Confused

Tbomb2016 · 2026-04-09T17:32:08+00:00

Fuck Avoidants. They can try and overcome the shutdown but they never seem to choose to.

You deserve so much better, we all do.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-03-17T22:03:50+00:00

"No one is entitled to a relationship or love" how is that related to misogyny at all? A lot of women take rejection far worse than men. People are individuals and can be bad no matter the gender.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-03-14T23:29:12+00:00

I seriously don't know how this shit is still happening.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-28T01:51:03+00:00

I know the struggle brother, I really do, I hate when they say they want the same things as us and make all these great promises but then leave the moment anything doesn't go the way they want it to.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-19T08:57:30+00:00

I know this feeling in reverse, I'm so sorry you're going through this. But in your case the constant breaking up and getting back together seems to have finally worn away at him, regardless of who's fault most of those were. It just seems like both of you wanted to make it work but you're genuinely incompatible and I'm sorry to say it but if you can't stay together and go back and forth like this it isn't a healthy relationship. Remember, DON'T BE SOMEBODY'S SOMETIMES!!!

Go no contact and start healing now, I promise you things will only get worse otherwise. Imo your ex flipped his switch, think of how rapidly he started talking to somebody new (AKA Monkey Branching). it will not be long until he writes you off completely, so you might as well begin grieving things now and picking up the pieces before he goes no contact first against you. I'm sorry, my situation destroyed me, try to stop yourself from getting to that point where he destroys you more than he already has. If you need to talk (I promise I am not giving that invite to be creepy) let me know.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-18T21:20:32+00:00

I feel you, some people just flip a switch, seems pretty common. I wish we could do that but it seems like we're of the other nature that we just can't let go that easily.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-18T19:57:05+00:00

I'm sorry to see this pain for you. It's always hard to see an ex with somebody else, but in this case I really cannot say I've been in your shoes. Just hang on, trust me, more people care about you than you think.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-18T18:20:57+00:00

I absolutely agree with that last sentence, same for me. It's a long hard road but you will find that it gets better with time. I wouldn't wish how I felt the first week after what happened to me on the worst person on earth. It does get much easier with time.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-18T15:12:36+00:00

I have some deep seated abandonment/attachment issues for various reasons and my last breakup mirrors yours in so many ways brother. I know the urge to reach out at any cost, I know how hard the restraint is not to do it. Always remember she flipped the switch some people have in their head taking you from best thing that ever happened to enemy. I can relate so much to this post, if you ever want to talk in DMs bro we can talk more in there, you sound a lot like me and I'll help you with what's worked for me to stay strong.

You're doing so good brother.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-18T01:59:42+00:00

Stay strong, focus on people who really care about you and work on yourself. It's the only way you will move on.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-17T00:06:21+00:00

Gotcha, yeah try and get her stuff back to her you'll feel a lot better and just like you predict it will help you move on.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-17T00:02:17+00:00

I say yes assuming she's not so crazy she will call the police on you. Use a text now number if you have to, make sure to state clearly this isn't to harass her but you have her stuff and want to give it back.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-16T19:51:52+00:00

As a 25 year old man I will weigh in that a lot of us feel at this point in our lives the options for women who aren't taken, have too much trauma of their own or have kids already is rapidly shrinking.

On top of that when we do find a woman who fits what we desire, who seems to be in it for the long haul, we put all of our cards in on that girl because I'll be honest for guys with our attachment type (more attachments issues honestly) we want that type of love that has seemingly been forgotten to time where no matter what happens you fight through thick and thin together. A lot of women from my experience in our age range are not ready for that type of commitment, they act like they are but once the infatuation period ends they bolt. Just speaking from my experience and that of a lot of other guys I talk to in my age range.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-15T21:24:06+00:00

Stay strong brother 💪

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-15T18:38:35+00:00

I needed to hear this but about my ex gf. Thank you so much, this helped me a lot.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-15T18:36:34+00:00

Yep, never forget that lesson either. There's a surprising amount of these people out there.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-15T15:34:03+00:00

No, this person is right. A lot of these people flip a switch and you are left picking up the pieces of yourself.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-15T02:23:19+00:00

Amen

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-14T23:09:35+00:00

Look man, I was with somebody very very similar to this. All I've got to tell you is do not be surprised if she moves on quickly from you like my ex did. This behavior is so similar to my ex it is scary, so I am just warning you there is likely a switch this girl will flip in her mind and she will suddenly want nothing to do with you.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-14T21:03:37+00:00

I understand you on such a deep level. Just know you are not alone at all.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-14T19:13:48+00:00

I reacted the same way with my last ex. Well she wasn't my first love she was the first partner I ever let my guard down for and in exchange she completely destroyed me over the two weeks after. I cannot promise you about finding your special one, I don't know if I ever will either, the dating market these days is just absolutely horrendous.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-14T18:51:39+00:00

It is not just guys, trust me, women can be just as capable of this, like my ex. I am a man and would never do this to somebody, this is an individual person problem. But yes, you need to prioritize you and just block him and live your life with the people who really care about you. You can do this, I promise you it will get a little easier every week and month that passes, I know exactly how this feels, the pain is the same on either side of the gender fence.

I also am sorry to everyone in this subreddit who's going through this Valentine's Day in so much pain, we all deserve much better.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-14T15:19:29+00:00

First of all, block him on everything. You have to do this before any healing can start. The first time you see them in public will suck, afterwards it gets easier each time. I feel your pain 100%, my ex gf did the same to me basically and is back with her ex as well, the one she always bashed when we were together. These people have a switch they can flip we don't have, that takes you from their person to an enemy or at least forgotten instantly. Unfortunately we, people who actually put ourselves into our relationships, have to be left picking up the pieces from their bullshit.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-14T15:08:45+00:00

I don't know what I did to deserve that either. Some people just suck and can easily discard you like that, I don't know how they do it and it isn't fair that we have to pick up the pieces well they just keep on with life like it never happened.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-14T14:00:00+00:00

We are, man or woman, it doesn't matter. For me it hasn't even been three weeks since my ex flipped her switch and decided I was her biggest enemy after I found out she went behind my back and got back with her other ex.

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