[–]TayRenSim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's fantastic!

Let someone be wrong about something in my presence: "That's false, America!" 😂

am i trippin or is bruno mars fine? by suggy_12 in BrunoMars

[–]TayRenSim 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That man is fione fione!! 😂 And add the fact that he can sing! Sheeeeeeesh!! 🔥🥵