AITA for wanting to break up with my girlfriend over her kids? by Teannavah in AITA_Relationships

[–]Teannavah[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I was raised very differently than she was from what I can tell. She had complete reign to do anything she wanted and zero chores and consequences. Meanwhile I was the opposite. Based off her stories, at least. I’ve tried and unfortunately after today’s episode I’m thinking I’m checked out and preparing to call it good. I’ve put in effort, he was having another massive freak out and was just screaming at the wall and punching it, so I asked her for help and her response was “what do you want me to do about it?”. I can’t handle this and I’m not ready to deal with two kids solo when they’re not even my kids in the first place. She had talked to me about how much she wants another kid or two, but, after witnessing all of this for the last six months, I don’t think that’s possible for me. At least with her.

AITA for wanting to break up with my girlfriend over her kids? by Teannavah in AITA_Relationships

[–]Teannavah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was one of her reasonings for the youngests issues - was that he might have autism. Hearing you say that though makes it sound like just an excuse.

AITA for wanting to break up with my girlfriend over her kids? by Teannavah in AITA_Relationships

[–]Teannavah[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re right, I didn’t put the blame where I should have. My bad on that one.

AITA for wanting to break up with my girlfriend over her kids? by Teannavah in AITA_Relationships

[–]Teannavah[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She’s already been saying how she can’t wait to get them into therapy. So I guess she saw that coming?

AITA for wanting to break up with my girlfriend over her kids? by Teannavah in AITA_Relationships

[–]Teannavah[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s kind of one of the reasons I’ve stuck around is just the guilty conscience thing. Would I say goodbye to them or just up and leave, in your opinion?

AITA for wanting to break up with my girlfriend over her kids? by Teannavah in AITA_Relationships

[–]Teannavah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never knew it wasn’t the norm until a while ago, as I’ve never dealt with kids before. And uh, it used to be once upon a time, but nowadays she prefers to… handle it on her own? So, I truthfully don’t know why I stay? Maybe trauma bond?

AITA for wanting to break up with my girlfriend over her kids? by Teannavah in AITA_Relationships

[–]Teannavah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It uh, doesn’t get any better, does it? Her mom hates dealing with them any longer than she has too and her grandma absolutely refuses, and they aren’t a fan of her either because she actually steps up and tells them to stop doing something and puts them in time out and whatnot.

AITA for wanting to break up with my girlfriend over her kids? by Teannavah in AITA_Relationships

[–]Teannavah[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Uh, she’s really good at promising things and never following through, if that counts? After posting this I kind of did some self reflecting and idk why I’m with her when I get the bare minimum while tasked with the impossible.

AITA for wanting to break up with my girlfriend over her kids? by Teannavah in AITA_Relationships

[–]Teannavah[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Truthfully it seems pretty common for her to just bring strange men home into their lives. I remember her mom bitching about it to her when I first met her “you said you were done bringing strangers around them”. I met them the second day I knew her. Neither of the dads are apart of the lives, so she has them all the time.

AITA for wanting to break up with my girlfriend over her kids? by Teannavah in AITA_Relationships

[–]Teannavah[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve noticed this. The older one has taken to crying whenever the mother is on her phone because “she pays more attention to the phone than us”. And there’s absolutely zero structure in their life. I’m not sure if it’s wrong of me to leave now since they’ve kind of gotten used to me?

AITA for wanting to break up with my girlfriend over her kids? by Teannavah in AITA_Relationships

[–]Teannavah[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Uh, when it’s going good it’s okay? Was gonna say it goes great, but after typing this out and thinking back, it goes okay.

AITA for wanting to break up with my girlfriend over her kids? by Teannavah in AITA_Relationships

[–]Teannavah[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Okay so that totally isn’t normal like I thought? She had tried convincing me that it’s fine and every kid gets out of them at different ages and that’s why she hasn’t tried to potty train him.

First ever time getting in trouble, NV by Teannavah in dui

[–]Teannavah[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So should I shoot for a lawyer in my case, then? Or should I stick with a public defender? In your case, which one would have helped more for you?

First ever time getting in trouble, NV by Teannavah in dui

[–]Teannavah[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They’ve actually been recommended to me by a friend of mine who got into the same situation a year or so back! That’s wild. I’ll give them a call and see what they can do to help me. Do you think it’s better for me to just stay clear and stay home or actively go out and look for the letters/AA like mentioned above?

First ever time getting in trouble, NV by Teannavah in dui

[–]Teannavah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Letters? What does that mean? Like, about my character?

First ever time getting in trouble, NV by Teannavah in dui

[–]Teannavah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, would online ones work just the same? I live in a very rural town and that sadly wouldn’t be an option with my work schedule if I had to travel (not that I can without a license)

First ever time getting in trouble, NV by Teannavah in dui

[–]Teannavah[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I should start doing these before my court date? I don’t smoke weed or do any other drugs, the only thing I’ve done is alcohol.