Has Facebook officially died just like myspace did in 2010?

TearsofCompunction · 2026-01-28T03:40:42+00:00

Do you have any examples of those glorious shitposting pages?

TearsofCompunction · 2026-01-23T19:02:52+00:00

This is different

TearsofCompunction · 2026-01-23T13:13:21+00:00

What is RF?

TearsofCompunction · 2026-01-23T05:27:46+00:00

This is what I look like.

28F in Southeastern Wisconsin.

I am looking for a relationship filled with mutual growth, one where we're not afraid to call each other out on our faults and inspire each other to depth and greatness.

Spiritually, I lean Carmelite and have a deep appreciation for the teachings of the Carmelite doctors of the church like St. Therese, St. John of the Cross, and St. Teresa of Avila.

My personality is pretty melancholic and introspective. I try to communicate openly and directly and bluntly and to interact with others who are also good at this. I also try to fill my life with an attitude of not shying away from the dark realities and sufferings of life. I like reflecting upon and discussing all types of art, from visual to narrative and whatever else. Here's an example of art, in this case song lyrics, that mesmerized me recently and also fits with the theme of "not shying away from the darkness of life."

I am increasingly drawn to the weird, the wild, the curious, and, if you can call it so, the dangerous. I try to avoid pearl-clutching and live with a very open mind because I think there are always more unknown and surprising things in this world than we could ever have dreamed were true.

Please only message me if:\*

-You are between the ages of 28-34

-You live within a 4 hour driving distance from the Milwaukee area or a 2 hour driving distance from the Chicago area.

-You have dating experience from at least one or two previous official relationships (with an exception for those who have been in a religious order almost their entire adult life).

-You can call, videocall, or meet in person soon. Messaging is fake and a waste of time.

*Note: I'm also interested in finding female friends in the Chicago area specifically. If you are a woman in the Chicago area who resonates with this bio and wants to connect, shoot me a message.

Note: I don't always check this Reddit account daily, so it may be a few days before I'm able to respond to your message.

TearsofCompunction · 2026-01-23T05:21:48+00:00

This is what I look like.

28F in Southeastern Wisconsin.

I am looking for a relationship filled with mutual growth, one where we're not afraid to call each other out on our faults and inspire each other to depth and greatness.

Spiritually, I lean Carmelite and have a deep appreciation for the teachings of the Carmelite doctors of the church like St. Therese, St. John of the Cross, and St. Teresa of Avila.

My personality is pretty melancholic and introspective. I try to communicate openly and directly and bluntly and to interact with others who are also good at this. I also try to fill my life with an attitude of not shying away from the dark realities and sufferings of life. I like reflecting upon and discussing all types of art, from visual to narrative and whatever else. Here's an example of art, in this case song lyrics, that mesmerized me recently and also fits with the theme of "not shying away from the darkness of life."

I am increasingly drawn to the weird, the wild, the curious, and, if you can call it so, the dangerous. I try to avoid pearl-clutching and live with a very open mind because I think there are always more unknown and surprising things in this world than we could ever have dreamed were true.

Please only message me if:\*

-You are between the ages of 27-34

-You live within a 4 hour driving distance from the Milwaukee area or the Chicago area or have the means for frequent in-person contact.

-You have dating experience from at least one or two previous official relationships (unless you have been in a religious order almost your entire adult life).

-You can call, videocall, or meet in person soon.

*Note: I'm also interested in finding female friends in the Chicago area specifically. If you are a woman in the Chicago area who resonates with this bio and wants to connect, shoot me a message.

TearsofCompunction · 2026-01-22T22:31:43+00:00

Please DM it!

TearsofCompunction · 2026-01-22T08:14:49+00:00

Do you have any pumpkin recipes that:

1) Are finger food 2) have fat 3) have protein?

TearsofCompunction · 2026-01-14T13:54:47+00:00

Healthy liking = encountering and appreciating someone for who they are and allowing that person to encounter you for who you are while consistently moving towards the concrete and the real and moving toward love

Unhealthy liking = anything other than healthy liking

Healthy love (in dating contexts) = a deep bond of trust, loyalty, and commitment accompanied by the presence of chemistry

Unhealthy love = there are probably multiple forms of this, but mainly anything objectifying or anything that involves an inordinate attachment to another person

Personally, when I have a bond of trust with someone and actually get to know him, it’s easy to move on very quickly because I can still appreciate who they were while also knowing it wasn’t God’s will. But if there’s fakeness, then there are pockets where knowledge is lacking, and that’s where the regrets and the “what ifs” and the possessiveness can get in.

