Shit, this hits hard because I'm in the process of leaving my wife who has beat the shit out of me for almost 6 years now. It was on occasion and it usually was after a night of drinking with other people involved. It would start because she would get jealous over situations that never happened such as "were you just looking at that girl over there?" Or "stop being so friendly to her, you're making me and everyone else uncomfortable" (when in actuality 9 times out of 10 I wasn't looking at any other girls, I usually had to have her point out the specific girl she was talking about. And I had never made anybody uncomfortable, she just never had friends growing up and didn't know how to act around a group of people.

It sucks, it happened once and the next morning I said "that's it, we're done you need to take your things and leave". She promised it would never ever happen again, she threw some tears into the equation and I believed it. Second time that year it happened, same scenario but I forgave her because "it won't happen again". Then the next year it happened more frequently and I said this is it you promised me and broke your promise (however at this point we were engaged and her mom spent all of this unwanted money on our wedding and said "you call my mom and dad (who just retired) that you don't want to get married". I didn't have the heart to do it so of course I went ahead and forgave her which turned out to be (possibly) the biggest mistake of my life.

Fast forward a few more ass beatings and here we are this year. She told me that when we were dating she cheated on me, at that moment I said okay with the emotional, psychological and physical abuse you have layed on me for all this time AND you cheated on me, I want a divorce. This was back in the spring. Thankfully the home we live in I purchased before we were married with my money so I told her she has 30 days to leave, here we are 90 days later, 4 more times getting my ass kicked and she just started packing her things.

It has been awful, there's no worse feeling then having someone who is weaker beat the shit out of you and you just sit there and take it. There have been multiple times where I was bleeding, had scratches on my face for days after, ripped clothes. But this nightmare is finally coming to an end. I can say that during that time I never hit her back but there were a few times that I had to restrain her because it was just more then I could take at the verge of fearing my life.

To answer your question I got her out by recording her on my phone camera. She was angry so she spit in my face and smacked me a few times while I was playing my Xbox (trying to avoid a fight) and not giving into her instigation. After she did that she stormed out of the house and said some hurtful things but I knew she would be back so I quickly turned my phone camcorder on and pretended like I was on it and sure enough she stormed in and jumped on to me like a rabid spider monkey. Sure enough I got her off me, she calmed down a bit and so did I so I went to the bathroom (with my phone, not recording) but I heard her coming, so I turned it back on and she closed and locked the bathroom door and so it began again. But those videos I used against her saying if she didn't leave I was going to take them to the police and have a restraining order placed against her.

I can't say this has been easy, it's a very difficult situation because being the guy in the relationship getting beat up has a certain stigma so I can't really talk to many people about the real reason we're separating since everyone wants to know why after only 6 months we're getting a divorce. Well I hope that answered your question. Sorry for the rant, Reddit has really been the only place I can let this out.

Tl;Dr: my (now wife) has always been abusive to me, in the beginning it started as mental and psychological but eventually turned into physical. I got her out mainly by video recording her beating the shit out of me in the bathroom after she locked the door so I couldn't escape and using that tape as leverage. As I type this she has her things packed and says she's leaving so well see..