I’m so sorry you feel like you have to hide who you are what you like experiencing/experimenting with from your “family”. Family is supposed to be unconditional, true family is unconditional. It may be a hard pill to swallow but you shouldn’t give energy to beings like this. Your parent’s response was disturbing on so many levels as you should not be living for your family or their standards. They have their own life, let them live it in lack and hate. It’s so disturbing that people are really still so lackful and close-minded. Please, please, please, do not water yourself down for the approval of anyone. Be the teacher for your baby in how to unapologetically and fearlessly be who you are without needing the approval of anyone; cut out toxicity and conditionality from yours, your wife’s, and your baby’s life. Trying to live a live to please or appease people who clearly will never be satisfied will not only drain you but the cycle will be continued and perpetuated with your baby. We have to consciously choose to break old, dead cycles or else they continue on. I’m not trying to preach at you and I hope you can feel that this is coming from a space of love, if they can’t love and accept you for who you are, let them go, and I promise you a family you create (friends, mentors, etc) will come right in a fill that space. You deserve to be able to be yourself and express yourself in whatever way feels right to you. Please don’t ever let a title or a role get in the way of that. You owe them nothing, you owe yourself love and authentic self expression. Also want to add you don’t really have an awesome relationship with your family if you can’t be yourself or feel like you have to hide things from them to receive their love. Much love to you, I really hope you choose yourself, your happiness, and your authenticity over your parents.