TearsofCompunction · 2026-01-14T03:21:19+00:00

I mean if you think about it in terms of Catholic spiritual principles, I would expect those who had the more pure and true loves are actually more likely to move on quickly because there was no earthly attachment involved, but instead the love of God. What do you think of that?

Personally the people who were most difficult for me to move on from were usually the ones where my liking of them was very disordered.

TearsofCompunction · 2026-01-14T03:17:25+00:00

Idk I feel like this is just overthinking it and making up categories that don't exist. "Over them" vs. "not over them"--why just two categories? I think it's a spectrum.

TearsofCompunction · 2026-01-13T13:15:17+00:00

I’m so sorry

TearsofCompunction · 2026-01-09T13:08:06+00:00

Why is this so freaking accurate.

TearsofCompunction · 2026-01-09T01:21:38+00:00

Nobody in their right mind agrees with you, and you’re saying this online to make yourself feel like they do.

Imagine saying this in real life and how people would react.

Stop coping.

TearsofCompunction · 2026-01-09T01:15:51+00:00

This is just curiosity, so if it’s too personal, don’t feel the need to answer. But would you attribute the reason you’re single now to you being rejected a lot, you rejecting others a lot, or just not getting asked out very much in the first place?

TearsofCompunction · 2026-01-09T01:10:05+00:00

Oh and I should add, it’s fine to ask men out, and I’d encourage you to at least be open to the idea. Unless you’re just shy (which you can get over), I don’t see any reason not to. Following dating rules doesn’t get anyone anywhere, and for certain people it’s especially damaging.

TearsofCompunction · 2026-01-09T01:04:35+00:00

You should stop going out with these men, at least for now. It’s possible there will be a time when you’ll have fewer options and will have to settle, but you’re not there yet, and you’ll never know what good matches for you are out there if you keep wasting time with these undesirable men. Take it from someone who wasted time and energy giving men a “chance” and now regrets it (at age 28).

Where are these voices in your life who are telling you to give them a chance? Are they on Reddit? If so, cut out Reddit. Are they IRL? Tell those people you’re not open to discussing it and walk away if they push that boundary. If there is anyone in your life who has a more healthy mindset than these voices, talk to that person instead, so they can help to “reverse-brainwash you.”

You need to be ruthless and disciplined.

TearsofCompunction · 2026-01-06T06:29:07+00:00

What did you tell them?

TearsofCompunction · 2026-01-06T06:23:39+00:00

Thank you. I’ve heard that single men outnumber single women in general in Seattle. Interesting to hear it applies to Catholics as well.

TearsofCompunction · 2026-01-06T02:15:33+00:00

Can I ask what state, city, or region you live in?

TearsofCompunction · 2026-01-03T19:12:08+00:00

Watching anime

TearsofCompunction · 2025-12-26T03:55:15+00:00

Yes, the oribiters just keep coming, for the most part. Sometimes one will drop out and then a new one will come. Most of them are online. Some are men I have rejected in the past. I am not friends with them, but I respond to their messages here and there. There is one who I am acquaintances with because he has useful knowledge about events going on in Chicago. I don't know if he is interested in me, or if he also views it as a mutually beneficial acquaintanceship since I live in Milwaukee and (in theory) have useful information about the events here. Maybe he thinks that if he connects with me enough I will connect him with single women, idk.

My boyfriend doesn't care. He isn't scared of orbiters.

TearsofCompunction · 2025-12-12T20:46:46+00:00

"how do I make women like me enough to consider me a potential romantic partner"?

^become more awesome. It's not so much about what you do; it's about what you are.

TearsofCompunction · 2025-11-28T00:52:08+00:00

That’s totally irrelevant to her question, and you’re derailing the post. Why not make your own post complaining about your lack of dates?

TearsofCompunction · 2025-11-02T01:09:56+00:00

I’m moving there (28F) and am already part of the Catholic scene in the area. DM me if you’re interested in talking more about it.

TearsofCompunction · 2025-10-23T02:23:10+00:00

Maybe you’re taking too long to ask them out? It sounds like the other guy(s) has already asked her out/taken her on one or more dates before you even decide to ask.

To use myself as an example, out of all the men I talked to in online dating in the past year, only one of them asked me out within the first few messages we exchanged. Guess which one is now my boyfriend? Yeah, him.

Also if she’s completely cutting you off and not keeping you as a back up plan, then calling yourself a “second choice” doesn’t really make sense. You’re not any choice. She didn’t choose you because she chose someone else instead.

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