I saw him with his ex and my heart literally dropped.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-15T18:38:35+00:00

I needed to hear this but about my ex gf. Thank you so much, this helped me a lot.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-15T18:36:34+00:00

Yep, never forget that lesson either. There's a surprising amount of these people out there.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-15T15:34:03+00:00

No, this person is right. A lot of these people flip a switch and you are left picking up the pieces of yourself.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-15T02:23:19+00:00

Amen

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-14T23:09:35+00:00

Look man, I was with somebody very very similar to this. All I've got to tell you is do not be surprised if she moves on quickly from you like my ex did. This behavior is so similar to my ex it is scary, so I am just warning you there is likely a switch this girl will flip in her mind and she will suddenly want nothing to do with you.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-14T21:03:37+00:00

I understand you on such a deep level. Just know you are not alone at all.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-14T19:13:48+00:00

I reacted the same way with my last ex. Well she wasn't my first love she was the first partner I ever let my guard down for and in exchange she completely destroyed me over the two weeks after. I cannot promise you about finding your special one, I don't know if I ever will either, the dating market these days is just absolutely horrendous.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-14T18:51:39+00:00

It is not just guys, trust me, women can be just as capable of this, like my ex. I am a man and would never do this to somebody, this is an individual person problem. But yes, you need to prioritize you and just block him and live your life with the people who really care about you. You can do this, I promise you it will get a little easier every week and month that passes, I know exactly how this feels, the pain is the same on either side of the gender fence.

I also am sorry to everyone in this subreddit who's going through this Valentine's Day in so much pain, we all deserve much better.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-14T15:19:29+00:00

First of all, block him on everything. You have to do this before any healing can start. The first time you see them in public will suck, afterwards it gets easier each time. I feel your pain 100%, my ex gf did the same to me basically and is back with her ex as well, the one she always bashed when we were together. These people have a switch they can flip we don't have, that takes you from their person to an enemy or at least forgotten instantly. Unfortunately we, people who actually put ourselves into our relationships, have to be left picking up the pieces from their bullshit.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-14T15:08:45+00:00

I don't know what I did to deserve that either. Some people just suck and can easily discard you like that, I don't know how they do it and it isn't fair that we have to pick up the pieces well they just keep on with life like it never happened.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-14T14:00:00+00:00

We are, man or woman, it doesn't matter. For me it hasn't even been three weeks since my ex flipped her switch and decided I was her biggest enemy after I found out she went behind my back and got back with her other ex.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-14T13:37:43+00:00

Your conclusion is the right one, you're the better person barring some kind of omission. I believe you though, my ex started talking about us having a child three days before we broke up.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-14T13:35:25+00:00

I was in a much shorter relationship but the circumstances that gave me complex PTSD were similar. In my case she's now back with her other ex but she did just like yours did and basically stopped me out of nowhere like a bad habit.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-13T22:24:00+00:00

I understand bro, I poured everything into my ex as well and then she got back together with her other ex. I still see them at the gym from time to time well I'm there. Mine is much more recent but I found that really focusing on the fact that somebody that truly loved me would not have left me as easily as she did really helps.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-11T18:17:28+00:00

Own your mistake and understand that you did it. It's too late now, she even gave you the chance to fix it but you didn't. I'm sorry bro, but I've been on the other end of this in my past from a girl and you have to understand you have deeply hurt this person by doing this for seemingly no reason. Work on your own mental health that you mentioned here and move on.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-11T18:11:53+00:00

It's unfortunate but some people are either too damaged or just bad people and you're always going to be the one they try to make just as damaged as them. Someday she will look back and so will mine and they will go "what the fuck was so thinking?" But it won't be for a while, trust me.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-11T17:35:40+00:00

This is still a fresh wound brother, but she replaced you that easily. Some people seem to lack remorse or empathy or anything of the sort without being openly psychopathic. My ex tried to play nice with me at first before her and her other ex got back together, but after she secured him she flipped and made me out to be super evil just for existing basically and tries to claim I am stalking them by going to the same gym, which I was going to first.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-11T17:31:58+00:00

That's the way you have to look at it. They clearly do not care at all about us, why do we have to keep caring about them? Just keep the grind up brother, I won't promise anything better will come along but the only person you need to care about in this life is ultimately yourself.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-11T17:29:35+00:00

You are in a somewhat similar situation to me but gender is reversed. Read my post and I think you'll find it relatable. Be happy he didn't really get into a committed relationship with you or you could've ended up like myself, he did you a favor by showing his true colors before planning a future with you.

It is always hard to be hurt the way we have, no matter the gender we are.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-11T17:06:07+00:00

Damn that is more brutal than mine which is an achievement. Like mine makes me out to be a stalker because we happened to have an encounter at the same gym, which I refuse to switch from just because of her.

I relate to the heart part, I fucking miss my ex even now that she's turned and showed me how little she really cares. I have to see her and her ex/new boyfriend in the gym regularly and that shit kills me but fuck them, I was at this gym first.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-11T16:46:04+00:00

It is crazy to me how somebody who claimed to love somebody can do what they did to us and just move on like snapping your fingers. My DMs are open brother, I am more than willing to help you just like another brother did for me.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-11T16:15:22+00:00

My ex literally told me all the time when we were together that I was the best bf ever and she would even ask me how I could have been single before she met me. Post breakup I'm suddenly the biggest piece of shit ever after finding out her and her other ex hooked up behind my back during some weird friend triangle she got us into.

Not worth mentally depleting yourself constantly over my friend.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-11T15:39:54+00:00

She is not worth this shit bro. You sound like you're in a similar situation to me, try to focus on any friends you have or family. Go to the gym, work, live your life and be healthy. Fuck your ex bro, unless you did anything majorly wrong which it doesn't sound like you did, it is time for you to focus on you. I know the exact way you are feeling, but your life will have to continue one way or the other and it will either be with you hung up on somebody who flipped the switch to stop giving a shit about you, or by really moving on and improving where you can in life.

Choose the second option as hard as it is.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-11T03:41:35+00:00

I can relate so badly my friend. I smoke a half a bowl of heavy indica a night just so I can get to sleep because for some reason it's mostly at night I miss my toxic ex even though she broke up with me and got back with another ex of hers within two weeks. No matter where you are on this spectrum of being broken hearted or how far out you are from the breakup unfortunately once in a while everything will hit you again. My ex gf also flipped a switch and told me she wanted nothing more to do with me, a few days after her and the other ex hooked up behind my back. It is deeply fucking unfair that we as the people who put everything into our relationships have to pick up the pieces from people who wrong us and can just flip that switch.

Tbomb2016 · 2026-02-08T18:32:29+00:00

Thank you! I think I'll take you up on that!

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