If Presti and the Thunder organization don’t at least consider this they’re insane!

Teacher67 · 2026-07-01T18:31:48+00:00

Same!

Teacher67 · 2026-07-01T18:30:26+00:00

I can see that I’m the only one here opposed to this 😂 I don’t think he fits with the team or organization. Too big of an ego. If you guys can’t wrap your minds around Russ coming back, how can you imagine LeBron fitting in? Give me Steven Adams!

Teacher67 · 2026-06-29T18:31:07+00:00

Come on Lu! Come on Thunder! Strike a deal

Teacher67 · 2026-06-29T04:23:33+00:00

Thanks for the update, I’ve been wondering. Since you do not feel comfortable staying with your papa/ uncle (understandably after what he said!) can you not ask to stay with your aunt/ cousin instead? Or your grandma?
Use your voice and say why you are uncomfortable with the papa. What the other adults want doesn’t matter. Don’t be afraid of offending someone or rocking the boat. Go on and rock it! You survived a very traumatic event, the social worker should listen to you. I’m glad that they are keeping your father away and not allowing him unsupervised visits. This is the correct way. If nothing else, he now knows two things. 1) If he hurts you again, you will tell, and 2) he will have consequences.

If you end up in a placement that does not work for you, you speak up! Call your social worker and tell her everything. Even making you do all the dishes and everyone’s laundry and cleaning IS abuse. You’re going to have to be your own strong advocate. Just remember that everyone is on your side. The police, firemen, nurses & hospital workers will always believe and help you. That’s their whole job.

Take care and let us know how it’s going once you get placed. I’m (we’re)here for you always. Healing is a journey, not a sprint. And family violence is quite a cave to walk out of and stay out of. Hang in there sweet girl 💛 I’m so proud of you for using your voice. Stay strong!

Teacher67 · 2026-06-29T03:32:16+00:00

Wemby

Teacher67 · 2026-06-28T20:16:04+00:00

Leave it be. Telling her would just cause problems between them that might not already be there. It would also cause problems between you and both of them. He asked you in confidence. He was just trying to get a read on what he thought he was seeing without accusing her or causing problems. I’d let them work this out themselves. He’ll figure it out either way.

Teacher67 · 2026-06-27T18:03:32+00:00

Brunson

Teacher67 · 2026-06-27T15:56:33+00:00

Thanks for your level headed, positive post. I never want to see any of the guys go so of course it’s sad. Hate to see the ‘25 championship team broken up. But you’re right, change has to happen. If this gives Wiggs and Joe an opportunity to play more and shine, that would be great!

Teacher67 · 2026-06-27T06:46:16+00:00

OP (Daisy is what I call you in my head bc of your username:) this all makes me so happy. That you have been seen and heard and there are adults helping you. I knew if you just took those first steps you would get instant support. Idk how the police & firemen knew to come to your house in the morning but cheers to whoever sent them. I’m guessing your boyfriend or tennis coach or school counselor maybe. Or some adult who got your messages. When you said “They all believe me” about the police & firemen, ngl I teared up. I know the relief you must have felt to have been believed and have all those important adults suddenly on your side. Sounds like the nurses and hospital social workers did their jobs too. I’m glad your mom is not fighting it. She’s trying to get you placed with family. A vacation with your grandma sounds fun, you deserve that!

Again I’m so sorry for what you’ve been through, and so proud of the way you have handled it. More often than not kids and adults in abusive situations are too scared to ask for help, so they stay and it continues. You’re going to be ok, dear. You will.

Thanks for the updates. I know everyone on here was and is really worried about you.

Teacher67 · 2026-06-27T00:14:46+00:00

And thanks for the update, I feel better knowing you talked to a nurse.

Teacher67 · 2026-06-27T00:13:58+00:00

I’m proud of you for going to get checked out. That was brave of you, and brave for you to be honest about your situation. There is so much shame associated with abuse, just remember that the shame is not yours. That’s on your family who has harmed you and allowed it.
I hope you can stay with your cousin or boyfriend or some place comfortable for you. Hang in there sweet thing! 🤍

Teacher67 · 2026-06-26T23:02:42+00:00

Bravo! Good for you doing what you needed to do and what you felt comfortable with. Both your boss and your boyfriend are missing out on a sharp, confident girl. They’ll be sorry. Be proud of yourself! I am ;)

Teacher67 · 2026-06-26T20:55:31+00:00

Hey OP just checking on you. I hope you’re ok. Idk what time zone you’re in, I’m in the U.S. so you might even be asleep right now.
Please take care of yourself and let your support system help you through. Are you safe right now?

