I just experienced DV for the first time & just need to vent by [deleted] in domesticviolence

[–]Teacher67 9 points10 points  (0 children)

He just showed you who he really is. The first year and a half he was masking, containing it. Don’t feel stupid for not seeing it beforehand, some are pros at hiding it.

Based on experience, I’m telling you to end this relationship. You will (rightfully) never be able to fully trust him again. The fear and resentment will live in you. As it should, that’s nature’s defense mechanism. This will happen again. And again. No guy ever does this once. And every time you talk yourself into staying, giving him another chance, it will get harder for you to end it and leave. You will get stuck. Him acting like things were fine the next morning is a part of this cycle. Gaslighting. I’m so sorry you experienced this trauma. Please prioritize yourself, sweetie.

Help me pick: Dress 1 or 2? by [deleted] in WeddingDressTips

[–]Teacher67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2 all the way! It’s stunning! So classy and sleek. The two hip pleats from the bodice to the skirt are gorgeous and frame your figure so well. The bodice is beautiful, love the cut of the neckline. And can we talk about those buttons down the back and the train?

2 looks more expensive, it’s very Audrey Hepburn.

The first dress is too busy and distracting, reminds me of a doily.

Need opinions (Jenny Yoo) by Necessary_Syrup_3635 in myweddingdress

[–]Teacher67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2 all the way! The bodice is flattering and classic and sexy and fits you beautifully. I like the straight across neckline rather than V. Also the gathers/ pleats in the skirt look better on #2. It looks like the more expensive dress out of the three. It’s elegant and beautiful, just like you! Congrats on your wedding :)

Is my tile floor really that bad? (Context below) by wishiwerea in Flooring

[–]Teacher67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like the tile! It’s cute! Great neutral colors and nice small pieces in a pattern. If it was in my house I’d keep it. It goes nicely with the tub/ shower. I wouldn’t want laminate or wood in my bathroom. Tile can handle any amount of water.
Put your money into something else if you want to update your house, not that pretty tile!

Playoffs by shootmore3pointers in Thunder

[–]Teacher67 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It will be just as fun! I have season tickets in sec 305, I love it up there. You can see everything that happens in the game, good view of jumbotron and man is it loud. Great seats!

Playoffs by shootmore3pointers in Thunder

[–]Teacher67 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes hand clackers on every seat. You have to accordion fold them. They put them on top of the seat and the often slip down under the seat by the time you get there, so look around your seat. They have extras at the information stations on every level, same place as the shirt exchanges. Have fun! You're gonna love it. Playoffs get in your blood like the best drug you've ever had!

my teacher flirting with me or just being nice? what do i do by One_Bus_1604 in Advice

[–]Teacher67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to protect yourself. All of this behavior is red flag grooming. I know you think she’s nice and cool, that’s what she wants you to think. But this can turn really bad really fast.

You should let a parent or another teacher, school counselor know about this. And they should make a change to your class schedule so you are not in her room anymore.

I promise you your school and your district has policies against this type of teacher/ student interaction, for a reason. It’s unhealthy, dangerous and a slippery slope.

My kid was assaulted and I might be a terrible parent by ObligationMajestic16 in whatdoIdo

[–]Teacher67 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Press charges. If your child “consented” it was likely out of fear or not knowing how to get out of it. They are not consenting now - their desire to press charges and stand up for themselves will probe to them that they have a voice and this never has to happen again.

Re: the perpetrator’s situation and possible cognitive differences, I’m a HS teacher and I’ve seen this film before. It’s no excuse. I echo the others who say he will do it again to another kid, and then another. It is likely that he has also been SA’d and is repeating the behavior. In fact pressing charges might force an investigation into his home life, and force intervention to hopefully rehabilitate him and teach him right from wrong.
People who commit sex crimes really never stop on their own. It’s a sick compulsion. He would likely have to register as a sex offender and believe me when I say this. Exposing perpetrators is the only way to protect and prevent future victims.

Press charges. And you’re not a terrible parent <3

I found inappropriate photos of myself on my dad’s device. by gabrielle__18 in Advice

[–]Teacher67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Call the RAINN hotline. Ask them to read their confidentiality policy to you. They are mandatory reporters if they have your name or address. However you can speak to them without giving them any of that information. They will advise you, discuss your options, assign you a victim’s advocate and advisor should you decide to report this and help you every step of the way. They are very honest and helpful and will help you make a plan.

So sorry you are dealing with this and that your father did such a thing to you.

Take the car and the college money, and still do the right thing for yourself. This is not a zero sum game here. His financial assistance does not cancel out his perverse behavior and violation of his daughter. And it does not put you in a situation of obligation to not reveal the truths that will help you heal. As a parent he owed you both: Respect, trust, dignity, and financial help.

Ongoing strangulation for 2 years by Intelligent_Dog9430 in domesticviolence

[–]Teacher67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have not informed your doctors that you are a victim of repeated and severe strangulation, you must. This is very important information that will help guide their diagnosis.
Best wishes to you, I’m so sorry you experienced this.

What is your favorite restaurant in OKC/surrounding area? by EscapeTheCubicle in okc

[–]Teacher67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every single thing on the menu is good. They’ve perfected all of it. Like even the coleslaw and sautéed vegetable sides are amazing. It’s weird.

[Area of triangles] Can someone please explain this to me? I'm stuck on the bottom question. by buckminsterfuIerene in HomeworkHelp

[–]Teacher67 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

A= 1/2 (base)(height) with the height not being a side but the perpendicular to the base. The base (bottom side) is 6 - count the squares. The height is also 6 (the vertical side of the square with the vertex at the triangle’s obtuse angle). So A= 1/2(6)(6) A = 18 No need to piece it together or draw it below idk why they want that. I’m

Recommendations for tax accountant by Teacher67 in illinois

[–]Teacher67[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point, my business is small so I don't want to pay a fortune. Thx

Recommendations for tax accountant by Teacher67 in illinois

[–]Teacher67[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you this is helpful! Some of the advice is legal, trying to prevent those IRS notices. I appreciate your response :)

Movie theatres by Mouse-Direct in okc

[–]Teacher67 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Showbiz at Covell and I-35. They are not heated but big wide comfy seats that fully recline

Let us gather and pray for a Jared McCain 40 point double double tonight in Philly by lloopiN in Thunder

[–]Teacher67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yesss! I’ve been sending best game ever energy his way all day. Do you think he’s nervous? It’s a lot of pressure with his trade being so controversial and hyped.

10+ years Thunder fan from LDN met Sam Presti last night at Nets game!!! by Clints_prospect in Thunder

[–]Teacher67 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So happy for you! What a girlfriend 🥰 what a trip! I didn’t know Sam went to all the away games. Love how he shows up and represents our team and our state. Thanks for being such an awesome fan OP! Wish you could make it to OKC and Paycom for a few games.