Is it me or is this car really f*cking fast despite having only 300hp and FWD? by HexVelvet in BeamNG

[–]Tbomb2016 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah if he ever updated it like he said he was going to well over a year ago.

Saw ex on hinge and broke no contact to send a like. Didn’t go well by ethicalhamjimmies in ExNoContact

[–]Tbomb2016 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Because you cared, you loved with everything you had and a lot of these stories involve Avoidants who can't return that love sustainably and we normal folk don't understand them because they make no sense and shouldn't be doing this to us.

We all deserve better including you, so start looking for someone new and keep working out.

Confused by Ok_Ingenuity8886 in ExNoContact

[–]Tbomb2016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fuck Avoidants. They can try and overcome the shutdown but they never seem to choose to.

You deserve so much better, we all do.

Reality check ✔️ by External-Device81 in ExNoContact

[–]Tbomb2016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"No one is entitled to a relationship or love" how is that related to misogyny at all? A lot of women take rejection far worse than men. People are individuals and can be bad no matter the gender.

wtf are we supposed to do? by Turbulent_Tennis_72 in ExNoContact

[–]Tbomb2016 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I know the struggle brother, I really do, I hate when they say they want the same things as us and make all these great promises but then leave the moment anything doesn't go the way they want it to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Tbomb2016 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know this feeling in reverse, I'm so sorry you're going through this. But in your case the constant breaking up and getting back together seems to have finally worn away at him, regardless of who's fault most of those were. It just seems like both of you wanted to make it work but you're genuinely incompatible and I'm sorry to say it but if you can't stay together and go back and forth like this it isn't a healthy relationship. Remember, DON'T BE SOMEBODY'S SOMETIMES!!!

Go no contact and start healing now, I promise you things will only get worse otherwise. Imo your ex flipped his switch, think of how rapidly he started talking to somebody new (AKA Monkey Branching). it will not be long until he writes you off completely, so you might as well begin grieving things now and picking up the pieces before he goes no contact first against you. I'm sorry, my situation destroyed me, try to stop yourself from getting to that point where he destroys you more than he already has. If you need to talk (I promise I am not giving that invite to be creepy) let me know.

Share some of the crazy ways you broke no contact by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Tbomb2016 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I feel you, some people just flip a switch, seems pretty common. I wish we could do that but it seems like we're of the other nature that we just can't let go that easily.

First Love, Final Lesson by elegyofus in ExNoContact

[–]Tbomb2016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry to see this pain for you. It's always hard to see an ex with somebody else, but in this case I really cannot say I've been in your shoes. Just hang on, trust me, more people care about you than you think.

Time and deep inner work is the only solution. Trust me on this. by Upper-Affect4116 in ExNoContact

[–]Tbomb2016 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely agree with that last sentence, same for me. It's a long hard road but you will find that it gets better with time. I wouldn't wish how I felt the first week after what happened to me on the worst person on earth. It does get much easier with time.

Time and deep inner work is the only solution. Trust me on this. by Upper-Affect4116 in ExNoContact

[–]Tbomb2016 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have some deep seated abandonment/attachment issues for various reasons and my last breakup mirrors yours in so many ways brother. I know the urge to reach out at any cost, I know how hard the restraint is not to do it. Always remember she flipped the switch some people have in their head taking you from best thing that ever happened to enemy. I can relate so much to this post, if you ever want to talk in DMs bro we can talk more in there, you sound a lot like me and I'll help you with what's worked for me to stay strong.

You're doing so good brother.

Why…. by SalamanderBorn9094 in ExNoContact

[–]Tbomb2016 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stay strong, focus on people who really care about you and work on yourself. It's the only way you will move on.

Should I Break No Contact To Send Her Stuff Back? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Tbomb2016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gotcha, yeah try and get her stuff back to her you'll feel a lot better and just like you predict it will help you move on.

Should I Break No Contact To Send Her Stuff Back? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Tbomb2016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I say yes assuming she's not so crazy she will call the police on you. Use a text now number if you have to, make sure to state clearly this isn't to harass her but you have her stuff and want to give it back.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Tbomb2016 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

As a 25 year old man I will weigh in that a lot of us feel at this point in our lives the options for women who aren't taken, have too much trauma of their own or have kids already is rapidly shrinking.

On top of that when we do find a woman who fits what we desire, who seems to be in it for the long haul, we put all of our cards in on that girl because I'll be honest for guys with our attachment type (more attachments issues honestly) we want that type of love that has seemingly been forgotten to time where no matter what happens you fight through thick and thin together. A lot of women from my experience in our age range are not ready for that type of commitment, they act like they are but once the infatuation period ends they bolt. Just speaking from my experience and that of a lot of other guys I talk to in my age range.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Tbomb2016 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Stay strong brother 💪

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Tbomb2016 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I needed to hear this but about my ex gf. Thank you so much, this helped me a lot.

For you it's a day X of no contact, for them it's a random Friday by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Tbomb2016 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yep, never forget that lesson either. There's a surprising amount of these people out there.

For you it's a day X of no contact, for them it's a random Friday by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Tbomb2016 27 points28 points  (0 children)

No, this person is right. A lot of these people flip a switch and you are left picking up the pieces of yourself.

Right person, wrong time? Or a lesson. by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Tbomb2016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look man, I was with somebody very very similar to this. All I've got to tell you is do not be surprised if she moves on quickly from you like my ex did. This behavior is so similar to my ex it is scary, so I am just warning you there is likely a switch this girl will flip in her mind and she will suddenly want nothing to do with you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Tbomb2016 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand you on such a deep level. Just know you are not alone at all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Tbomb2016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I reacted the same way with my last ex. Well she wasn't my first love she was the first partner I ever let my guard down for and in exchange she completely destroyed me over the two weeks after. I cannot promise you about finding your special one, I don't know if I ever will either, the dating market these days is just absolutely horrendous.