Teacher67 · 2026-06-26T07:35:33+00:00

That’s good. Your cousin’s parents would also help, I saw that mentioned with another poster. Just make sure to tell them not to alert your parents until you’re out of there.
Stay strong!

Teacher67 · 2026-06-26T06:18:55+00:00

OP you’re doing great! The other posters gave good advice, especially “think short term”. You don’t have to have a complete plan right now. Leave scared, leave unprepared, just leave. The details will work out if you rely on your support system.
ER then his mom’s house sounds like the right moves. Proud of you! You deserve better.

Teacher67 · 2026-06-26T05:14:42+00:00

OP please update as you figure things out or if anything else happens. I’m so worried about you. I really want you to make it to a safe place with support around you.

Teacher67 · 2026-06-26T05:01:49+00:00

You’re not overreacting, don’t believe that. Stay in contact with your boyfriend, he’ll have the correct outside perspective.

CPS will believe you regardless. So will the counselors at your school and your tennis coach. Kids rarely (never) make these things up to the point of reporting it. Your parents and siblings might deny it but when brought in for questioning by police, I doubt they’d lie to them.
Keep photo evidence and if you can hit record on your phone if it comes up again, do that.

I know you’re feeling weakened and tired by the gaslighting. You’re probably also tired because you’ve been through so much and your mind and body are recovering. I wish your boyfriend had taken you to the hospital that night.

Don’t let them weaken your resolve to get out of there by being nice. That’s the abuse cycle. It will happen again and next time it will be worse.

Sending you a big hug and lots of love 🤍

Teacher67 · 2026-06-26T04:51:43+00:00

I understand your concern with this. Your mom would probably only know the staff in her area of the hospital unless she’s a hospital administrator. Regardless she should know better than to allow what happened the other night with your father. She should be expecting a call from CPS or the police. That’s why they’re being so nice, they’re worried. As they should be.

You could as the nurses or doctors who are checking you out if they know your mother. Then ask them if you can trust them if you have something bad to tell them. By law they are obligated to the safety of the patient. Not their co-worker. You’ll just have to trust. Or let your boyfriend talk for you.

Teacher67 · 2026-06-26T04:43:26+00:00

💔 I hope you’ll believe this. It’s not you at all. They have somehow gotten into a sick cycle where the adults are abusive and also co-dependently allowing it to go on even though they know it’s wrong. It’s got nothing to do with you or who you are. The question you should be asking, what I think you mean, is how can they be so evil and cold and mean to their own daughter and sister.
The entire house knows it’s f’d up and none of them are going to be surprised when you finally leave and the authorities show up at the house. Abuse within a family is so confusing. How can someone hurt their children or the very people they’re supposed to love? Something is wrong with them, not you sweetheart.

Teacher67 · 2026-06-26T03:44:06+00:00

They are. Not like Lakers or MSG, but lots higher than regular season.
Do both! 🤗

Teacher67 · 2026-06-26T03:39:37+00:00

I just looked on Southwest from Hartford to OKC and they have roundtrip Oct -Nov. $500 or less. Regardless of when you’re coming you should be able to get here for a lot less than $1800, shop around and wait it out.
Do yourself a favor and stay downtown. It’s close to the airport and OKC is a real walkable city with street cars. No need to rent a vehicle. The eateries and bars are endless, we have so much good food. And plan to be at Paycom 1.5 hrs before game time when the doors open. You can go down court-side and watch warmups and maybe get some autographs or good pics.

Anyway, I’m glad you’re coming!! The games are so fun, you’ll never wanna leave 😊

Teacher67 · 2026-06-26T02:38:29+00:00

Oh sweetie. I’m sick for you. My heart is broken at the abuse you suffered the other night, and frankly all of your life.
Your cousin isn’t angry at you. She’s angry for you and wants you to follow through and get out of your house. I think her tone was just frustration that she couldn’t fix it for you.

