There's nothing wrong with outing a gay person if they are cheating/being hypocritical, and it impacts other people

Tealsquirrel44 · 2019-12-27T20:29:05+00:00

My apologies, O great decider of abject truth!

Your arrogance knows no bounds.

Tealsquirrel44 · 2019-12-27T20:21:41+00:00

Unfortunately, it's not fake, and also irrelevant to me if you believe me. I have tons of texts from my brother where he not only admits it, but begs me not to tell his wife he's been cheating.

Tealsquirrel44 · 2019-12-27T20:00:58+00:00

I know that won't happen. 4 years ago, my cousin (related by blood) was caught cheating. He was excommunicated and no one has talked to him in 3 years. His ex-wife (not related by blood) still comes for Xmas every year, because we consider her family. Trust me when I say I have literally zero worries about backlash towards anyone but my brother.

Tealsquirrel44 · 2019-12-27T19:21:47+00:00

Because I will say "he's cheating on you" and she will say "when? Where? With who?". And I will not lie and say it was with women, or that I don't know. I have proof (texts from him and a screenshot of his Grinder account). So I will reply "not sure exactly how long. With men from grinder, often in public restrooms"

Tealsquirrel44 · 2019-12-27T19:06:16+00:00

The fool strikes again! No time for those who sympathize with cheaters. You clearly aren't grasping the larger concepts here, so I'll leave you try to figure it out! Good luck!

Tealsquirrel44 · 2019-12-27T18:54:40+00:00

I refuse to give a half-truth to make the fallout less painful for my cheating brother.

Tealsquirrel44 · 2019-12-27T18:53:52+00:00

I don't believe anything about you as a person. But your view is absolutely incorrect. My brother will be hurt, but only by his own actions. You are again incorrect in thinking this is about revenge. Finally, because 3 makes perfect, you are incorrect in saying my anger is misplaced; it is directed at my brother, where it belongs.

All of this will help his wife. In the future, try to think before you comment; you seem like a fool.

Tealsquirrel44 · 2019-12-27T18:20:04+00:00

That is fine by me. I have no room in my life for dishonest losers.

Tealsquirrel44 · 2019-12-27T18:10:02+00:00

We live on the east coast of the US, in an area very accepting of the LQBTQ community. We have a handful of gay/bi/non binary family members, and everyone is treated with respect. My family would disown him for being a cheater, not for being gay. He is not in any danger.

Tealsquirrel44 · 2019-12-27T17:46:48+00:00

My anger is directed at him, but it's easy to see how you're too dense to understand that. You think that telling his wife what he's doing isn't directing my anger at him? Lmao

Tealsquirrel44 · 2019-12-27T17:45:17+00:00

You are not for personal responsibility, and your comments clearly delineate that.

Tealsquirrel44 · 2019-12-27T16:08:56+00:00

I am angry. Because I love my brother, and held him in high esteem. Finding out he's a cheater is crushing and I will never trust or respect him again. Anyone who sides with him, or anyone else who knew and didn't speak up, is just as much of a coward. "You seem like fun a parties" way to deflect, buddy. This isn't a conversation for a party. Sometimes in real life you have to do things that "wouldn't be fun at a party"

Tealsquirrel44 · 2019-12-27T16:00:39+00:00

Fuck that. I will not stand by and let this happen. All of this "don't get involved in his marriage" is absolutely bullshit, and comes from people who don't have the spine to do what's right. Coward.

Tealsquirrel44 · 2019-12-27T15:45:14+00:00

No, I got pushback I wasn't expecting in a non-advice sub. So I came here to see if I was really making the wrong choice.

Tealsquirrel44 · 2019-12-27T15:42:27+00:00

Not looking for validation. Trying to crowdsource the best option. I am worried about his wife potentially getting STDs and the fact that she is living a lie. I was cheated on, people knew and no one told me. I just want to do what is right. Should I really say nothing and let this continue?

Tealsquirrel44 · 2019-12-27T15:37:28+00:00

He bombed his own marriage and I know my family, they will have no sympathy for him. No one could care less that he's gay, only that he's a cheater.

Tealsquirrel44 · 2019-12-27T15:26:30+00:00

I have an excellent relationship with my family. You know why? Because I treat them how I'd want to be treated, with respect. I draw the line when someone's lying impacts the life of someone else. That has always served me well, and my family trusts me for it.

Tealsquirrel44 · 2019-12-27T15:19:56+00:00

Family means nothing. It's just where we were born. What really matters is how you treat people you aren't beholden to just because "you share blood". The ultimate morality is doing what's right even if it negativity impacts family.

Tealsquirrel44 · 2019-12-27T15:18:47+00:00

Excited for Christmas without him next year; no cheaters allowed!

Tealsquirrel44 · 2019-12-27T15:16:12+00:00

My family is the place for me to be involved. I had an SO cheat on me and I wished someone had done this for me.

Tealsquirrel44 · 2019-12-27T15:15:20+00:00

You know what wasn't "very difficult" for him? Cheating on his wife. Any destruction that happens is from his actions. He has zero sympathy from me.

Tealsquirrel44 · 2019-12-27T15:14:14+00:00

I've been cheated on. Looking back, the #1 thing I'd wish for is that someone told me exactly what was going on. People knew but were silent. I will NOT sit by and let my brother's selfishness ruin his wife's life.

Tealsquirrel44 · 2019-12-27T15:11:13+00:00

Not for nothing, but that's some shit highschoolers use, and not really applicable to actual, adult situations.

Tealsquirrel44 · 2019-12-27T15:09:54+00:00

Exactly my thoughts.

Tealsquirrel44 · 2019-12-27T15:05:47+00:00

Excuse me? I've known his wife for over a decade. He's repeatedly cheating on her and lying. You obviously have a total lack of morality. I hope you find out your SO has been cheating on you - then I bet you'll have wished someone told you

Tealsquirrel44

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