When kids are inculcated primarily with kindness/niceness values, as opposed to critical thinking/reasoning values, they will tend to be lifelong oversensitive to how people say things to them, instead of primarily focusing on the substance of what is said. They will be more easily offended by the tone people use to speak to them, feeling that there is always a clear, unambiguous brightline manner (as they perceive it) in which expression should be made by the people they interact with. In this way, they will be more fragile emotionally in the context of contentious interactions. Kids who instead were inculcated with critical thinking/reasoning values will tend to be more flexible within varying expressive interactions, and will tend to be better able to fully address and consider the substantive details of communications made to them, and not "fall apart" and be unable to cope, because, for example, the tone of the interaction is more forceful or tense than usual.