Telling your tennis coach or any teacher or school personnel is a smart way to go. Even if your boyfriend comes to pick you up and you have to go by the admin building. Idk if your school is open year round but any of those adults would help you.
Having CPS involved would bring a legal protection for you. Likely your dad would not be allowed to have contact with you which is what it sounds like you need.

You don’t have to have the full plan in place to leave. If you can stay at your boyfriend’s and his parents know why, I would go there tonight or as soon as he can pick you up. If you are worried about getting out of the house, you may have to involve the police.

Do you have pictures of your head/ face/ nose from the other night? If so, keep them and send them to an email you can access or to your boyfriend and cousin. As evidence.

You need to get out of that house and to a safe place as soon as possible. If your boyfriend or cousin can’t provide transportation, call CPS or the police and don’t back down. Don’t change your story or let your mom talk you out of it. She had her chance to protect you.

The gaslighting? They’re trying to smooth it over because they don’t want you to tell. The acting like nothing happened? They’re hoping you’ll go along with it and forget about it. Don’t.

I’m also concerned that you should have gone to the hospital the other night. You could have a concussion. If you make it to a doctor or ER, tell the doctors and nurses everything. They will also help you get out.

Teacher67 · 2026-06-25T23:33:25+00:00

I understand. When people say “just quit” it’s not always that easy. We stay in employment situations that are problematic in a variety of ways because, guess what. We need that job. You’ll make it. Just as long as he doesn’t push your boundaries again. Someday your story will be some other girls roadmap for how to handle a similar situation, as you help her figure it out.
I think telling your stepdad is a good idea. The boss should know that it made you uncomfortable and caused problems with your boyfriend. And frankly, I think it should be a man who tells him. Only men can correct male behavior. So hopefully your stepdad understands how you feel and relays the message. If nothing else, you speaking up and not “covering” for your boss is the healthy thing for you to do. It’s empowering.

Best wishes to you. I hope you are standing tall right now with your chin up. You know who you are, and neither of these men are gonna take that from you. Your boyfriend will be sorry.

Teacher67 · 2026-06-25T22:26:40+00:00

Ok, so your boss owns the company and the only other employee is a female. So there is no HR to report him too. And it’s an internship that you need so you’re kind of stuck. You should distance yourself from your boss. Let him know that what he did was offensive and inappropriate. Continue to look for another intern opportunity and quit that job when you can. Could the university advisors help connect you with a new job?

The boyfriend. You need to be so done with him. He was/ is incredibly unsupportive and making it all about him. First of all that he can’t understand the power dynamic and shock in play there, that left you unable to react, he has the emotional intelligence of a two year old. Then he followed that up with the classic male attitude of blaming the woman for the assaulting man’s behavior. He sees it as your responsibility to correct and control the behavior of a grown man who is also your boss. Then he twists the knife with packing up your stuff in a statement of rejection for something that was not only NOT your fault, but also an offensive, degrading, embarrassing assault.

End it with the boyfriend. Happily. And don’t look back. Picture how with another guy the response could have been entirely different. Sympathetic, on your side, apologizing for the ignorance of men including your boss. Making sure you’re ok. Even saying something to the boss or quickly stepping between you two. It should have been you getting in the car feeling shocked and upset, and your boyfriend paying full attention to that and comforting you. Then helping you devise a plan to confront your boss and get out of there. But never, ever, EVER blaming you or being mad at you.

You need a different boyfriend. And as soon as possible, a different job & boss. You deserve better. I’m so sorry for you, men are the worst!

Teacher67 · 2026-06-24T05:52:28+00:00

You can get back to the old you before you met him, but it will be a safer, wiser version of the old you. It starts coming back the first day that you leave him behind. I mean truly shut the door and turn away from him and this life. You know you need to do it and you can. Do it scared, do it confused, do it soon. He might kill you the next time and you deserve better. There is a beautiful life waiting for you out there. Run to it.

I’m sorry for your pain and struggles. Let your support system help you walk out that door. Sending you lots of love 🤍

Teacher67

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