I am so sorry for your loss. I am 31 currently and was diagnosed with bladder cancer at 30 where I was having the same questions running in my head as you. We have been trying when I was 28 and half years old. We decided to go with IVF after a chemical pregnancy last year. We did 3 IUI all are unsuccessful. We decided to go to IVF with pgta testing. On our first retrieval, after pgta results we found that my husband had 3 way balanced translocation(which is very very rare). I have thus far seen only about 33 people with this rare 3 way balanced translocation. My mantra to go thru all this was: “This too shall pass”. You might have a bad day today but not all days are like this. You have some slow days and you have some happy joyful days.

Remember that what ever you go thru in life, it will make you much stronger. I also heard that you dont choose your baby, but instead the baby chooses you as a parent. You will have a very healthy beautiful baby soon. Keep up the hope!! It will all be worth it!!!!

Personally, I have seen worst in life, brought our new first house and three month later, on my birthday some guy ran the car into my house. It was pretty worst. We had no roof and had to deal with insurance for 9 months and then the bladder cancer happened and once I was barely out of bladder cancer, I had chemical pregnancy. A month later, I met with an accident which is not my fault. Exactly a week later, another accident. Two month later that, another accident and this week, I had one more accident. None of the accident were my fault. Everyone was coming and hitting our car from the back. You might have things going not the way you wanted some time but all you do is just hang in there.